These cases are horrific and the men involved should face the full weight of the law. But a few terrible cases can't tell you how common something is. That's what rates are for.
Take "a family annihilation every 5 days." That's about 73 a year, out of roughly 170 million US males, around 1 in 2.3 million. That's almost exactly the estimated rate of neonaticide, mothers killing newborns on the first day of life, at about 75 a year. Nobody posts a list of those cases and says "stop saying not all women," because everyone understands that a few dozen horrific crimes a year don't describe 170 million people.
Where I'd agree is the group of men cheering and blocking her friends. That's a real problem: peer cultures that enable assault instead of stopping it. That's something men can and should push back on. But "stop saying not all men" asks men to accept guilt for crimes they didn't commit. The ask should be to stop tolerating the men who do.
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u/i_have_a_semicolon 7h ago
These cases are horrific and the men involved should face the full weight of the law. But a few terrible cases can't tell you how common something is. That's what rates are for.
Take "a family annihilation every 5 days." That's about 73 a year, out of roughly 170 million US males, around 1 in 2.3 million. That's almost exactly the estimated rate of neonaticide, mothers killing newborns on the first day of life, at about 75 a year. Nobody posts a list of those cases and says "stop saying not all women," because everyone understands that a few dozen horrific crimes a year don't describe 170 million people.
Where I'd agree is the group of men cheering and blocking her friends. That's a real problem: peer cultures that enable assault instead of stopping it. That's something men can and should push back on. But "stop saying not all men" asks men to accept guilt for crimes they didn't commit. The ask should be to stop tolerating the men who do.