I heard if you don't discipline your kids the world will do it for you and the world is harsher because they have no love for your kids. So far I have not seen this proven wrong. Discipline should be discipline though, not abuse.
Edit: You can discipline your kids through a stern talking to, cutting off allowances, grounding, allowing more chores or whatever is apt. discipline should be discipline though, not abuse.
The vast majority of people who spank or hit their kids do it because they’re angry in the moment. I’ve never seen anyone coolly and thoughtfully apply corporal punishment to their children.
Sister in law bear the fuck out of her kids and they're all successful. I tried to be kind and my kids are mid. Although we have much better relationships.
From my experience (and anecdotal evidence) the abuse leaves you with a hole from feeling like you are unwanted/unloved.
As a child some can rationalize it away by saying 'if I was X they would love me'. And if the parents stressors where about money, I can see how the kids response will be 'i need money to be loved'. So I can see how it can create an environment where a child has deep drive to succeed.
Alternatively, kids might just go, 'im not loveable' or not build the drive. In which case the hole is still there, and still hurts, so you try and mask it with... something.
The end result is adults who aren't complete until they build it for themselves.
I often feel the billionaires of the world are like the first example, sad on the inside because they didn't get enough love, but stupid and rich in the outside while they try and fill the hole. They still suck though.
They still have time. Their cousins are all doing all of the "right things" valedictorian and such. Mine are chill. Mid is probably harsh. Just life goals that are their own instead what what they are " supposed " to do.
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u/Lobster15s 1d ago edited 22h ago
I heard if you don't discipline your kids the world will do it for you and the world is harsher because they have no love for your kids. So far I have not seen this proven wrong. Discipline should be discipline though, not abuse.
Edit: You can discipline your kids through a stern talking to, cutting off allowances, grounding, allowing more chores or whatever is apt. discipline should be discipline though, not abuse.