My brother and I were having a completely normal conversation about his kid the other night. His son is 9, we were talking about school, whatever weird thing he's obsessed with this week, whether he’s going to stick with soccer. Nothing serious
Then my brother just casually goes, “You know, if he ever turns out gay, I want him to know he can call you before anybody else if he needs to.”
I laughed at first because I thought he was making a designated gay uncle joke or something, but he was completely serious.
He said obviously he’d want his son to come to him and his wife too, but he also knows there are probably things a teenager isn't gonna want to ask his parents about. Dating, sex, coming out, getting rejected, whatever. He basically said, “You’ve already lived through all of that. I’d rather he have someone who gets it than sit alone Googling everything at 2am.”
That got me. Memories and feelings that I had already forgotten came back to me for a sec.
When I was 14 or 15, I would have given basically anything to have one adult I knew was safe to ask this stuff.
They wouldn't even have needed to know everything. Just someone I could ask “is this normal?” without first having to calculate whether admitting why I was asking would blow up my entire life.
I learned most of it in random pieces.
Back in my day, there were no forums (when they appeared, the amount of information really did increase), so I did whatever I could find without anyone noticing, making stupid assumptions because I had nobody older to correct me. There were already a lot queer communites irl, but when you're a teenager, you don't know where to find them, and it's incredibly awkward you know.
I had good parents, too. That's probably the part that still gets me. I wasn't growing up in some awful household. I was just scared as hell to say anything.
So hearing my straight brother casually say that if his kid ever needs that person, he wants it to be me... fuck.
His son might grow up completely straight and none of this will ever matter. That's obviously fine.
It's just weird realizing I could end up being the person I spent years wishing I'd had. Without even thinking twice about it.
I kept it together while I was with my brother, then got home and sat in my car for a few minutes getting emotional over my potential future career as emergency gay uncle

Ive dated my boyfriend for 8 years and we picked out the ring together and I finally got the ring recently. I couldnt wait to propose so today i took him to a lake where we had one of our first date. I got on my knees and proposed and at first, he was surprised and said “i didnt like the proposal. You should try again and we can keep this private.” And so i kind of asked are you saying yes or no to my proposal? And he did say yes but he said he wanted it done privately at a place with flowers and candles and he wants to look better with his hair done for photos and basically said i didnt plan this at all and wants me to re do it next month.

I fucked up by not communicating with him on what kind of proposal he wanted but i think for me, its not the where and what of proposal that matters. Its the proposal that matters basically asking if he wants to spend the rest of his life with me.

I still love him so i am planning on redoing the proposal. I regret that i have not planned this better and the lack of communication but i’d be lying if i said i wasnt hurt.

Since they dont usually go to clubs, and etc

Has anybody else have the same feeling about sucking dick? Honestly I can’t stop, I love sucking cock, I feel soo good doing it.

I’m a freshman in college and I was bored and curious so I downloaded Grindr😭 There was an account called “DL masc” that messaged me and i asked what they look like then they sent their face, it turns out it was one of my friends (friends friend basically so we aren’t like super close). After i sent my face we were flirting for a little bit the account went offline for like 3 days then it disappeared. After that i started talking to the guy more but i never actually brought up the whole thing because he is like, conventionally attractive and someone could definitely catfish as him. And also the times i did hang out with him he would be talking with girls like all the time and talking about how bad he wants some random girl

Very delusional thing to bring up but like the other day he asked me if i smoke while we were in the car together, Is that not the dl calling or whatever? Or does he just wanna get high w me idk

My main question is like how do i bring it up without sounding like a sex crazed homosexual??? Like if someone actually is catfishing as him or smth then im gonna be throwing myself under the bus.

Please excuse any mistakes, as English is not my first language and I am using a translator.

To give some context: I (M18) was on Grindr when a really handsome 19 year old guy popped up. We started chatting and everything was going fine up to that point. I soon found out he wasn't Brazilian, but European, specifically, Portuguese. At the time, I overlooked it because he was gorgeous: green-ish eyes, dark wavy hair, smooth skin, a well-defined face, a twink body, and a nice penis too.

The conversation kept flowing until he asked for my Instagram. Obviously I gave it to him, because for a moment I imagined where this could go, maybe it could even lead to dating. But that was one of the worst things I ever did. He started calling Brazil very poor, saying Brazilians were stupid, claimed he didn't like being gay, and that he had never experienced sleeping with a woman. On top of that, he wanted to lecture me on who I should vote for, saying I couldn't vote for Lula, among other things I'd rather not mention.

The question left on my mind is: is this normal among European gay guys? Do you have any European friends, boyfriends, or girlfriends who think this way?

Side note: He asked for an intimate video and I sent it, I know I was naive. When I asked for one in return, he said he had already jerked off five times and was soft 🤡.

(this is kind of a joke)

The average is supposed to be around 5.5in and yet the majority of Reddit seems to have 7-8in dicks

Be honest, would you still fuck a 75-year-old gay man, or let him give you a blowjob?

Please comment.

As someone who is overweight and has heard society treats you differently after weight loss, I want HONEST answers. I am in the process of losing weight but have been super insecure when leaving the house lately.

Do you judge overweight people? When you see them in the store or passing by, do you think of them differently? Yes or no?

Do many bottoms like a older man tobsuprise them?

im 16M he is 10M, we are eachothers bestfriend, i have went without friends for a little over a year now and during that me and him became very close, but last night i was watching porn on both my phone and my xbox, when he came in i immediatley turned it off on my phone but forgot about the tv until it was too late, he had seen google images twink porn on a 43" tv in 4K, when he seen it he immediatley turned and stared at me to act as if he hadnt seen anything, and thats when i realised, so i awkwardly had to deliberatley drop something and ask him to pick it up whilst i reconnected my controller and turned it off.

this morning he came into my room for clothes and didnt even look at me when i was talking to him, and we havent spoke since.

im romantically attracted to women but sexually attracted to men which i obviously cant explain that to a 10yr old.

what do i do, please help or tell me your storys so i can be desensitized from my embarrassment 🥲

What is a fantasy that you always wanted to do, but never had the chance to do it? Doesn’t matter if it is very dirty. Feel free to put on details.

Mine is to rent an Airbnb and get gang banged by very tall muscular guys with big dicks, and for me not be able to say no.

Hi, I’m 24M, been bottom for most of my life, but 8 months ago got into a relationship with a well endowed man. Sex has been great, for both. I started being vers for him, which was something that I never thought I would enjoy. This was my first time topping, and many insecurities started popping in my head. Erection quality, dick appearance, size, time for cumming.
He really enjoyed me topping, he could cum hands free, and has told me I was the best top he ever had. We became LDR 1 month ago, and my head is full of thoughts that I will never find someone that enjoys me as he does.
I’m 6,5 x 4,9, I know it’s supposed to be a good size, but I feel like porn has washed my head into thinking bottoms will only enjoy big ones, even though I myself enjoy all.
My erection quality has decreased, probably cause of the anxiety, so it has started to worry me even more.
I’m mostly venting, but the matter has become too consistent in my head, and I believe even over-attaching my self to him and being afraid of the idea of losing my boyfriend. Did any of you faced anything similar, or got advice for me?

I see lots of both in gay porn. No judgement was just curious what most bottoms prefer. Me personally i prefer the slower longer deep penetration fucks. When the top slides into slow and steady, until they are balls deep then grind into you. Obviously if the top is bigger/thicker it can make a difference. Most of the younger guys that top me tend to want just slam into my ass with very little lubricant and just jackhammer away and just nut. Curious to hear thoughts? Experiences?

I have always been Alpha and Masculine but I keep having a dream where a man lubes up my crack and as I am laying on my stomach he promises only only to rub his cock on my crack but accidentally slips and put the head in. That is how I want my first time to go.

Had about 6-7 photos on my dating profile. One of them is of me with no shirt on.

I get it it showed my abs/muscle but it didn’t even show the V-cut.

He proceeds to call me a whore, a typical gay… a slut who will be easy for hook ups.

Went on for hours in text about it and honestly I’m just so done with him.

He’s been seeing others, going to gay clubs, bars — one of the reason why this didn’t work out. I couldn’t even get through him about how much it bothered me so at that point, I knew it was over.

A shirtless pic is nothing to me because I’m always at the gym anyway. I see naked people all the time and it doesn’t bother me

I’m 21 and he’s 35. He has his own house, a car, and a very well paying job, and he buys me gifts plus, I’m a charming guy, lol. I’ve never had any issues in my relationships, we’ve been together for almost two years now, and things are going really, really well. Naturally, though, when I tell people about it, they get a strange impression, but the worst reaction came from my own family. My dad, in particular, reacted very poorly, he scolded me and told me to break up with him. I didn’t. My dad still doesn’t like the relationship; he’s become a bit more tolerant over time, but I know it still bothers him.

I’m 36 and there’s a guy at work who’s 22. He came out pretty recently and somehow, without either of us really deciding this was a thing, I’ve become the person he comes to with all his gay questions.
At first it was harmless stuff. How do you know if a guy on an app actually wants to date or just hook up? Is it weird to mention a boyfriend at work? How do you deal with straight friends suddenly acting like they have to watch what they say around you?
Then a few weeks ago he asked me how I handled telling my dad. That one hit me harder than I expected.
When I was his age I had absolutely nobody to ask that stuff. I had gay friends eventually, but we were all basically the same age and equally clueless. There wasn’t some normal older gay guy in my life who had already survived the awkward first boyfriend, coming out at work, family weirdness, heartbreak, all of it.
Most of what I learned came from screwing it up myself.
So now this kid asks me things and I’ll casually say “don’t send that text tonight, sleep on it” or “your parents being uncomfortable for a month doesn’t automatically mean they’ll reject you forever,” and then five minutes later I’m sitting there thinking... when the hell did I become the person who knows this stuff? I find it cute and funny that he seems to think I have my life completely figured out.
Absolutely not.
I still make dumb dating decisions. I still overthink things. I still occasionally meet a man who causes every useful lesson I’ve learned in the last 15 years to leave my body immediately.
I just have enough scar tissue now to recognize a few potholes before somebody else drives straight into them. And I didn’t realize how much I would’ve appreciated having that when I was younger until I suddenly found myself being it for somebody else.
Getting older as a gay man gets talked about like it’s this depressing countdown all the time. This part of it actually feels pretty damn nice

I had a rough painful sex today :(
I couldn’t get him to slow down so I endured. I did use a lot of lube though.
My butt is bleeding. Has any bottom experienced this? I don’t know how those people in porn take in such big dicks and be completely fine…

It all started yesterday when I met a guy at a music festival in my city. We hooked up and ended up spending the whole festival together. When he drove me home, we found out we were both planning to attend an event today. He said he wanted to see me again, so we agreed to let each other know if we went.

I went, texted him like we agreed, and got no reply. I assumed he wasn't coming, hung out with some friends, and then literally saw him on a date with another guy as I was leaving.

And honestly, that's fine. We met yesterday, and he could've already had plans with this guy. But why make plans with me and then disappear?

It got me thinking about how often this has happened to me over the past few months. Guys I've hooked up with or gone on dates with make plans to see me again, only to ghost me, make excuses, or start dating someone else. And most of them eventually come back around wanting to see me again.

So I genuinely wonder: why is it so hard to just be honest? If you only want sex, something casual, or you're already seeing someone and don't know if there'll be a next time, just say so.

I'm not a jealous person, and I have no problem with any of that. I just don't like being lied to or played. Especially when, judging by how often these guys come back, the dates and sex seem to be just as good for them as they are for me.

I genuinely don't understand why being honest about what you want is so hard.

Not really a shit post, just throwing a random thought out into the void. I'm 18 and have never really dated or anything like that. Life path isn't as fun as I thought and how I just want to return to what I've been thought (sorta.) The idea of moving onto a farm and being a farmhand sounds nice even without the gay sort but if I could be a farmhand/farmer and be gay, that'd be my dream come true. Sorry if this is stupid

That moment when you can no longer be considered a twink.

It's a sad phenomenon, isn't it? And 75% of twinks never make it beyond 25-years-old.

Former twink survivors, how did you cross that treacherous path into your 30s?

Hey everyone, bi 32M here, I think I need to let go everything that's been going on in my life rn so sorry for the long post.

I moved in with my bf of seven years and after a year living together we broke up bcs apparently things didn't work out. However for leasing issues we lived together another year as roommates, it was weird. I know.

At the time shit felt like a divorce so I was in a bad place mentally and emotionally which ended in random hookups with strangers.

I matched on tinder with this cute guy, chemistry off the roof and a nice fuck that taught me what love bombing and ghosting means in dating nowadays. Shit hurt even more than the divorce fr.

3 months ago I finally moved out and currently am in the let's keep being friends with my ex because we've been on each other's life's for almost a decade you know? That feels fine at the moment and it's not that weird.

I never had many friends, the few I have are busy with life or having kids. I never had close queer friends either so I had to navigate everything with my straight circle.

Rn life feels paused, I am aware that I need time to process everything that happened and am trying to let things go at their own pace. It's just lonely sometimes you know? Some days I feel really lonely because nobody checks up on me or include me in their plans after talking about doing things together.

Anywho, shit sucks at Sunday nights, I guess.