After climbing for three years, I lost the motivation to hit up the gym or go outside in March. My last straw was when I was at my local gym at quieter hours (around 9-10am on a weekday), and there were three other people there. A man followed me everywhere without saying a single word. At first I thought he might say something or strike up a conversation, but I really wasnāt in the mood, so I kept switching up climbs hoping heād get the hint.
It got creepy when I left to use the bathroom (which is unisex bathroom with around 6 stalls). He followed me into the bathroom. At this point, I told him how creepy it came off to follow a woman at every climb, and then proceeding to go into the bathroom at the same time. To my knowledge, he didnāt even use the bathroom or wash his hands. Of course he acted surprised and apologized, but the entire experience was so belittling and anytime I think men canāt get dumber they just dig the hole deeper. And then thereās the chance that he wasnāt dumb⦠and knew exactly what he was doing. I hate even thinking about that option.
I left immediately, went downstairs and told the front desk about my experience, and ever since havenāt been back to the gym. The whole experience was disheartening, and disenchanted me from climbing up until the past couple of weeks.
This was definitely the most extreme experience I had at the gym, but not the first. You guys know the usual. Beta spraying, viewing any interaction as a ācan I have your number?ā And just the looks, where I canāt tell if theyāre just watching the climb or looking at me like Iām a piece of cake.
Well, itās October now, and for the last two weeks Iāve finally felt like picking up climbing again, but Iām genuinely scared. I really lack a community of girls I can climb with in my area which leaves me to myself. I hate that a part of climbing has to be managing men and setting boundaries with them in a shared space.
Iām hoping to be a little more outgoing this time around, and meet a community that I can feel safe with. I havenāt really shared my experience with anyone so I hope I donāt come off as a huge complainer. I just really hope it will be different this time.