Last weekend I was out of town for work and bored out of my skull. Opened Grindr after dinner. Couple hits me up. Mid-30s. Bearded one (M) has a thick heavy cock and that calm dominant energy. Other one (B) is leaner, quieter, already hard in his pics. They say exactly what they want. M wants to edge a slut for a long time. B wants to watch the whole thing and then use my mouth. No kissing. No reciprocity required. Just me getting ruined.

I was stupid horny so I went. Hotel room. They were hotter in person. M’s cock already looked fat and heavy behind his shorts. B just stared at me like he was already deciding how he was going to face-fuck me later.

Barely any talking. M tells me to strip and get in the bathroom. I sit on the edge of the tub. He pours a lot of lube on my cock and starts stroking slow. Not trying to get me off. Just working me. Every time I get close he stops completely, squeezes the base hard, and holds me there while I twitch and drip. Pre-cum keeps leaking out in long clear strings. He smears it all over the head and under the ridge, then goes back to that slow tight stroke that makes my thighs shake.

He keeps me like that for a long time. My cock is dark red and shiny and constantly leaking. I’m breathing hard and making these pathetic little sounds. A few times I actually beg. He just smiles and says “not yet, slut” and goes back to edging me. Sometimes he just holds my cock in his fist and stares at the head while it pulses and drools. Sometimes he slaps it lightly against his palm so it bounces and more pre-cum flies off. My balls are tight and aching. My hole is clenching on nothing.

B is standing in the doorway the whole time, fully hard, stroking himself slow while he watches me get destroyed. Every time I look over he locks eyes with me and keeps jacking, never speeding up, just enjoying the show.

After what had to be close to two hours I’m a mess. Legs shaking. Cock so sensitive it hurts when he touches it. Pre-cum running down my balls and onto the tub. M finally decides I’m broken enough. He stands me up, bends me over the sink, and pushes that thick cock into my hole in one slow push. I’m so worked up I take it easy. He fucks me deep and steady while reaching around to keep edging my cock. Every time I get close he stops stroking and just holds the base while he keeps burying himself in my ass. I’m moaning like a whore and dripping all over the floor.

When he finally lets me cum it’s violent. My whole body locks up and I shoot hard, thick ropes hitting the sink and the mirror while he keeps fucking me through it. My hole is spasming around his cock. He doesn’t stop. He just keeps using me until he pulls out, strokes himself a few times, and paints my back and hole with his load. Warm and heavy.

Then B steps in, pushes me down to my knees, and shoves his cock down my throat. He fucks my face hard and fast while I’m still shaking from the orgasm. Spit and cum and pre-cum running down my chin. He holds me there when he cums, cock pulsing on my tongue, filling my mouth until it leaks out the corners. He makes me swallow most of it.

They clean me up a little, give me water, and I leave. No numbers. Just a quiet “good boy” from M and a nod from B.

I’ve jerked off to it every single day since. The part that wrecks me is how patient M was. How he treated my orgasm like something he completely owned. I’ve never been edged that long or that deliberately. My cock still twitches when I think about how much I leaked for him.

That’s it. Roast me or ask whatever.

Yesterday I got blackout drunk and called my gay best friend and told him that I love him. I don't know why I did that but I always get super affectionate when I'm drunk. Worst part - I don't remember what I said. I just got a text from him the next day, that his feelings are mutual.
He's a great guy and all and as a great personality.
Problem: I'm not gay.
Need advice on what to do.

I'll start off with this by saying. We're all different, if my opinion is completely different to yours, that is absolutely valid.

Whenever I go to gay events/gay clubs/gay bars etc... I enjoy the attention or the groping. I know we're at a point where everything that we don't explicitly say "yes that is ok" nowadays can be seen as 'sexual assault'.

PERSONALLY, I don't believe in that sentiment, FOR ME. I go to gay clubs in a vest, short shorts, a harness, whatever... It's an advert for attention. I want to be approached, I enjoy walking through the crowd and getting a cheeky grope here and there.

I was a super ugly teenager, I had that "ugly guy" mindset up until my late 20s where i started going gym, growing a beard etc... I then suddenly started getting the attention, the words of affirmation, the gawking. It felt great.

So now when I go into these bars and clubs with the confidence I have now, I enjoy that attention and I hate the fact I'm supposed to feel bad about enjoying that.

I will repeat. This is just me and my experience. You're completely valid in yours and what you don't like. But I will continue to enjoy it.

So me a horny 18 year old is currently sat by a pool with loads of guys shirtless with their dick prints showing very obviously showing through their trunks and I have been hard for over an hour! this is a dream and a nightmare at the same time as I can’t move or my boner will show and I can’t deal with it as their is not a private place to do it, and it’s the fit swimmers etc out and they are fucking incredible! Anyone else have the same love hate realationship with pools?

Sometimes you just gotta blow your bf in the truck before meeting his parents for lunch so he can look guilty and bothered yet oddly relaxed hahaha

Hello,

I found a boyfriend, and I cant describe how happy I feel, the best feeling of my life.

I hope you all find your boyfriend.

I see the world with different eyes; oh my God, I'm happy.

Tbh I don’t even respond to these messages because they irritate me so much. If I didn’t have pics I’m asking for alrdy up I’ll send it to the guy first then ask,Not show up with a blank profile demanding pics from someone when I don’t have any up myself

Anyone else share this opinion?

In my opinion the worst ones are the guys who insist you come to them and then still make you prove you’re actually there.

You agree to go to their place. You drive over. You message when you’re close. And instead of just opening the door they start demanding live pics of the building, the street, the entrance, whatever. Like you’re applying for entry to a secure facility instead of showing up for a hookup.

When you push back they hit you with “it’s not that hard to just send a picture.” No, it’s not that hard. But it’s also not that hard for them to walk to their own door and open it. They have zero right to demand extra shit when they haven’t done a single thing. You’re the one who left the house, did the driving, used the gas, dealt with traffic. They’re just sitting at home doing absolutely nothing and still acting like they need multiple layers of verification before they let you in. It’s lazy and entitled as hell.

The other type that pisses me off just as much are the ones who live far away and still message you expecting you to drive to them. They’ll keep pushing “come over” even though it’s a long trip for you and nothing for them. If you’re that desperate for company, get in your own car and come to me. Don’t sit there and try to guilt or nag someone else into doing all the work.

And half the time when you tell them to come to you instead, they either stop answering completely or hit you with “I don’t have a license” or “I don’t have a car.” So they can demand you drive across town, but the second the effort is on them they suddenly have every excuse in the book.

Anyone else have a type they think is worse, or am I alone in hating these ones the most?

Ive always precummed a lot. If I get hard (and i get hard very easily) for longer than 5 min precum will start to show.. And its not a few drops its a lot more and it stains my underwear. And when I get a handjob it just never stops and leaks so much. For the moment my partners weren't bothered but I am bothered by the constant big stains in my underwears.

What I can do to "stop" it ? Drink less water ?

Its always a mess and when I put my hand in my pants it has dripped everywhere inside

How has your size affected your life, for better and worse? I’ve definitely had some mixed experiences with being this size, feel free to message me if you want more detail/stories

Heyo, to provide a little bit of background for myself, I’m a 22 year old college senior, short king with a twunk build, and very well endowed (forgive the self-promotion but if a guy with a big ass sees this I gotta promote myself lol).

And pretty much I’ve always known I’m an ass man. I’ve always been Beefy muscular guys with huge asses, whether it be short kings, tall guys, DILFs, guys my age, totally my type.

Like whenever I’m out and about and see a guy who fits that description I literally can’t help but swoon. The sad part is however, it seems like when it comes to Grindr or other dating apps guys like that are rare. I’ve met a good few on apps and I’ve seen a good bit out in the city but darn I do wish guys like that were more common.

Do any other ass lovers suffer from the frustration of trying to find guys like that? 😭But I’m also happy to talk about how amazing caked up guys are as well lol.

Have you ever been turned off by the way a guy talks about sex?

There's a new gay friend I've made over the past year. He's cute and very smart. (He also in an open relationship with a partner.) He's made it clear that he finds me attractive and would hook up with me. But here's the thing: He talks a LOT about guys he's hooked up with, identifying them by name and getting very graphic about what he did with them. Last night, he was telling a group of ~7 of us all about how he ate this guy's ass. It's pretty obvious that he likes to try to shock or titillate people by how graphic he gets. It's a way for him to be the center of attention. And that's fine. It's his choice.

But the more I hear him talk about guys he's hooked up with, the less I want to be one of them. I don't want to be talked about that way. I think some things should still be private. Does that make me a prude or too old-fashioned?

Lately i've been interested in hardcore punk from the 80s. It's so loud and aggressive, it's great music to crank up during a workout or just driving to the supermarket. Anyway, occasionally I'll run into a song like "New York" by the Sex Pistols referring to the band New York Dolls as "You dumb little f*ggots" or The Adolescents singing "No way do I want to live in a world that's gay". A lot of old rap is like this too. Eminem was accused of being anti-gay, I remember.

I'm on the fence, if they're going out of their way to say "kill the f*gs" that crosses the line, but otherwise I'm just mildly annoyed at their ignorance.

if you have a boyfriend or partner right now?

This happened a few months ago, but he just told me now. For the past months he has been ignoring me around friends, I essentially felt invisible to him in group settings and it was hurtful. I told him a few times but he said "I don't notice that, I think I do well to talk to everyone there but I will try to be mindful"

He's now confessed to me that he has been treating me this way because he resents the fact I rejected him. I didn't understand what rejection he was talking about until he told me. A month into dating, there was a weekend where I left our college town to housesit for my parents (mainly their dogs) while they went on a weekend trip. My boyfriend had asked me last minute if he could come, and while I wanted him to, I knew it was too late to ask my parents. I didn't feel comfortable bringing a stranger into their home, because they still hadn't met him. I told him this and he seemed fine with it at the time, but I didn't realize it was a deep rejection to him deep down.

I felt really bad and apologized to him, and comforted him that I would always want him around me. I wish he told me instead of silently treating me worse in retaliation though. Am I being a big idiot here? Should I have known that it was going to be an unfair rejection?

I've loved my ex deeply and given him everything emotionally, but he never seemed to reciprocate my feelings the way I wanted him to.

Today, I hooked up with someone new. During our conversation, he told me about his boyfriend, who has hurt him by seeing other people. Despite everything, this man still cares deeply about him.

At one point, he called his boyfriend to check on him. The gentleness in his voice, the affection, the way he spoke to him - it was beautiful.

And I found myself falling for him right there.

I realized that what I wanted all along was exactly what I was witnessing: someone who genuinely cares, shows affection, and makes their partner feel loved.

The irony is that I spent so long longing for this kind of love from my ex, only to witness it being given so naturally to someone else by a man I've just met.

I know he has a boyfriend, and I barely know him. I'm not expecting anything from him. I just feel overwhelmed by the realization of how deeply I want this kind of love.

i’ve bottomed all my life and i’ve always found myself much more eager and much more satisfied with avarage dicks or in general dicks that weren’t considered big, on the other hand when i went with people who had big/huge sizes i found myself mostly in pain and no matter how much i prep forehand i can never enjoy going out with someone who’s very big.

I (M30) and my boyfriend (M28) have known each other for about 10 years now and have been dating for the past 1.5 years. We started off as friends in a small rural town and I originally had no interest in him at all, he wasn't my type, just basically saw him strictly as a friend. We talked to each other almost every day.

During this time, I would always let him fool around with me. He would constantly love to give me blowjobs and would always let me top him all the time, no questions asked. He couldn't keep his hands off me.​ I am a verse top, but he already knew this and was okay with it. During our time as friends, he would love to hear the stories and see the photos/videos of me sexually with other men. It would get him off so much. He would start shaking whenever we would get in the same bed, that's how crazy he was over me.

About 2 years ago, out of nowhere, I fell really hard for him. I had feelings towards him I've never felt before. He gave me so much comfort and safety. This is a man I can trust with my entire life. I never have to worry about him going behind my back and cheating. Everything in our life is great. There is just one big problem. Our sex life sucks. I have not topped him since we have started dating. He would always make excuses about having some rash/cut down there, how it's way too much work for him, how he doesn't really like to bottom..... Meanwhile I, as a verse top, have let him top me about 10 times already. It doesn't seem fair. We are long distance and will go about 1-2 months without seeing each other. The first night he is all over me, wanting to touch my body and give me blowjobs, and then it's like the sexual appetite from him disappears. I've never been in a relationship where I go so long without seeing my partner and we spend a whole week together and only the first night is whenever we are intimate... He suffers from Aspergers syndrome and ​is autistic. My libido is crazy high compared to his. He is such a good man, but my god we are boring in the bedroom. The spark that he used to have over me sexually just isn't there anymore. He says he is not watching porn and when he does, it's of me. I don't want to be open because it's not what I believe in (I'm monogamous) plus it would tear him to pieces.... but I don't know what to do here and need another humans advice, please.

I have brought this up to him several times and it's always the same excuses with nothing being fixed. ​​He is such a good man to me, but I am miserable sexually.

Does anyone have a group of make friends where they are free to talk about or even openly show off and compare their penises?

Growing up, my only real problem was being gay. I hated myself, I thought I was going to hell, and I was terrified of anyone finding out. The usual gay youth experience, I guess.

A couple of days ago I was on the phone with my twin and memories of our teenage years came up. He got nostalgic about how good those days were, though he complained that our parents were too strict and focused on academics, and that we missed out on a few things because of it. I just said yes, like I always do, because I didn't want him asking why I was miserable.

But while my brother had multiple girlfriends and enjoyed football, I had to pretend to date twice and join the football team with him, just so I wouldn't seem less masculine or less straight. I even believed I could pray it away, and I thought doing "manly" things was part of a conversion program I'd found on my own. What I'm trying to say is that my brother regrets missing out on a few things because our parents were strict, but I missed out on so much more, as many of us do.

I am not really religious so I believe we only get one life and I cannot help imagining how much more happier and successful I would have been if I do not have to deal with all of this on a daily basis.

Had a really intense experience yesterday and it made me curious about the other side of it.

I’m 21 and met a bottom on Grindr (he’s 2 years older). He gave me the best head I’ve ever had. He started by lubing me up and said he wanted to go for a long time, so he told me to warn him whenever I got close so he could slow down or pull off. He kept eye contact the whole time, made it very sloppy, and kept switching between deepthroating and licking/kissing my balls, thighs, and the area around my dick. He was gagging pretty hard at points and kept taking me deep.

The pleasure was hitting me so hard that I started getting aggressive — I was holding his head, choking him a bit for deeper access, and thrusting faster in between while he was going at it. What stood out was how much he seemed to enjoy me enjoying it. He kept saying it was a good feeling that I was into it, and whenever I praised his mouth or how good it felt, he got even more into it. He edged me for a long time before finally letting me finish in his mouth and swallowing. When I came I was pretty much gone — eye-rolling, body shaking, the works. Afterward he said the pleasure was mutual and that he gets off on the other person feeling good.

So my question for bottoms (or vers guys who like giving head): when a top is clearly overwhelmed by what you’re doing — eye-rolling, making sounds, praising your blowjob and deepthroat skills, getting a bit rough/aggressive with your head, visibly struggling not to cum — how does that feel for you? Does it give you a sense of pride or satisfaction knowing your mouth is doing that to him and that he doesn’t want it to stop? Or is it more about the act itself and the visual/audio feedback is just a nice bonus?

I’m genuinely curious because I rarely meet guys who seem that dedicated and tuned into the top’s reactions. Would love to hear from people who actually enjoy giving head what goes through your head in those moments.

Title pretty much explains it, just feeling dumb and have no one to talk about it with. I work in healthcare so I know I’ll be okay. I guess I’m just having a hard time accepting it and that I’ll have it the rest of my life. To be honest I don’t know why I’m writing this post, Just feeling like I needed to tell someone.

Edit : just wanted to thank everyone that reached out or left their own experience in the replies. Helps to know I’m not alone going through this ❤️

For those who have lived in both the nations, how fo they compare? Which nation do you think is better for gay folks who like to meet new people?

I am asking to decide my future immigration attempts (legal) lol.