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u/patrick66 5h ago edited 5h ago
Uh she should dump you lol
If someone says no touching, don’t touch lmao
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u/taymache 5h ago
Nah this is weird. It’s normal for people to want to do this in private. Ur def the AH here
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u/tooshorttoored 5h ago
You are 29 years old and got stressed out all day because a woman said no to you about a very, very very mild thing. Holy shit you need therapy. You have no understanding of consent, and it’s gross.
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u/TheRaspyPoultry 5h ago
dude you asked, she said no, then you did it anyway and now you're upset she enforced a boundary? that's not about compatibility, that's about you not listening
she's a teacher on a school field, even if kids are far away that's just common sense. the stress you're feeling is probably guilt my man
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u/Amazing-Wave4704 5h ago
Not sure if OP is sentient enough to feel guilty. Seems pretty lacking in self awareness.
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u/myshitsmellslikeshit 5h ago
Why are you making excuses for him?
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u/Amazing-Wave4704 5h ago
That wasn't an excuse. It was a carefully curated insult (which apparently was effective since it went over your head. ) 😂
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u/mugen-and-jin 5h ago
This this feel way too immature for adults to be writing this. Your gf is a teacher? Are you a student? Lol. Respect her boundaries fool
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u/thedesignedlife 5h ago
Holy f, please break up with this girl because you’ve somehow normalized acting like a damn creep and not respecting consent or boundaries.
If being able to touch her in public is a dealbreaker break up with her, but I’m shocked she hasn’t broken up with you because respecting boundaries is also a dealbreaker for most women.
The fact that you straight up ignored her spoken boundaries is disturbing.
This is exactly why so many women are afraid of men. We say no and you hear whatever you want to hear. If I was dating someone and they did this it would be an instant deal breaker, not because of a silly butt grab but because it would give me a ton of information about your character and how you see women, and how you don’t respect boundaries.
Please break up with this woman so she can date someone who is not a creep.
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u/Elhelmina 5h ago
Wrong sub but YTA, she should be the one dumping your ass. She said no to ass-touching, very explicitly, and then you went and did it anyway. It may seem like a minor thing to you, but it is a boundary she set and you decided not to respect it. Shame on you.
And even though you feel like there's no one looking, the fact is that you were still in a very public place surrounded by children. What the hell man.
Break up with her or grow the fuck up, she deserves better.
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u/Artistic-Valuable283 5h ago
We weren't surrounded tbf. They were across the field on the playground, you couldn't even see their faces
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u/Cecil_B_DeCatte 5h ago
That isn't the point. Your GF told you not to do something, but you did it anyway. She needs to dump your ass.
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u/miladyknight 5h ago
Yeah, it's break-up worthy for her to break up with you over your total lack of respect for her (clearly stated!) boundary.
Honestly I hope you do break up with her over this so she has a chance to find a partner who respects her.
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u/Sea-Whole9297 5h ago
To me, an ass touch in public when people aren't looking (the kids were too far away) is an important part of a relationship and intimacy.
🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮
Please just get an AI gf or a sex robot and leave women alone
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u/IcePlanetGoth 5h ago
You're pushing 30 and throwing a fit over this? You'd be a creep for dumping her over it but she now has two strong reasons to dump you.
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u/Kitty20996 5h ago
You're wrong for thinking that your desires trump someone else's boundaries. What you did was gross and stupid. She does not owe you access to her body. I hope you do break up so she can find someone who respects her.
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u/Dependent_Tone3704 5h ago
So, you ask her and if she tells you no, you do it anyway and if she stands up for herself you vaguely threaten a break up...
Do you hear yourself?
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u/Prestigious-Bite- 5h ago edited 4h ago
You were extremely disrespectful and honestly, she should dump YOU.
First, there were children present. Gross. You were acting sexually IN FRONT OF CHILDREN. Grow up.
Second, doing this in public is disrespectful to others. I don’t want to see strangers groping each other.
Third, and most importantly she said NO.
You violated her by touching her NON-CONSENSUALLY!
You need to start therapy immediately to start learning basic respect for others.
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u/fyrelight3 5h ago
Getting to touch her ass in public is an important part of a relationship?? Dude you sound pathetic. Get a blowup doll or something.
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u/theatrejunky427 5h ago
How are you both nearly 30 years old and still groping each other at school activity fields? Fucking WEIRD.
Leave her ass alone. Leave ALL women’s asses alone. Especially at children’s parks tf
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u/myshitsmellslikeshit 5h ago
Heyyyyy a man who can't respect boundaries and uses plausible deniability as armor. Who's shocked.
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u/softshoulder313 5h ago
I'm a retired teacher. What you wanted her to do and where is an absolute no go. I can't tell you how many people I've heard about getting hauled off the school grounds for even making out. It's called lewd conduct and indecency depending on the laws where you live.
If the school was closed you both could have been trespassing depending on where you live. If she works at the school it could have risked her job. Cameras are everywhere just because there weren't physical people there doesn't mean no one would see it.
And when anyone says no you should listen.
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u/PodricksMagicStick 5h ago
Like I discuss with my kids. No means no.
That being said if she is not compatible with your idea of a working relationship break up.
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u/anubis_cheerleader 5h ago
Is this ragebait? If it's not, don't date people who don't like having their asses touched in public. That's a you thing, btw; that's a kink you have.
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u/Amazing-Wave4704 5h ago
Dont disrespect your gf by groping her ass in public.
Dont disrespect your gf when she says NO.
Dont disrespect your gf by getting pouty when she keeps to her boundaries instead of letting you trample them.
Dear gf if you see this please run.
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u/ShelfLifeInc 5h ago
You touched her ass in public after she told you she didn't want you to, and you found the interaction stressful?
Am I putting too much emphasis on compatibility in this specific?
I think touching my gf's ass in public if no one is watching is an important part of a relationship
Yes, it's weird to be this specific and focused on "I MUST be able to touch your ass in public/when I want to."
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u/OHFUCKMESHITNO 5h ago
Bruh.
Yeah, this is breakup worthy; she should break up with you.
She literally denied consent and you did it anyways.
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u/mercy_fulfate 4h ago
info:
How is not touching someone's ass in public stressful? I find that very confusing
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u/deepcutnonsense 4h ago
She told you to mind your hands on her body and it “stressed” you out? First time being told no?
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u/dadofalex 5h ago
If we take away all the justified harshness about consent, as well as the setting, and answer your question, the desire to touch her ass is a preference and not wrong, per se. If it’s important you be able to express affection in that way and she isn’t into it, and it’s that big of a deal, then yeah, you should let her go. Otherwise, you’ll have to accept this as a no fly zone and respect her boundaries.
It’s breakup worthy of you decide it is
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u/attorneyatghost 5h ago
She should be thinking about breaking up with you because of your dubious understanding of consent