I just started seeing this guy, he’s really fantastic. We instantly clicked and he is huge on foreplay. By the time he took off my panties I was soaked, so wetness isn’t an issue. But no matter what position we tried (other than missionary) I couldn’t take him in.

I’m usually used to around 5 inches, and he’s a really thick 7 inches, so I can’t really take him all the way down to the base like I want to.

He’s been so sweet and concerned and gentle with me, which is anything, makes it more annoying because it makes me want to be a better lover to him in kind.

He doesn’t orgasm from oral (one of my favorite things to give) so PIV is really the only thing that gets him off.

We have such a fun time together… what can I do to get myself used to his size? Or what can we do together to get me used to it that won’t make him soft?

Thanks!

I (25M) have been seeing this girl (24F) for a few weeks now. Went on a few dates, chemistry was great, both of us were super attracted to the other, all that cool jazz

For our third date she came over to my apartment before we had fun in the city. We were getting “frisky” as the kids say and as I was about to go down on her she said “wait! I have to go to the bathroom” I didn’t think anything of it but a few hours later when we were going for seconds she did the same thing.

When I went down on her she said “is it okay?” And I laughed cuz I thought she was flirting and I never heard that one before, but when I could tell she was being serious I said yes and asked why. She said something along the lines of “I got so wet I didn’t want you going down on that” not exactly her words but that sums it up.

To me this was incredibly flattering. I have not had a lot of partners, but is this something that women typically care/think about? Is there something that I should do differently? Thanks !

I’m 36 years old woman, and my crush is 32 years old man, I have been married, did one night stand once, but I have never wanted man this bad, I crave giving him oral (never did it before lol) but now I wanna do that to him, I want him to do things to me, that I never even think of before even when I was married, or was I love, I can feel from his eyes and hand that he can makes me feel happy in bed, I really really really want this man and wanna see him naked, but I’m too shy, what should I do? I’m afraid he will think I’m an easy woman if he knew what I want… but my desires are beyond everything I have ever felt before

Hello I’m new here but I need to know. I (19f) am very new to sex, I’ve had boyfriends before but never felt comfortable sexually until my current partner. I’m trying new things now that I’m comfortable with him. He is very kind and I want him have as much pleasure as I do when I’m with him.

Recently I’ve been trying to give him a blowjob, I’ve tried twice now the first time I was so bad he went flaccid after a few seconds. I’ve learned from my mistakes and the second time I was much better but I was still horrible. I was able to take more in my mouth suck and lick, but I did that for like thirty minutes and he didn’t finished until he jerked himself off. I asked him what I could do better but he was being polite and telling me it was good even though it wasn’t clearly. I need to know what I’m doing wrong and how to give a blow job.

Ive always precummed a lot. If I get hard (and i get hard very easily) for longer than 5 min precum will start to show.. And its not a few drops its a lot more and it stains my underwear. And when I get a handjob it just never stops and leaks so much. For the moment my partners weren't bothered but I am bothered by the constant big stains in my underwears.

What I can do to "stop" it ? Drink less water ?

Its always a mess and when I put my hand in my pants it has dripped everywhere inside

I’m 23F and naturally pretty quiet during sex, even when I’m really enjoying myself. My partner and I have talked about how he finds being vocal really attractive, and I’d love to be a little more vocal myself!

The problem is that moaning and stuff like that just doesn’t happen naturally for me, so I have to make a conscious effort to make noise. Whenever I do, I feel like it sounds forced and fake lol. I have no idea if he actually thinks that, but I get in my head about it and end up feeling awkward.

I’d love to hear from anyone who’s dealt with something like this and figured out how to feel more comfortable and confident being vocal in the bedroom. I just want it to feel more natural instead of like I’m putting on a performance!

i gave my first blowjob a couple months ago and the guy fingered me while i did it and said i was really wet but i didn’t feel particularly aroused so i thought he was just saying that to set the mood but i felt down there and i was soaking so is it just me or does it happen to everyone?

i am 22 and just recently lost my virginity, the thing is: i can never get satisfied, i can never get enough, and this is something that caused immense problem in my relationship so much so we are taking a break. i enjoy having sex for over 10h+, 48h sex marathons are my favorite thing. is that normal or do i have a problem?

I recently told my girlfriend about my urine fetish. At first, she was taken aback, but after thinking it over for a few days, she suggested giving it a try. We’ve tried it twice. The first time, there was very little urine. The second time went better, but the flow still stopped and wouldn’t resume, even though I still felt the urge to pee. Are there any ways to make this work better? I don’t want to drink alcohol, even in small amounts, because I’m concerned it would affect the taste and smell.

My gf(39) was abused by an older family member from when she was about 7 until a late teen. She has had therapy regarding this in her 20s which helped her open up about the abuse with her family and cope/manage triggers.

We've been together for just over 2 years and don't live together. When she's alone she often turns to alcohol to self medicate. It's during these times where she occasionally will open up to me and talk about her abuse. I will generally just listen and be as supportive as possible.

Last weekend there was another instance of this, and she revealed to me a few things. Mainly that whilst she loves having sex with me, she feels guilty and dirty afterwards, every time. And that it feels like it's something she shouldn't be doing. I asked her if it's only with me she has felt that way and she said no, with all her sexual partners as an adult post the abuse she has felt that way afterwards. She feels guilt and immense shame because during her abuse she would orgasm every time, and feels that she would go looking for it because she "enjoyed it". She said she constantly thinks about it and hates herself for it.

I explained to her that she had no control over the reaction of her body and just because she had an orgasm doesn't mean she wanted it or consented to what happened to her.

She also said, that at some times I remind her off her abuser. For context we're completely different rac and ethnicity, I'm short her abuser is tall. But we both wear glasses and are tech savvy, and I believe he's also bald like me. And she said that we eat in similar ways. I got no idea what to make of that tbh.

I feel like she has a lot of unresolved trauma, thoughts and feelings that she's holding inside and possibly needs to let out. But she will only talk about it when drunk basically. The next day when she was sober I asked her if we could have a talk about things and she said later but then I don't want to pressure her and she won't bring it up. She will just carry on as normal as if what she said never happened.

And now, I don't feel comfortable engaging with sex knowing that afterwards she is going to be feeling dirty or guilty. It's a delicate situation but it doesn't feel right.

I have no idea where we go from here, maybe we need joint therapy, or she needs individual therapy again. I don't know, but the things she told me she said she didn't tell her therapist. So maybe she didn't work through everything she needed to if there were some things she didn't disclose.

I don't really have a specific question but any advice/thoughts welcomed. Thanks for reading if you got this far.

TLDR: Gf was abused as a child/teen by a family member, and has felt dirty after having sex ever since. Discloses things while drunk, doesn't want to talk about it sober

I'm having a ho phase

So far I've mainly been having sex with women (as a woman) and doing low-risk activities. But next month I want to start sleeping with men and doing more high-risk activities (mainly PIV)

I think it'd be fun to sleep with a lot of different guys. Maybe multiple in a week, if I can find enough who are willing

The recommendation for very sexually active people is to get tested once every 3-6 months. But is that really enough if I'm sleeping with that many different people? I plan to use condoms with everyone, but I know that doesn't protect you from everything

I could get tested in between each new guy. But since you have to wait a week for results, that'd _really_ slow down the pace

I’m 21M and a virgin. I like the idea of the closeness with someone that comes with sex, but the idea of actually participating in it seems really uncomfortable and honestly kind of disgusting.

I don’t think I’m asexual, but sex isn’t something really on my radar. It’s like, I want it on the table as a possibility, but I don’t really feel much of a want or a need to indulge in it.

And like what do you even do afterwards? Like you go from such a personal moment to just being normal again? How do you bridge that moment?

Hi, me 17(M) and my girlfriend 16, have madeout a like twice in the past, we very recently started dating, and one makeout sesh was about an hour, but i did not get an erection during it, i dont have any trouble getting erections during masturbating or after waking up or to thoughts of her, but during the act itself, i wonder if this is erectile dysfunction and would continue, how should i tackle this?

I (28f) love my husband (33m) dearly. I kind of feel like im broken. We have sex maybe once a month, recently due to mental health on both sides it's been a few months, maybe 2? The thing is, im okay with that? It's not like I hate sex, I just have no desire. Sometimes it just kind of feels like a chore. My husband and I are happy, though i dont really seen any initiation from him. Ive talked to him to see if he is sexually happy and he has said yes. Ive mention that maybe we should try to have it more often even if it's small like twice a month but nothing has ever come from it.

But here is where i feel like im broken or like something is wrong with me. Though I dont have a high sex drive I enjoy reading or writing smut. And im just content with that and I feel like I shouldnt be? I feel like my libido used to be higher but it's fallen drastically over the years. We have had a lot happen (moving, getting married, starting a new job, being the only finacial supporter). As dumb as this sounds, is it okay to feel like this? I kind of feel like i shouldnt be content or feel like a bad wife.

I plan on talking to my therapist over it but ive really been thinking hard on it since it has been bothering me so much. We used to use so many toys and made it fun, now I just have no mental capacity to. I feel like it boils down to my gusabnd struggling to get a job. When he does find small gigs to get money he always treats me. Buys me flowers, surprises me, etc and in moments like that i feel my libido spike. I just kinda feel like a mess​ and would love advice or hear from anyone who felt the same way

Girlfriend likes to be more submissive in bed, and would like me to be more dominant. Problem is that I'm not. I just don't care about giving commands, or dirty talk at all, and they are basically boner killers for me.

Upon googling, Google mentions things like calm commands like "get on all fours" and shit, but I just flat out don't care about what position we are in. Like at all. Nor do I care about what acts were doing, if it's oral or piv or anal or whatever. I'm just fine with whatever and rarely feel a need to alter positions unless specifically requested. It doesn't seem make or break, but I would like to leave my partner more fulfilled.

Anybody out there like me have a partner that likes dominant partners, but is really not? How did you tackle this issue?

i’m 23 and so is my bf, but he has more sexual experience than me, not like a super high body count but i’m a virgin so more than me still. i’ve only given him a blowjob twice and he says he really likes it but i guess i get insecure because im new to it like is he being honest?

the first time we were in the cinema (nobody else was there) and i was doing it for 30 mins but because it was the first time i got very sore and didn’t really know what i was doing entirely and he didn’t come. i think also he didn’t because the way i was positioned, there just wasn’t a lot of space and maybe we wouldve made a mess if he came if i didn’t swallow it properly yknow. i got his dick so wet though with my saliva then just naturally and he really liked that. and he seemed to really like it regardless of coming like he told me he enjoyed it a lot.

anyways the second time was in his car and we also didn’t have a lot of room but i was able to make him come this time. i searched up some more tutorials on it, like what to do if you’re jaw gets sore and i realized i could rub his dick against my face when i’m taking a break etc. and i also just tried to make more noise like moan myself because i was really turned on and i also tried to make more noise sucking it. i focused more on the tip as well instead of just like taking it fully. and i was trying to be more enthusiastic like the entire week i was telling him about how i wanted to suck him again. but in the moment i got kind of shy so it was hard to do that confidently then but i tried to say dirty talk when i could.

he really liked the second time more i think since he did come, but i think he was also more relaxed since we had more room than before and i could swallow it this time. and he said im really good at it and like even the first time i did it, he said he was surprised it was my first time. idk if hes just saying this to boost my ego though but i guess i just feel insecure like am i really even good at it? i’ve been trying my best and trying to learn but i cant like deep throat it or things like that yet for example, hes really big and i have a small mouth so i can only take so much.

he said too that he wished i wasnt so good at them because now he wants them from me more. guys idk is it possible to be good at head without a lot of experience still 😓. it makes me feel good to hear this of course but i wonder if im really doing things right or if hes just saying all this?

If you google sebaceous cyst you will get a very disturbing set of images. The 2 on my scrotum literally look like ingrown hairs/pimples and appeared at a time when no sex was being had. I literally just thought it was a pimple until it inevitable didn’t go away I’ve had for about 8 months. Doctor told me I’m good. Even got tested and obviously clean. Would this deter a potential partner. Should I even say anything before considering they look like just ingrown hairs or something of the sort. Looking to hear from people with experience or women, if this was something a potential hookup had, how would it like to be communicated to you?

So we have been together for a month now,and she always text invites me over to her and wants physical contact,last time we even slept together(without the sex part).

But besides from kissing we didn't go any much further,since we are both shy without alcohol.

Hi everyone!

I’m wondering whether the Yarosi Curve has a travel mode or travel lock to prevent it from accidentally turning on inside a bag or suitcase.

If it does, how do you activate it? If not, what’s the best way to prevent it from accidentally switching on while travelling?

Thanks!

So, in a previous post, I talked about how I thought I had a fetish that was preventing me from having sex with my girlfriend. I think I found the solution.
Even though i STILL love the idea of exchanging nudes with randoms and it might be a fetish or something, I found out that if I just stop thinking about everything I go trough everyday as an anxious ball of nerves, I can relax and have sex, even if I masturbate sometimes (I wasn’t masturbating as a sort of punishment to myself for not being able to have sex). So yeah that’s it, I’m just trying to be kinder to myself, I think it might work for other areas of my life too.

I’ve been on a birth control pill for quite a while now and am comfortable with it. I’m becoming sexually active again after a couple years hiatus (I take it primarily for medical reasons) and I would feel more secure with a second method of birth control. However, I’m not really a fan of condoms. I’ve used them in the past, but I’m now also on an antidepressant that reduces my natural lubrication quite a bit and the sensitivity down there just a little bit. At the same time, I find that condoms also seem to need extra lube and suck up my natural lubricant. As a result, I don’t enjoy intercourse with condoms anymore, even though they used to be fine in the past. Everything quickly dries out, there’s too much friction and nothing will move. It’s uncomfortable and not pleasurable, to say the least.

Are there any other secondary birth control methods that can be used with the combination pill other than condoms? I know spermicide is technically one but I’ve only ever heard of it being used with condoms.

Please do not recommend a specific brand or type of condoms to try instead, suggest getting off the pill, or to look into a different antidepressant. These are not viable options for me and you do not know my entire medical situation. If there’s no other methods, just say so. Thank you!