Husband going away for 3 weeks

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Alright y’all, I need some insight. My LO will be 16 weeks old when I got back to work (3 days in office, two at home) and then my husband (a touring musician) is expected to go on a 3-week long tour the day after Thanksgiving until right before Christmas. So our daughter will be 18-ish weeks when he leaves.

We aren’t sending her to daycare because he’ll be the stay at home parent when he comes back from tour, but I am having MAJOR anxiety about him leaving me for 3 weeks straight, especially to do nights alone. Not to mention, the supposed 4 month sleep regression is going to be during that time, and I’m coming back during my industry’s busiest season.

We talked last night and I told him that I don’t think I’ll be able to handle him being gone that long (he’s not even playing on this tour, it’s not his band, so it doesn’t further his career in any kind of way, but that’s for another conversation).

Luckily, he doesn’t really want to go either even though the money is decent (I’m the higher earner in the relationship so I absolutely have to go back to work).

Anyone with experience, I’d greatly appreciate some advice! Or anyone with a newborn solo parenting, HOW DID YOU DO IT?! We can’t afford a night nurse so that’s out of the question.