I found out that if you create an account but don't upload the required number of photos, you can still see the men there, but you obviously can't like them, and no one can see your profile. I'm too scared to actually use it, but I've just been looking at what's out there. Some guys seem sweet and share my interests, and I think, "Oh, wouldn't it be nice?" but then I imagine what this guy would think if he saw my awful face in his likes, and my chest starts to hurt. This may be a form of self-harm at this point; I wouldn't recommend doing this if you're lonely. Curiosity got the better of me.

I’m autistic and unnatractive and don’t have an appealing personality, I keep hoping that one day I’ll have a boyfriend who genuinely loves me and a group of great friends to hang out with all the time but I’m 24 and I haven’t even come close. I think I’d be happy if I just accepted that’s not in the cards for me but a part of me still hopes and believes that maybe one day it will come true

I'm not rich enough to get my looks fixed, I live in a place where ppl favour more "Eurocentric" features than other features (including mine). I'm autistic, mentally exausted and ill. My mom still has some hope that I'll find "a good man to date and marry" but honestly, I already feel old at my 23 with no experience (no first kiss, no first date, nothing). Men love to complain that women do not approach them, but when I did, I got made fun off and called "desperate" for doing it so.

Guys always say to me that I'm "too ugly to date" and that I look too "childish" (short and underweight with no curves). Or they just straight up call me a "boy". I tried to be more sociable, to "mask" myself in order to get accepted - I still got rejected and mocked.

I don't understand why I should have hope, I'm a lost cause. The only thing that keeps me going is my imaginary bf, but it sucks being in love with someone that cannot be physical at all. I wish I was never born in first place, I was nerfed since the start.

so i dated a bit after working for like an year and moving out. and i don't know but the dates never turned into anything serious. like i am still a virgin at 25. i was talking to two guys recently, and i work a lot so i didn't respond to their messages for a few hours or i rescheduled a meeting, and then i end up getting deleted. this is so frustrating i want to quit dating altogether. like no matter how hard i try this just doesnt' work. and i mean i did meet many guys in the past year. perhaps dating apps are the wrong place to be. guys mostly want to find something casual and are bad texters or communicators. i just want to return to my den/bedroom and cry then read some romance novels. my work is okay but my dating life is just a disaster. i think i am going to be an old maid at some point. why dating and relationship are so easy for other people? i am getting tired at this point. dating is harder than job seeking lol.

I always thought that I was good looking, because my family members are and I kind of liked how I looked. Nobody has said to my face( so far) but indirectly I have been told:

by my sister: you should consider going out with this guy( not so attractive) man because you won’t find anybody better than him. She also asked me what she thinks about people who have never been in relationship because of their looks. She also dropped a hint that I am not attractive. One time I dressed up, and she said, this is the first time you have looked good. She laughed when somebody made fun of my facial feature. One time we went together to a place and the guy said there is so much difference between you two.

My aunt said you aren’t as attractive as you were as a baby. My other aunt, her kids make fun of my disproportionate physical feature. My other aunt praised my sister in front of me saying a lot of people she knows have praised about my sisters good looks. No one in my relatives asks why iI am not married. My mom has said you were pretty as a baby.

One time, my coworker asked this lady if she knew somebody that would be a good match for me, she hesitated, looked at my face and didn’t say anything. Then the lady told the other pretty girl that you can let me know anytime you are ready to date. My boss asked me one time, you have never been in a relationship, have you?

My guy friend once revealed that he can’t be friends with attractive/hot women.

I have been rejected by very average looking men saying that they don’t find me attractive.

One time I went on to a convention, and it was full of young men, no one approached me. I used to work at a really busy place, and in my many years of working no guy approached me. I have been going to a place where a lot of men come for number of years, and no guy has ever come upto me to start a conversation or get my number. When I walk next to my sister or friends, people stare and talk to them instead of me, completely ignoring my existence. I am invisible to men. Despite all this, I can’t accept it. It’s like it too much for my mind to assess and feel, I can’t contemplate how deeply damaging to my identity, that it prefers avoiding the truth.

It’s getting to the point where I don’t even want to leave my bed anymore. I’m so hideous it makes me physically ill if I catch a glimpse of myself. I’m literally the ugliest woman I have ever seen. I’ve been having a really hard time getting out of bed in the morning and doing my self care before going to work. It feels absolutely pointless to do anything to try and make myself look good and presentable because all it does is depress me and remind me that I will never look as good as the woman in my workplace no matter how hard I try. I just want to hide under the covers and never be seen again. Plus I’ve been in a flare of my chronic conditions and it just makes my self image even worse because not only is my body horrible to look at it’s also falling apart. Ugh, all I want is to feel good in my skin and experience what it is like to be a pretty woman who is loved and desired by the opposite sex.

like many of you I loathe my appearance. I live with my mum, don't go out, I don't want to work, I don't want to interact with people, I'm 25 so it's all downhill from here appearance wise right. never been in a relationship. tried to have casual sex once and started crying cause it wasn't love and it never will be.

How do you do, fellow old-timers? This is the weekly thread for the older members of our community to chat about whatever. No kids allowed!

I am not a very extroverted person and I don't have a lot of friends. I do have a couple of people that i text once in a while, or friends/ex-coworkers that i meet once or twice every few months. Most of my friends live in other cities/countries. So usually i did everything alone.

Most of the days i just work and i am wondering if this has got to the point that is not healthy. My job pays okay, but sometimes i need to do ot and i had part-time jobs. I live alone and had no pets. I used to enjoy shopping and going to the theater in the past, but now i gradually lost interest. So basically all i did is work all day, then work some more during nights and weekends. I also don't have a lot of holidays and days off, like I sometimes take a day off once every two or three weeks. And i am getting used to it. But luckly my job is not too difficult. I go to galleries/plays once every few months and i read a little. I stopped dating now because most guys are looking for casual stuff and i never had a boy friend. I am a virgin at 25.

So I think normal people, usually have some friends that they could hang out with, partners or family they live with or pets. Now i basically use work as a form of entertainment or pastime, which is unhealthy. But there is really no way i know how to change that. And when i am outside alone without work, I felt there is a form of emptyness.

How have you been doing? Did you have plans for this weekend? This is the Social Sunday thread where you can talk about anything you'd like, FAW related or not.

The way my sister is thriving in her career and on her way to get a postion at a prestigious institution soon, meanwhile I am unemployed and live at home.

I get chastised so much by my mom for my unemployment, she insults me a lot (rightfully so).

When my studying abroad plan was thwarted ever since then my spark was gone. I lost interest in everything.

I wasn't given the opportunity to pursue what I wanted so I am kinda starting over on my own in an unorthodox way. But because of this I am so behind my peers including my sister.

All my peers have either gotten their master's and working on their PhDs or have jobs at reputable institutions.

I am so ashamed that I deactivated my social media account.

Not to mention most of my peers are already married, some even have kids. On the other side, I have never even dated anyone.

I still cope with not having a romantic partner by fantasizing and by having celebrity crushes.

Like it's crazy how I have retracted into this bubble at home and blocked out everything outside.

I am so lonely that I was ordering small makeup items from the little savings I have just to feel some excitement from all the notifications about the order and anticiaption about an upcoming delivery.

Cause otherwise, all my inboxes are empty and I have nothing going on in my life.

I am such a loser. I just want to get away from this place. I wish there was some magic potion that I could take and just disappear into thin air.

It can be really difficult to maintain hope, but right now I am at least sticking to the arbitrary deadline I made when I was 27/28 and still thought I'd find someone soon - carry on online dating until I'm 40 and then, maybe, give up. I am increasingly thinking 40 might be too early, but I guess it will depend on what online dating looks like then, for me and in general. (To be clear, I don't think anyone over 40 should give up, people's situations are different.)

Tbf at the moment I am more hopeful in general - I don't think I'm any worse or worth less than people who are in relationships or who are conventionally attractive, I think we're all equally valuable. I have friends who love me and who I love even if I don't have many friends, and I am trying to love me too, bc then I know that even if other people let me down, I still have me in my corner.

I just saw a post about where to find the best Halloween themed events in my city, and suddenly remembered how I don’t even think about these things because I have no reason to. Sometimes I realize how embarrassing it is that I’m 26 and still mostly do things with my family rather than friends/friend group like everyone my age. I usually don’t think about it but when I see posts of people hanging out with friend groups, going to festivals, clubs and bars, it hits me.

In my late 20s, I have never been to a proper Halloween themed event or party. Technically I went 2 years ago with my “friends” who I often felt uncomfortable around, so it felt more like checking something off the box rather than a fulfilling experience. I’m not friends with that person anymore, which is fine because I’d rather be alone than feel lonely around people I feel uncomfortable around. But thinking about how everyone’s doing all these fall activities, going to Halloween events, just hanging out, planning their costumes…it makes me feel shitty. I’m watching life pass me by while everyone’s making memories. I see TikTok posts about people planning their costumes weeks in advance and feel like I’m looking at a different species. These are normal people, yet I can’t relate to them at all.

Someone asked me what I’m being for Halloween and I felt so awkward, and said something about how I’m not much of a Halloween person. I felt so lame because he could probably guess that I don’t have a social life. What’s sad is that I actually think I’d love the vibe, but I’ve been deprived of these universal things for so long that my mind convinced me that I don’t care about it.

1. KV.

I’m at the age where a lot of my friends (well, “friends”, do they even count if you don’t see each other out of work?) are starting get married and have kids.

And I haven’t even gone on a date once the three decades I’ve been alive.

Kids are probably a no for me, but I would’ve liked to at least get married, but how am I going to do that if I get no interest?

No men are interested in me besides creepy old men that go for anyone, and probably only because I’m stuck looking like a teenager despite my age. I don’t attract women at all.

I grow facial hair and a unibrow. I have bad teeth due to too much fluoride as a child and depressive spells causing bad hygiene. Despite trying to put great effort into making my face look acceptable, barring makeup due to sensory issues, I am still ugly.

I also struggle with my mental health, due to intense bullying due to my looks, and having a severely abusive family. I’ve been homeless twice. The world is not kind to weird ugly black girls.

I’m a black woman in an area where that is undesirable (but is it really anywhere unless you’re lightskinned?) and my facial proportions are all wrong. My face is unattractively round. I have a severe RBF, and I am built like an orc.

As a depressed teenager, I thought maybe when I was at the age I am now, I would’ve finally found someone that sees me and understands me. That I would find my person and that all the suffering would be worth it. I lay here at 30, thinking about how stupid I was. But I still persist, because if I don’t they win, but really how much longer am I going to have to be alone?

I’m seriously getting jealous of my friends, random people I encounter at work, and people on the internet for having what I don’t. A happy family that loves them. A partner that loves them. It’s even worse when I see a fellow weird girl in a happy relationship. Then it becomes “What’s wrong with me that makes it so I can’t have that?”

I literally feel nothing but sadness and rage now. I’m happy for these people, but I am sad and angry for myself. I am trying to improve myself more to where I can support myself, be “fully self sufficient” to where I don’t need anyone’s help but, but it just hurts…

Everywhere I go, even if its just for a simple walk outside my house, I would catch atleast one person side eyeing me or giving me this disgusted look as if they are offended by my existence. Im 100 percent sure its because of my hideous ogre and it has always been, I don't talk about this with anyone as they would just say its "all inside my head" when I could've sworn its not. Like cant I just not be reminded of my ugliness just for fuckin once, God couldn't even bother giving me a normal looking face. Everytime I catch one person staring at me from now on, I just get irritated or pissed off at this point like cant I just not be reminded of my fuggliness just for fuckin once.

Just wondering bc there are so many posts on this sub about 'has a man ever' and as a bisexual I am increasingly like 'some of us are bi!!'. (Tbf I see those posts going through the archives, idk if they're posted frequently now.)

It really messed me up being raised to believe I had one job and being unable to do it

I've tried everything: irl, online, I tried to date incels but even they rejected me, no matter what they say looks is all they care about. Being ugly as a woman dooms you to a life of loneliness and its really hard for me to accept that. Anyone else in a similar situation? I know most here are younger.

If you feel like crap and want to tell someone but don't want to make a thread about it, come here and tell us what bugs you. Whine, rant, vent, bitch, complain to your heart's content.

My nose is so big! Even after contouring it still looks huge!

I also noticed that my eyes are misaligned! My left eye kinda sits above the right eye and is slightly slanted.

I have hollowness and dark circles under my eyes.

I also noticed that I look cross-eyed when looking upfront at the camera!

It's not that my ID and passport photos turned out bad, I genuinely look like this! 😔

By the time I have enough money to do cosmetic plastic surgeries and get done with recovering from those procedures I will probably be in my 40s!

There goes any romantic prospects...

Life is so unfair... 😔

Improvement/venting post:

I hope that this post doesn't come off as tone deaf. I have good news to share with everyone; I don't get bullied anymore and I'm in therapy. Therapy is genuinely working for me (even though I'm not where I want to be at mentally at this moment, but I'm working on it) and I haven't gotten bullied for almost a year now. However, I realize that I have a lot of catching up to do when it comes to my social skills, confidence, and my lived experiences. I am a 24 year old who feels like a big portion of her teen years were spent getting outcast, harassed, forgotten, and spoken down to. I spent a big portion of my life being treated like I'm less than. Now that I get treated like I'm a human being, I don't even know where to start when it comes to building myself up.

With my self-esteem, I am now mentally in a better place than I was 5 years ago. I don't talk down to myself as much because I feel like there's no need to. Anytime I'm feeling down, I listen to gospel music. It's not as difficult to dress myself up as it used to be. However, I realized that I still struggle with thinking that my looks means everything (if I'm not pretty, then I am worthless) and with feeling ugly (I still get confirmed that I'm unattractive). I feel like I can't relax because I am on high alert (I felt like I could relax around people because they were always treating me badly). I struggle with dressing up because somehow in my mind that means I think I'm too big for my britches or that I think I'm pretty when I'm not. I don't know what type of hairstyle or makeup style fits me or would improve my looks. Nobody else had to feel this way growing up except for me. Everyone was allowed to be themselves and not think about their looks 24/7, meanwhile I was too busy trying to make myself invisible to toxic ass people.

My social skills are terrible too. I still struggle with putting people off and not knowing the reason why. I was just texting somebody for weeks just for them to take longer to text me back and not speak to me in public. At least my professor, who happens to be autistic themselves, understands me and kind of took me under their wing. I don't even know where to start when it comes to dating or sex. I've never had sex before and I honestly never felt sexy. I feel like it's too late because I'm already older and I should know better! However, I don't because my freedom of choice was stripped away from me at a young age just because of my unattractiveness and my autistic traits. Some men (usually older men) want me, the guys my age can't be bothered with me at all. One guy sighed so hard today because he thought that I was trying to hit on him (I wasn't). Plus, rejection hurts me more because I struggle with rumination (even though I'm working on trying to keep myself in a positive mood).

It's like my freedom was stripped away from me at a young age because of things I had no control over. Now, I have to start from scratch and learn things that people learned at 21. It's so unfair to see people come online and deny that unattractive people have their fair share of hardships when my experiences are right here to show otherwise. I sometimes feel more like a child than a woman (I'm not infantilizing myself to look quirky. I'm just trying to explain how I feel as someone who is socially inept). Is anyone else in the same situation and does anybody else feel this way?

In real life, I have a total of zero friends. I really miss having female friendships. The last time I had female friends was when I was 12 or 13.

I don't think I've ever met a genuinely ugly person in my life. Everyone has SOMETHING about them that's pretty/beautiful. I can't seem to apply this to myself. I'm 21 and look like I have wrinkles, I have acne, my eyes are dark and beady, my hair is always frizzy and just witchy looking, etc etc etc. I can find genuine beauty in everyone else but myself. I'm bisexual and have never been in a true relationship before and have never had anyone EVER show interest in me. When I would ask people out I'd get rejected always. I just don't find myself beautiful at all. Other people are to me though. I crave attention and validation from someone. I just want to feel pretty. I want to feel desirable.