What we’re seeing here is someone having a complex trauma response: someone who is more scared of her Grandma (who she likely lives with), or another member of the household, than she is of the actual police.
This isn’t a normal freak out and panic, I agree that someone ruined her, but it was probably through abuse.
Edit: now that we have full Unicourt Records, it appears that ‘intoxicated and freaking out’ is actually the underlying culprit here. It’s shocking how similar the behavior looks, and hopefully she’s gotten help in the last couple years since her last struggles with the law.
People are irrational during a break down. I put it in another comment but at school as a kid I put a hole in my kneed bad. I was more concerned with how pissed my mom was going to be I tore my new pants than the white and yellow coming out. I freaked out and thats where my mind went in the moment.
She was going through it before the accident though. It said she was speeding and erratic, hit a car, then sped off.
Rich kids will bury a body just to avoid a talk with daddy. This type of behavior, while possibly explainable and it seems like nobody got hurt, terrifies the ever living shit out of me cuz this is the type of person that's going to get someone killed believing the absolute incorrect thing.
Oh yeah, also I noticed if she didn't have room to speed away she would have ran that cameraman over. No doubt. He's lucky he had room to get away. And while this is an extreme example of the emotional breakdown, I see it every single day in entry level positions, Of young people. Instead of telling a supervisor or a boss or a coworker, you broke something or made a mess, they'll literally attempt to cover it up, hide it, and if they can't, they'll just walk out of work. Or they'll even say like they're too overwhelmed to have dealt with it. If you're having a mental breakdown and you need mental space and time off, I am all for that, but this shirking of responsibility in the middle of a workplace is going to start coming with liability. I'm just going to start adding waivers to all of my new hires. Dangerous behavior is not excused because of mental illness. It might be more understood and I might have way more empathy 100%. Actions have consequence, consequences are your liability.
Yeah. Idk how it happened. I realize there isn't much going on there, just thin skin then inside bits. But I didn't have a fall, wasn't running. We were playing tag or something, rand around the bike rack away from my friend. Went to turn and slipped a bit, went knee down. This was the 90s The ground was asphalt in the school yard. But I was standing, turned and slipped or tripped on the edge of the bike rack. Broke my fall with a knee. Stung and hurt but knee+asphalt does that. I went to run again and my other friend pointed and said I was bleeding. Saw blood coming down my white socks. Noticed the hole in my knee with red on it. Pull the pant leg up and blood was running down my leg. We thought maybe there was glass so I looked around but nothing. Just the ground. I was sent to the nurses office and when she rolled my pant leg up a kid in there pointed and said "HOLY CRAP IS THAT A BONE?! CAN I TOUCH IT?!
I looked down and saw white and clumps of yellow. The principal came in to talk to me and someone else from admin. I didn't know why they cared, thought maybe I was in trouble for getting hurt that bad or something. We weren't allowed to play by the bike racks. Turns out they were concerned I was more worried about my moms reaction to the pants than the hole. In all fairness we were poor and I knew she saved through the summer to cover back to school stuff.
My parents caught me when I had road rash all over my belly, hip, and knee because my shirt shifted and they caught sight of the discoloration, but not enough to determine "oh, there's no skin there at all". They thought it was a hickey. Cue me pulling up my shirt to show I ain't got no skin!
I tried to conceal it and act normal because I'd been riding on top of someone's car and they slammed the breaks on thinking I'd gracefully leap off the top like a gazelle and not belly flop like a hippo.
Those clumps of yellow are the little fat globules under your skin! Ask me how I know!
Yes I have cptsd and was able to spot it exactly.
People REALLY don't understand how mean her grandma is. This isn't an excuse but I think you have to have cptsd or know about it to "understand" what is going on. I've had years of therapy so I'm not that person anymore but I could have been if I was caught on film younger or caught on film even now but I'd never gone to therapy.
Anyway yeah she's either always this way because of her PTSD or she's being triggered back to being that young. Like another comment said.
She's not behaving rationally and it's not acceptable to drive off like this but it's "understandable" if you can recognize she's having a PTSD breakdown.
I had a step-father that would beat the brakes off me for sport as a kid. He'd make sure to hit me for no reason if I looked too comfortable. I remember getting jumped in middle school by 5 kids. Office brought me in, cleaned me up, icepacks and all that, impressed that I wasn't too upset. Said they'd call step dad to pick me up and take me home. Instantly I was crying, screaming, begging them not to, and trying to find anyway to get out of the room. Got the crap beat out me again that night, way worse than those kids did. Parents kept me home rest of that week to "let me rest and recover".
Totally agree this is just hard to understand if you didn't grow up like this. Sure the cops will arrest her, but who is gonna come bail her out and what happens after that? It ain't going to be disapproving looks, at least not in her experience/mind. 100% panicked animal mode, not a rational thought going in her mind there.
Thank you. I use it as a way to help me parent. Think of how I was treated, than do the opposite. My 8 year old calls me her best friend, insists on caring for me when I'm sick/down, and still listens when its time for Dadding. Noting has been more healing than watching her grow up healthy and happy.
It makes me so very happy to read something like this, just randomly posted by some dad. I don't understand what it's like to be reared by anyone who would write this, but oh, it makes me so happy to know that some little kid is.
i commend you dad! i too used the abuse from my childhood to become a good parent (well, i try my hardest to be but you know how that goes, always feel like i’m not doing enough) no one loved me as a child and they enjoyed the power they held over me back then. now that i am a mom, i realize i was hated as a child. i can’t imagine ever doing or saying the things i heard and went through as a child, to my now 9 year old! its healed that broken child in me, seeing my child actually have a childhood and loving her life so much she tells me she never wants to grow up 🥹
when i was her age, all i wanted was to grow up so i can finally be free from the pain. pain is still here, but i manage.
First, I wanted to say thank you for leaving this comment because I feel like nowadays when it’s so obvious someone is having a trauma response, people jump to ripping that person up.
Even just earlier today, I was watching body cam footage of a fatal accident between a drunk nurse and a guy on a motorcycle, and one of the witnesses said “I remember it like it was yesterday” when telling the police about her immediate reaction.
There were so many comments making fun of him when it should be pretty obvious that any person with a shred of empathy is going to be shaken up by witnessing that scene and not going to be the most articulate.
It is honestly very upsetting to me to see the ratio of people shitting on someone (especially in that case, I mean one woman drunkenly killed a man with no remorse, the guy just didn’t say something right after witnessing something traumatizing, and a lot of people picked that???) vs people having a shred of empathy. I feel like the more time goes on and the shittier it gets out here for a lot of us, the less kindness I see from others, and I don’t want to slip to that other side.
Second, I am so glad you were able to get therapy! I wish you a happy life.
At least some of it was being high or drunk. Didn't look or sound like alchohol as a recovering alchoholic so I'd guess drugs. There was a follow up article that had an update shoing she had submitted rehab documents to the court.
Yeah she was apparently high. Maybe stims? Idk.
I agree it doesn't look like alcohol.
I think it can be drugs AND trauma though like some people are arguing drugs alone will do that. It can be both.
Abusing drugs itself can be a trauma response
Not defending driving while intoxicated or a hit and run.
Yeah I can agree that we don't know exactly. Usually I thought people with personality disorders also have PTSD anyway too. Whatever was going on she needed mental health treatment too. She was charged and went to rehab. Hopefully that helped and she was able to get additional mental health help if she needed it.
Exactly what I was thinking, this is clearly someone who has reverted back to the mind of a child (or they never left the mind of a child lol). She’s more worried about how much “trouble” she’ll be in with her grandma instead of making the best of her situation by making logical adult choices. She’s being controlled by fear right now and that usually doesn’t come out of nowhere, no one taught her the correct response to stress. Still her fault, but somewhat sad to watch
It stood out to me that her last words were her apologizing twice, instead of any kind of angry insult. She also kept the same demeanor the whole time, it’s not like intentional manipulation where people will rotate between sadness/anger/apathy to see what works. I can’t see someone who’s clearly genuinely panicking and not feel bad for them, it’s just a sad situation all around.
I'm angrier w person filming who is just so annoying. Cop complex if ever I heard. Take your picture of tag and step aside before youre run over. He's just ridiculous.
Thank God I'm not the only one. I watched a video today of a 22 year old (iirc) who witnessed a man blow through a red light and hit a semi. He almost hit/hurt her, but she was able to stop in time and then stayed and called 911. She did very much the same thing, except she was on the phone with dispatch rather than filming. But eventually she blocked him in and confronted him, exactly like this guy. The man, a 62 year old, was apparently pushing her away and hitting/grabbing her. She pulled out her (legal) gun. There was a struggle and he got shot and died.
She got life in prison. Not just because she killed him, but also for false imprisonment for blocking him in like that. They said her playing vigilante was reckless and dangerous and a rational person wouldn't do it. She had no right. She could have gotten his plate number and moved on. Every single person, the lawyers, judge, jury, and all the people in the comments aggreed she had no right or business blocking him in and trying to forcefully demand he turn himself into the police.
Yet this guy does it and it's fine? I watched his dash cam footage, you couldn't even see the accident. He was way down the highway and came up on it. He immediately pulled over and got involved, even though everyone involved was out of the cars and walking around uninjured. Then he took it upon himself to chase her down and confront her. As everyone pointed out in the other video I watched, leaving the scene usually just results in a citation. He escalated the situation and made it worse. He's lucky it didn't end with worse happening. But if we say it's ok when one person does it and then lock up and condemn others for the same behavior, it sends mixed messages. You can't possibly know if it's gonna end up with someone hurt or dead before hand. So let's not allow it at all.
Yeah, not funny at all, seing a traumatized person panicking while high is just sad. Seeing the fear instilled by grandma, don't ask why she's using drugs.
Spot on. When I was 8, I was hit by car riding my bike, their fault. They jumped out said something like"Oh my God are you ok? I so sorry. Are you ok?" I was so scared my mom was going to find out and I would get a whopping, that I jumped back on my bike, bleeding from road burn, leaving the scene crying and yelling at the person "Please don't tell my mom!" Now here I am 35 years later... that poor driver.
Aw I really love the understanding in the comments.
I had many times in my youth where my fear of my mother trumped death. Multiple times I chose potential death (idiot teenager/surgery/smoker/mom didnt know), because I was more terrified of her. Dying under sedation sounded nice anyways.
There are a few cases where they scream cptsd.
Like when girls get in trouble for hiding their pregnancy/baby. That would've been me. I would have hid it as long as I could have.
Why do people in these situations not realize the person recording has your face, voice, and plates?
at least in this situation, clearly she's panicking like crazy. there's no real thinking going on, her brain just shut down and all she can think of is escaping the situation and worrying about her grandma
because being mean doesn't raise proper lol.
Jail isn't that scary. Being beaten or psychologically abused by someone who is supposed to love you is far worse than a jail cell.
I once dated a woman like this and you don't realize how bad the situation is until something like this happens. We were out one night and her door got dented and she just broke down in tears and screaming about how her Dad was going to kill her. I don't have an evil father so I didn't understand why he would be so upset because it wasn't her fault.
When I met her father I realized why she broke down. He was a fire chief and started beating her everyday since the age of about five and it continued into her 20s. He would beat her with wire hangers, grab her by the hair and pull her down the stairs, kick her so hard in the ass that she would puke and he would shove her face in the vomit afterwards.
Her mother was worse than the father and would call her stupid for even bringing it up and just berate her all of the time.
Also, her brother started raping her when she was about 11 years old. He was the darling of the family. He scored a 36 on his ACT, went to West Point, and then joined the Marines. There were news stories written about him in the local paper. All the time, he was raping his own sister. He is pure evil. I'm sure he didn't know how to control himself because of the daily beatings from his father and the strange emotional relationship he had with his mother.
We have no idea what other people go through. I am giving this child the benefit of the doubt here. I feel a deep sadness for what her life must be like.
Probably a woman who has never said I love you too that poor child (girl or boy, shouldn't matter) when they needed it most, but will probably bring up for years a minor fender bender
Because she is in full on panic and RUNNN mode... She kept getting out of the car and crying and then getting back in the car over and over and it was very obvious that she was not thinking clearly.
Yeah I’ve felt stress like that and completely lost mental function. That’s like full on panic attack, and it sucks. That’s when stress breaks you and you’ve got nothing left.
Lmfao dude it is not. He's preventing the car from leaving, she could easily just walk away. No cop is gonna be like "ah, false imprisonment of a motor vehicle!" It seems like he chased her there and she somehow got herself stuck in the parking spot with his car behind her? Pretty funny.
She’s not thinking clearly. Maybe it’s her first accident and she doesn’t know how to process it. You can see it in her face. She’s literally having a meltdown. No amount of logical talking to her will bring her back. Only time will melt that stress and then she’ll see the errors she made.
I had my first accident at 32, and it was minor. My car got the majority of the damage. I was changing lanes, and the other car was in my blind spot. When I pulled over to exchange information and call the cops, I was shaking and crying so much, the cops asked me if I was okay once they showed up. They thought I was probably on something. Just incredibly scared and upset. I felt so so bad for the guy I hit (He was a nurse at U of M Hospital during freaking covid). Some highly anxious people just behave like this without drugs being involved.
My first accident was fatal. I got pushed into a wall but there was no witnesses. The knockout i received from said wall and the involuntary pitting of other dude resulted in his death. I was 18. I was a mess for months. The news said I was dead because of the damage and size of my car in comparison to his truck. Fucked my life up for a while.
My first thought, based on the erratic and uncoordinated movement was that she was on drugs. Based on the later reporting (substance abuse program was part of her court case) that is likely to be true.
I also know women who aren’t heavy drinkers nor drug users that act erratic when under heavy stress. I say women simply because the subject of the video was also a woman. You can see the meltdown coming sometimes as the stress builds. Then I spend time simply trying to talk them down off the ledge or finding them a safe space to just allow time to do its job.
This is also a teenager (likely) or young college student. She’s in volleyball attire and I have no context of whether she’s headed to a game, just finished practice, etc.
I searched her name in court records. Several arrests and trials for thefts and drugs.
I am not saying that this might not be stress or panic, but the way her movements are uncoordinated and her fixation on certain actions and ideas reads more like a freak-out while high, rather than an pure stress reaction.
Movement when having a stress reaction tends to be jerky, with fine motor control going to pot, but balance and fast movements being pretty good and coordinated.
Drugs will cause instability, and more loopy, uncoordinated motion, which is what I see in the video.
Expertise: ex-EMT, ex-bouncer (I have seen lots of people in altered states of consciousness - from panic, trauma response, to inebriation from most substances)
I mean yeah, being shocked about being in first accident is one thing but that alone doesn't explain this. Just a complete reckless menace. If drugs are not involved I'd be very surprised.
I think the first time it got posted years ago it said she's was like 16/17 and coming home from volleyball practice. Probably her first accident and freaked.
She’s in her 20’s and intoxicated, why are people just making shit up to try to make her a victim? She almost ran him over, she could have killed someone. Panicking is NOT an excuse for the shit she pulled
Take a look at that smashed in back door handle, I'm not sure it's working. Maybe the other side, but I don't think she's very good in the critical thinking department lol.
Panicked and just trying to leave the situation but the dummy with the camera is making it worse. He already has the plates and video, idk why hes basically trying to detain her there.
What if she pulled out a gun and finished him, total moron.
She was probably high as fuck on an upper guy is lucky she didn't resort to running his ass over. Empathy and reason is not something people have when on drugs.
It's more about her distress, when you're distressed you don't always coordinate right .The person involved with her misfortune doesn't show up, we don't know the full story. Possibly it's not even her car. Basically, she panicked.
Tbh I think that thing was only going through one of the front doors, the curve of the bumper would make it more difficult from the back. Since it's as wide as the car it had to go back to front hanging in the passenger seat, "2x4s from Lowe's in moms sedan" style
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