Gf just dumped me. My first real relationship since starting my transition. As I sit here sobbing, I am consoled by the tears funneling down my cleavage. Sad, bitter euphoria. I hope this is close enough to count for this sub.

Got told by a co-worker today that I looked like a pissed off lesbian. I was "boymoding" but thanks I guess? But seriously sir I just have RBF.

quick reflection lang, idk if you’ve guys experienced this too..

it really icks me every time i see people who larp or whatever they call it. because they’re trying to live a fake life. some are really just a bunch of hypocrites because they don’t practice what they preach.

and that’s when i realized that everyone is performative. we perform for our parents—we do our best to do good things, we do our best to prove that we excel in academics, that we are a good child. we perform for our crushes—we wanted to be seen and recognized by the people that we admire, worst case scenario is we try hard to be someone else so they could like you back. the point is, everyone is performative in they own way.

but maybe, that’s how they escape reality?

dati may friend ako, day ones ko nung college. kaso nagbago ang ihip ng hangin dahil sa mga ilang bagay na hindi napagkakasunduan. hanggang sa humantong na sa resentment at cinut-off ko na for the better kasi hindi ko kayang makihalubilo sa taong may bitbit na animosity at hindi kaya ang confrontation. and in my eyes, this person is really performative. when he talks about something that he is “really interested” and “knowledgeable” raw, napapansin kong surface level lang ang alam at na-shshare niya. kumbaga parang wala talaga siyang genuine conviction sa mga pinagsasabi niya lalo na sa mga ipinaglalaban niya. and that’s when i usually get the ick.

going back to my question, matagal na panahon ko rin pinag-isipan kung bakit nga ba siya naging gano’n at naisip ko na baka iyon ‘yung nag-sserve niyang escapism sa magulo at mapanghusgang mundong ito. i just hope that he’s working on improving himself, same to what i am doing. and i hope he finds peace for himself, genuinely.

Hii im like totally knew here however I totally feel like i should say ive been out for 6 years as mtf and almost 1.5 years on hrt but I have been socially transitioning to the point i pass with ease however I judt had this guy checking me out while I was at the store and he was kinda following me at first and now im sitting in my car thinking that was creepy. Like this guy was hard-core staring at me and when i looked at him all he said was hi and how he liked my shorts. Like im sitting here like why are some people so creepy. Like i know I pass but like it was the first time I went out of my apartment in shorts on without my roommate there as well. Like im happy to be passing but not by a creepy guy like that.

He used to do that a lot back in the days, and it used to anger me a lot since I was very repressed and an egg. But now, he did it again, but after having accepted myself, and comming out to my friend group, and it was very funny and ewwphoric to hear that.

We were chilling at my house, all cracking jokes and playing games, lighthearted and what not. Until he turns to me and says "You'd be a stripper because of your lady parts." He also loves to call my E supplement "titty pills", it's euphoric because he sees me as a woman, but also fucking weird with those comments! (As a 21 yr old trans woman I've been on estrogen monotherapy since April 22nd, 2026)

For context, I’m a trans woman and I’m currently working temporarily on 12 hour long night shift, and I have a friend who is working 12 hours on day shift. Anyway, my friend told my gf about how he had talked to an older guy on day shift and the guy apparently said he found me attractive and that I “had pretty hair” and was referring to me as a woman. I heard about this from my gf, so admittedly there’s some degrees of separation here, so idk how accurate the story is,which is why I say it’s maybe an example. Although, seeing as it did instill a feeling of “slightly uncomfortable gender euphoria” in me, ig it does count as an example.

This probably isn't "ewphoria", really, but... kind of adjacent? My wife and I were at a show and we were dressed up together as the (big) Red Riding Hood and the (little) Bad Wolf. Im 6'3" and she's barely over 5', so I already have confidence issues as an MtF...

But a guy at the bar sees me, called me sexy and asked if he could buy me a drink! I, uh... said yes, and then once I had the drink pointed to my wife and told him to find us later to say hi. I recognized that I was doing that thing guys complain about, where they buy a woman a drink AND THEN she says shes with someone else but... I was just so excited about it!! I did dance with him a little bit later on, I think it was okay.

Ahh!! I felt so good!! My wife was happy for me, too.

Some of you may remember my post about my brother a few months back. Not much has changed on that front but I was just relayed this story and I had to share.

My father and younger brother (I'm the eldest) are embroiled in a court case because they got sucked into some crypto scam and are being accused of being scammers (they're just incompetent, but they still lost a bunch of people a bunch of money, so basically the same thing).

In an attempt to get my brother to get his shit together, my dad gave him a pep talk, which included:

"Son, you're the only male heir now. You have to step up. You'll be the head of the family when I'm gone."

Apparently, my brother took this to heart and is hustling to put together a compelling legal case and clean up his act. It probably won't be enough to get him out of whatever legal hell he's in, but the fact that it seemed to work is hilarious to me.

There's this yearly convention/congress I have to attend for work. It's for non-profit and healthcare organisations to promote their services for the elderly. We have a booth where they can come and ask questions and receive goodies and such.

A lot more old men came by my booth or walked by ogling me. When they did stop to talk, they often stared more down my work blouse. Even with their wives next to them!

There's not even that much to look at, but that didn't stop them 😅

1. Getting catcalled twice at the bus stop while with my partner on the way to the gay club in my leash and collar.

2. Getting criticized more at work for small things, being told I'm coming across as an asshole when dealing with a difficult customer when my cis man colleagues are even harsher and don't get criticized.

3. Getting hugged by a man acquaintance without my consent after he saw me hugging one of my trans woman friends.

4. Straight couple at the bar coming on to me when I was ordering drinks with my partner because they thought my collar was hot.

5. At a party at a friends house, one of their man friends I didn't know grabbed my dog tag on my collar to see what it said WHILE IT WAS ON MY NECK.

6. Countless lingering stares from men at the grocery store by my house, at the grocery store by my work, on the street, at work in my office, at restaurants, on dates with my partner, pretty much everywhere I go men are staring at me and don't look away when I stare back. Seriously it's an expected part of leaving the house for me now and makes me so uncomfortable to be perceived in public.

7. Having a man i didn't know treat me and my date like his therapists and expecting emotional labor and support from us with no prior emotional connection. He was at a T4T social event and basically hi jacked our night.

8. Catching a man acquaintance staring at my body multiple times while we were in a work meeting together which made me feel uncomfortable and on display to the point of wishing I could leave.

These are just a few from the last few months. I've been transitioning for two years now and I'm passing pretty well most of the time, even to myself which is crazy and something I never thought I'd feel. It is a double edged blade; I wouldn't trade the feeling of living freely as myself and feeling comfortable and confident and sexy for anything, it is a huge point of pride and self love that I've slogged towards for almost 7 years, BUT the more I grow into who I truly am and the more I pass as a woman and the more my body changes to better align with who I am inside, the less safe I feel in public and the more uncomfortable I am with being perceived and with existing in a world so dominated by patriarchy. I won't give it up, I won't stop dressing like the gay tomboy I've always been, I won't let those things stop me from being myself, but I won't lie, it does really start to wear on me and make me feel unsafe and uncomfortable being myself in public. And this is even in one of the most trans friendly cities in the US. Anyway, stay safe out there yall.

Ftm Walking home and someone who looked like a stereotypical Nazi born in the 40's was sitting outside along the sidewalk. Whatever not a big deal. I'm right in front of him he looks up and sees all my plush keychains (there were a lot considering the size of my bag) he say "what the fuck is that?" (He has not seen my face yet.) I respond in the snarky way I always have when people try to shame me for wearing things I enjoy. "They're a bunch of plushies. Wanna look at them?" I did not stop walking because I know he's being an ass. He asks if I'm selling I say no and turn to continue on my way he starts yelling, but I can't hear it then he gets loud and yells "don't be gay!"

If he had thought I was a woman he probably would have called me a stupid liberal. He saw me as a man wearing 'girly plushies' and assumed I was gay. I was really mad about it yesterday because hate is hate, but thinking about it today, I feel kinda euphoric about it.

My little brother is visiting from out of town, he's not accepting of me being trans like the rest of my msulim family, but he misses me and I miss him so we're trying yunno. Anyways while we we're out and about in downtown Seattle we stop by a mosque so he can take 5 min to pray. I start going in with him (which ive done a million times when we were younger) but he asked me to stay in the genkan area/lobby, saying "men only". Lol. Also ew men were staring at me as they entered. Not like a quick look and move on, nope full on stare at me, my chest, my hips, continous non stop stare

I actually knew an incel who was actually really not transphobic. He said that trans women are stupid and annoying because they are women all the same, that trans men are chill because they're men. With non-binary people he said that he goes by which way they're leaning, and if they're not leaning one way or the other, they actually get the right to be judged as individual human beings, so that was sorta funny.

Long story short, I live super happily with my ex husband. Get those benefits and all, and we split due to realizing we wanted different things after over 15 years together.

I came out over 2 years ago, and he never told his folks. Figured it was something for me to do so I could do it how I wanted. I don't really have a relationship with them, and don't particularly enjoy seeing them, though I get on with them well enough. So I didn't bother.

I've been on T almost a year now, and they showed up to drop off gifts for my birthday. Super sweet! But they didn't say they were. Ex is in the shower, and I'm napping. I get a call since I didn't hear the door, and answer.

I say hello a few times and eventually get "is this (ex)?"

"No, it's (name)"

"Oh hi (dead name)! Can you come down?"

"Sure"

Lucky for my in laws, I popped a shirt on out of courtesy. I dropped the FFs a year ago, but... That's a bit much haha.

We briefly chat, and they ask how my job is. FIL asks if I'm trying to sound tough due to the folks I work with (and have for 4 years now) or if I have a sore throat. My MIL asks if I'm trying to be a man (???)

"I'm not sick, but I have been on testosterone for 11 months."

"Oh, okay”

"Seeya!"

So that's one way to come out, lol

I was walking home and this guy started talking at me from his car, asking my name.

I presume he needs help so I just ask him if he's lost. He says no and drives off.

Then, like two miles down I suddenly hear him calling my again. This dude just parked and waited for like ten minutes for me to catch up to him on foot so he could try again.

Feeling ambushed late at night, especially so close to home, is not pleasant. I don't like that he was willing to waste so much time just waiting for me.

I crawled under a stall door in the men's bathroom (after confirming there was no-one in there ofc), thinking that it was locked, in front of another guy.

It was a pull door.

The other stall did not have a pull door, so why did this one? Beats me.

Anyways I guess I pass well enough for other college-age guys to not question why I was in the men's room.

Don't know if this is the correct place for this but,

I'm in a weird situation with my friend group. Only one person really knows that i'm trans(im only 5 months on e) but the rest of the group is used to me presenting femme occasionally. One of my cis female friends, she is usually very vocally against it. Ill call her April.

April always goes out of her way to try and make me feel some sort of dysphoria (ie. Commenting on male specific traits, etc) and last night i was test running my pirate costume for halloween, and everyone was very supportive and April as always had something to say.

But this time one of my other friends said "you're just mad because he is cuter than you are" and she went with "true, but not the point. You're like a real solid man like i see you normally MM thats a man, its usually failed men that resort to skirts. why do you have to ruin it." Which confused the fuck out of me. Because it seems shes been vocally against it because she was into me before femme presentation :/ which is kinda weird. Because after that me and her reached middle ground and were trading makeup tips and such, which at the end of the day she tries to say crazy hurtful things but she doesnt mean it. Clearly a defense mechanism.

Talked with the friend that made the comments and he said that she clearly feels like shes losing something she never had. And idk how that makes me feel.

my post got instantly removed from another community so I hope people enjoy it here(. ❛ ᴗ ❛.)

For context I'm NB (AFAB19) and enjoy dressing in ways that make people go "just what the heck are you???". Having short, curly and very fluffy hair that hides half of my face helps a lot to hide certain features lol.

A few months ago I went out to buy a new foldable shopping cart for my family since our old one had a broken wheel we couldn't find any replacement no matter where we looked.

Lucky me, a new 'you can find everything here' kind of store recently opened near my university and I decided to check their inventory to see if I'd find the one we've been looking for and they had it! The lady was quick to help me out, however, she would always refer to me as a male. "Wait a moment, SIR" or "Hey [colleague's name] tell this GUY over there we don't have the color red available". She had a weird emphasis on the name calling and didn't quit it.

The first two times I thought of correcting her, but the way she put so much passion in calling me a guy I went with the route she was doing an attempt to be transphobic, believing I tried to pass as a guy (but didn't stop after me being so nonchalant with that, I was literally the stone hedge emoji). Even at the counter when I was paying, she didn't budge either! They called my name on the ticket to pay for my cart and the clerk still insisted to the very end to address me as a male. I didn't want to call her out in case she was one of those "we can always tell!1!!!1!" folks even more so since our interactions were brief.

I don't mind people calling me using my prefered pronouns (she/her) even when I'm dressed in non-feminine clothing, this was the first time someone ever addressed me as he/him and that affirmed my gender so much because I was easily unintentionally passing as a boy!! And the lady didn't correct herself halfway through to the "right" pronouns.

She tried to be transphobic meanwhile I was having a blast thinking to myself "OH MY GODS AM I ACTUALLY PASSING AS A GUY??? DID MY BAGGY CLOTHES FINALLY HIDE MY PRESENCE???? Do I look so androgynous people think I may be a guy??? HELL YEAH" so, I came out of the store very happy and with a new shopping cart :DD