r/barexam • u/Every-Argument-7037 • 5d ago

May I have your attention please. If you failed the bar.

Your tears are valid

Your anger is valid

Your frustration is valid

Your anxiety is valid

Your depression is valid

Your medical conditions are valid

Your failure is normal and valid

Cry and vent, you are human

your story is not over

You will still become a lawyer.

Keep going.

God bless you all.

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u/Alive_Guarantee856 5d ago

youre going to be okay if you fail. enjoy the time off. study hard. and let it all work out. i know because i failed the bar and it was the first exam i ever failed in my life. when i got my results my mentor asked if i planned to wrap my car around a tree. through my tears i said "no, i plan to try again because im not a failure unless i quit" and i hope that stays with someone who needs to hear it. i said again j26 and am praying for the best but ill be fine either way.

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u/Proper_Mechanic4136 5d ago

First test I’ve ever failed in my life. Thank you for this.

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u/Alive_Guarantee856 5d ago

you are going to be sooo great as a lawyer ❤️ i believe in you buddy!!!

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u/Alive_Guarantee856 5d ago

we will ALL be fine either way. ❤️❤️

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u/Every-Argument-7037 5d ago

I did not fail the bar....I see so many comments of people failing and crying, so I decided to post this.

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u/Alive_Guarantee856 5d ago

was it well intentioned if your first instinct is to remove yourself from retakers even when this too is really generally applicable?

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u/Every-Argument-7037 5d ago

I said "If you failed the bar"

I was addressing those who failed.. No where did I mention myself or anything related to me.

Read my posts, I love to uplift people and talk about passing the bar.

Thanks and have a good day.

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u/birdsinthesky 5d ago

Get out of here. I'm so sick of hearing "words of affirmation" from someone who has no idea what it's like to not pass.

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u/Odd_Preparation_3497 5d ago

This is toxic. Passers could instead be petty and awful.

But that's not right, because it's the job of people who have climbed out to throw the rope down.

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u/birdsinthesky 5d ago

Passing the bar and failing the bar are not two sides of the same experience. They are two entirely different experiences, and I’m tired of people pretending otherwise.

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u/Odd_Preparation_3497 4d ago

You do realize that people who have passed the bar have failed at other steps in their careers. We know what failure is like too.

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u/birdsinthesky 4d ago edited 3d ago

Right. Every test is exactly like the bar, you are 100% correct.

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u/Odd_Preparation_3497 4d ago

Damn the fact you think testing is the only place where people have failed is crazy lol. This dude was right, you DO have a serious mental problem.

I think you're lacking in life experience. Do yourself a favor and don't retake this exam. Go live in the real world and see what it's like.

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u/Alive_Guarantee856 5d ago

this is an unwell thing to say to anyone and i hope you seek care for whatever would compel you to type that.

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u/Datpanda1999 VA 5d ago

wtf are you talking about? Don’t be an asshole

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u/birdsinthesky 5d ago

Lol, you end your post with “God bless you all,” yet turn around and tell someone humanity should be ashamed of their existence. Quite the selective display of Christian compassion. I guess God's love only applies to people who agree with you!

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u/Alive_Guarantee856 5d ago

i believe in you buddy!! ❤️

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u/birdsinthesky 5d ago

Thank you so much!

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u/rokerroker45 5d ago

You're not Jesus and this person isn't a demon jesus christ

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u/Every-Argument-7037 5d ago

I encourage people a lot here and I stay in my lane, I do not bother anybody. You can disagree with me or correct me, but do it respectfully.

If you come aggressively or try to tear me down. Then you deserve what ever you get. No mercy.

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u/Proper_Mechanic4136 5d ago

Thank you 🩷🩷 I’ve always been such an academic high achiever and law school kinda kicked me into the ground. Failing killed my soul a little a more on top of it.

But ik it’s gonna be ok! It happens and if you’re reading this you and I are not any less competent because of it!!

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u/Peepzilla PA 4d ago

Thanks for this.. I failed by 8 points, never failed a test in my life. It’s hard not to feel like a total failure right now

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u/tashbprulez 5d ago

Thank you for this! I failed the exam my first time and am still waiting for NY results for my 2nd try tight now. When I found out I failed my first time, I felt like the biggest loser in the world and I really questioned if I had just wasted 3 years of my life for no reason, I was people like this that helped me to realize that I am not alone and that it will be OK soon, just need to get through this one way or the other and then it won't matter anymore. That is now my basic mentality.

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u/badassgains07 5d ago

Thank you for the words of encouragement. Sometimes is not all bad though because I failed my state bar but got enough to transfer into another jx, guess what? That’s what I’m doing. If that’s an option for you, maybe it’s a good approach and later on either do an admission on motion or retake it for your State, but regardless of the outcome, you’ll still be licensed somewhere.

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u/Every-Argument-7037 5d ago

I did not fail the bar. I am just encouraging people here.. Thank you.

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u/badassgains07 5d ago

Congratulations!! Fantastic words of encouragement.

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u/Yeleanap 4d ago

Amen 🙏

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u/Quirky_Network_2950 4d ago

Amen 🙏🏾 well said