r/amiugly • u/Bubbly_Gap_9421 • 3h ago
I could show worse (23f)
Huge body dysmorphia based on real symptoms. Years of insecurities since a child has lead me socially anxious, angry at myself and lack of care for myself.
I despise how I look, have hypermobile jaw tensions around jaw nose teeth lips have had people tell me im ugly. Have had people tell me im pretty out of pettiness because I look sad or upset.
I hide myself with scarfs, hide my jaw yes it's horrible and I don't know what to do, I dont care anymore about fixing it, growing up didn't fix it so it's what I'm stuck with.
Recovered 10 months Anorexia, this is how I look after 10 months recovery which is quite early but I look already heavier than before
As I've said huge body dysmorphia I cannot function every day because of it, I ask everyone how I look and I obsessively look at any reflection around me sometimes avoiding it in days where I feel upset.
I know I'm somehow ugly I've made posts before on here last year, also made last month, but I can never shake off the feeling, maybe I need advice im not sure anymore, I know I got good eyes or something but not really cuz Its blue underneath and I look quite unappealing every day its upseting me so much and ruining my entire days even happy days.
Also pls don't use photos im currently going through mental health issues, I promise I'm really kind in real life :(
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u/phisterU 3h ago
Sounds like you're depressed. You've chosen as many bad photos as you can to affirm your inner narrative. You need to talk to someone.
You're not ugly, you're average like me. I've seen a lot uglier people than you and I've seen a lot prettier than you. You just lack confidence to bring yourself up a few notches.
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u/Bubbly_Gap_9421 3h ago
No im definitely ugly and I take pictures to show what's wrong with my face
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u/AlexBlaise 52m ago
You say in the OP you have body dysmorphia. The logical conclusion is you're wrong and the opinions of strangers online who have nothing to gain by lying to you are a lot closer to the truth.
Try not to let the disordered thinking win. I hope this can help you reason with yourself and realize you're not ugly. If these are the worst pictures of you and anonymous strangers still say you're not ugly, you're not ugly.
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u/seanc6441 3h ago
Pretty even with the quirks. Like you're genuinely attractive just imagine you have some confidence and worked on your mental health and self care.
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u/thebigjimmyd 3h ago
You look pretty good in pic 5. But personally I'd never approach anyone who looked like they feel so miserable. If you're in eating disorder recovery I assume you're in therapy or would hope so. You need to figure something out about improving your self esteem bc a winning personality on a girl goes a lot further with guys than you think.
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u/Bubbly_Gap_9421 3h ago
Whats winning personality? To answer no im not going through therapy.
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u/thebigjimmyd 3h ago
It's a personality that's bright and cheery. One people want to be around bc you brighten their day. Most people don't want to be around someone that's always down in the dumps and that's what your facial expressions are giving off. I hope you find a therapist that can help you feel better. You'd have a lot going for you.
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u/Bubbly_Gap_9421 3h ago
Oh I try to be happy I am happy at home, in public im more reserved and shy
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u/SirOk4593 2h ago
Dont take this the wrong way, but for someone who posted pretty much the worst possible pictures of themselves, youre actually extremely, genuinely pretty. I would say just work on some self care ❤️
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u/Bubbly_Gap_9421 2h ago
I've got worse and people irl can see it
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u/SirOk4593 2h ago
Based on what I see, im 28, and if I saw you in a bar and you had even a bit of a smile I would definitely approach you, like I said, youre just naturally pretty, from what I can tell at least
Edit: Also if you're worried about your jaw maybe see a dentist and try braces, lots of girls still look great with braces
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u/Late-Insurance2817 3h ago
I personally think you have an attractive face. A light makeup look with your hair done and less sadness in your face you’d show your attractiveness more.
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u/flyingfoxtrot_ 2h ago
I promise you, you're by no means hideous. You mostly just look very sad, and I'm so sorry you feel so bad about yourself. You don't deserve that.
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u/Sad_Web6464 1h ago
you're not ugly, find your personal style, invest into make up + skin/hair care and you'll feel 10x better and more confident. PLEASEE work on your confidence, because I promise you that's what's holding you back
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u/Affectionate-Ad8873 3h ago
Not ugly. Just average from a genera standpoint. I, personally, find you attractive.
Now, as for the whole dysmorphia I have some advice, firstly self esteem is a big player here. If you call yourself ugly and obsess over your looks then that’s what’s gonna happen. You’re conditioning yourself to think negatively about yourself
Now for some more analysis. Your beautiful eyes do the lifting, and yes the jawline is below average. But that doesent matter as much as you’d think. The fact that you’re skinny is a double edge sword, I do think you’d benefit from putting on more weight.
For the self improvement section: I would suggest putting on more weight, firstly since that would do well. Weight and exercise in the intentional bodybuilding aspect. The gym has helped me tons and it will help you as well. Hair is good but could be better unsure how, and that’s about it. Honestly? Looks like you need some more self esteem and confidence rather than physical improvement.
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u/Bubbly_Gap_9421 3h ago
What can I do with my jaw, i have incorrect bite with my teeth but never had braces or anything that helps my bite and my mouth to feel less pressure
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u/Affectionate-Ad8873 3h ago
Braves could work they were out on me for secondary reasons. Jawline is mostly genetic, sorry, that’s a lighter issue for me as well. But the way I improved it is as follows: diet and losing weight means less face fat means sharper jaw, but you already are skinny enough to max on that aspect. I would instead recommend doing facial exercises, like the ones Japanese people do. Or taking jawline gum which may or may not work, braces is DEFINITELY a step in the right direction and smth I had never thought of. Also sont ignore the self esteem bit you are even doing it as you reply to comments here!
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u/Kinky_Imagination 3h ago
I'm sorry that your going through these things. From my eyes, I think you look lovely.
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u/Bubbly_Gap_9421 3h ago
Maybe okayish but I struggle with my face every day so I can't really look at it thar aay
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u/Killerxorg 3h ago
I think you're pretty, but going through some health or stress related issues.
Are you fine? Please take care of yourself first, then everything will fall in place.
Edit- sorry I didn't read the complete post and commented solely based on pictures.
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u/UnderThat 2h ago
You are not ugly. That doesn’t mean you are pretty. There is absolutely nothing wrong with you.
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u/alceanu 49m ago
Not ugly. Your eyes + eyebrows are about as good as it gets imo, feels like I'm looking into a puma's eyes. That's something you have that most people don't and wish they did. What do you mean your eyes are 'blue underneath'?
Regarding the jaw, it's not as big a deal as you may feel you have to think. Otherwise consider seeing an orthodontist for a comprehensive opinion, and definitely if you're getting actual teeth crowding issues. Then consider seeing a counsellor, and then if you still insist, maybe a maxillo-/craniofacial surgeon. Ideally in that order, and hopefully without the plastic surgeon.
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u/Useful-Emu-3369 36m ago
I know it’s really hard, but the best thing to do is to feel confident. It’s literally fake it till you make it. I don’t expect you to be able to that instantly. I used to hate myself. I got lucky and was able to break free of that cycle and in only a few years thanks to a good support system of friends. But I don’t think you’ll find the help you need on Reddit. You’re really not ugly, try to smile more (I know that can also be hard, but I’ll be proud of you if you try!) find a support system that helps you build confidence. Either good friends, family that get you, or a therapist to help you come out of the shell you’re in. I hope you see yourself for who you truly are!
Best of wishes!
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u/Ok-Lychee-8278 18m ago
Bom, eu me casaria com você.
Mas agora falando sério sobre oq melhorar, acredito que um aparelho dentário ajudaria muito, tanto na sua saúde, tanto esteticamente. A 2° opção seria também procurar melhorar a alimentação e ganhar mais massa corporal. E por último e muito importante, uma terapia psicológica e apoio emocional pra ajudar no processo de tratar a dismofia.
Enfim, é isso, melhoras!
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u/xander081684 11m ago
Bet. Show your worse. Nothing you posted is ugly
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u/thermalbooty 3h ago
BEAUTIFUL. your jaw looks normal and fine.
but nothing any of us say will help your bd and you know that. earnestly, as someone who’s been there(also 23f) idk what to tell you except that you’re more than your body and nobody else is thinking about it as much as you do. you don’t need to be beautiful to live a happy meaningful life. that being said, and i repeat, you are beautiful.
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u/Due-Field8831 3h ago
You're pretty hot I think.
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u/Bubbly_Gap_9421 3h ago
If u see me irl you would think I look horrible
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u/Due-Field8831 3h ago
I doubt that. I like the shape of your face, and that doesn't change whether it be a photo or in person. In my opinion.
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u/Bubbly_Gap_9421 3h ago
What do you mean shape
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u/Due-Field8831 3h ago
I like your jaw line. The proportions of your face are perfect in my eyes. It just flows well together.
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u/seanc6441 3h ago edited 3h ago
You've shown us a lot of angles. You look attractive you just cannot except it. You're far from perfect, but definitely attractive/hot/pretty to some of us.
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u/Fadedjade27 2h ago
You look like the female young version of Chris cooper.
No you’re not ugly. You look miserable though.
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