Thinking about it, she wouldn't HAVE TO fuck other guys, just NOT fuck the husband. Also, nobody else fuck him either. Then, technically, he could potentially be a married incel.
deadbedrooms is just failing sexual relationships. I haven’t stumbled into it for years (maybe decades.. god I’m old), but it used to just be about relationships where people had slowly fallen out of having sex and didn’t know / wanted advice on how to recover.
Bro holy fuck. I have a somewhat problematic 13 year old who straight up blows us off when we request she follow our household expectations (take care of your space, pick up after yourself, help clean shared things like picking up after dinner and litter boxes etc, nothing crazy). We have 2 others that got it, no issues. All honor roll students too. But BOY HOWDY that place makes me feel like fucking SuperDad. Yikes. I feel for those people, they are genuinely having a hard time but it seems like 90% is mental health or consequences of bad decisions. Some hard reads in there.
Just because the person isn't having sex doesn't mean they are involuntarily celibate. Can they work towards changing the situation they are in to get what they want? With in reason of course.
That originally incel was for those unfortunate people who were very undesirable because both nature and life can be cruel and careless.
then morphed to misogynistic groups of men who used it to vent grievances of entitlement to sex.
Now here, being used as a catch-all for someone who isn't getting laid.
Unless there is serious long term repercussions to ending the marriage and seeking a new partner, they are not involuntarily celibate.
This is why you should avoid getting married most of the time. If you have an inkling that your bedroom might become dead and it’s important to you ask the right questions or never marry them
We’ve always had problems but this is such a regressive time period that has undone many rights we worked very hard for.
I will never normalize pedo in chief or having people in our cabinet that proudly proclaim they’d repeal the 19th. Anyone who says “Trumper” has lost its meaning are telling on themselves
Agreed, I actually feel the same way about "incel." If you say, "I can't be an incel, I have a wife/girlfriend," then you're intentionally deflecting from what was said.
"Incel" refers to the ideology and has for quite awhile now.
Believe it or not but words can have different meanings in different situations/contexts. And words changing their meanings over time, regardless of how useful they are. That’s just how language works my guy.
You missed the point of the person you're replying to. People throw that word around in assumption. I was called a Trumper several times, even after Trump literally ruined my life with his policies post election. I have more reason to hate that person than nearly anyone, and guess what? Random idiots on the internet throw the word around to the point that, yes, it's unfortunately lost its meaning. Or it's being misused constantly to the point of having basically zero meaning.
Just like incel though, you don't have to support trump to be called a trumper. A lot of people use words that they think will inflict some form of invalidation on someone else at the most minor and unrelated disagreements these days.
Its not so much that its lost its meaning as that its become comically misused by people on the internet who think it just means "loser I dont like" lol
Misandry is always out in the open and is often lauded by women who think they’re egalitarian. Idk why so many are okay with being hated just for being a male
Like it would work if it actually applied to the person you are trying to insult, it actually might be something they are self conscious about, but if they aren’t an incel going “I bet you are an incel! 🤣” doesn’t really mean anything at all. “Uhh, no I’m not?”
Like prove someone wrong if you want them to feel stupid. All that comes across as is desperate mud-slinging because one can’t prove the other person incorrect. “I bet your are an incel lololol! 🤣”
The issue here is probably a breakdown of communication which is a massive component of a successful marriage. Lack of communication moves into resentment. You gotta break out of that before it gets to resentment. If you can’t do that get a divorce.
Trumper is definitely a useful signifier. Are you pro choice? Do you think we shouldn’t invade foreign countries under false pretenses? Are you a fan of the constitution? If you answered no to these questions, I know who you voted for, and that’s useful data
Ironically I know people who are pro choice and down think USA should invade foreign countries and still voted for Trump. And would vote for him again if they could despite what he has done.
I don’t think who people have sex with, is any limiting of their ability to be a Nazi or a commie or a MAGA (bootlicker is the MAGA like damn is to God). Like I don’t think there is a high chance that the combination of all those things are accurate, but with 8 billion people on the planet and millions of ai bots on Reddit, there has got to be at least one person/bot all those would be accurate for.
I was gonna say. there is possibly 2-3 more in the blurred way back seats and I see a pair of titties in a green shirt right above the candy bar or whatever that is. There is also a pair way back in the top right in the grey shirt.
Yeah, I've noticed this weird shit, too. Made a post about it here. I can't say its been overwhelming, but I've seen a very specific narrative being pushed by a few people about her. Suggesting that the spaces she plays in must certainly mean she's aligned with red pilled types. Don't really get why.
for sure i counted 6 on the left and maybe 1 or 2 on the right (tough call based on 25% of a face). So that's like 2 women to 3 men in what must be a very small sample size of a conference hall, and the photo had to be cropped and centered asymmetrically to remove as much of a person I strongly suspect as being a woman in the front row as possible.
all so someone could fearmonger over nothing in exchange for likes
Always crazy how words end up getting overused into the ground becoming meaningless. Like someone you’re actively fucking is telling you that you’re a guy who can’t get laid? While actively laying with you? Lmao. Ffs 🤦
For anyone who wants the actual explanation of the joke in the post, it has to do with her starring role in the movie Obsession that came out this summer. It's what made her famous. I don't want to spoil it for anyone, though. It's on peacock for anyone interested. I thought it was pretty entertaining.
I just recently watched it (still scared to look in the corners of my room at night) but I don’t see what it has to do with a lack of women in the photo
The joke isn't noticing the lack of women. The joke is that she built herself a fanbase of incels because of what happened in the film.
Potential spoiler:
Main dude in the film never stood a chance with a girl not because she would never be interested, but because he was way to insecure of himself. She even asked him, point blank, multiple times if he liked her and still wouldn't tell her, let alone make a move. One of them was literally while he was taking her home. Even after the wish, she tried to get him off the car to stay with her and he closes the car door and puts in his seatbelt! Golden opportunities handed to him on a silver platter. Later on, he even asks her "what's so wrong with being with me?" as if it's her fault they couldn't be together organically, not his.
He decides to make her fall in love with him and keep it that way... even after realizes she is truly suffering under her non-automomous state as if he's entitled to her unconditional, hopeless-obsessed state of infatuation with him. A lot of people have different opinions on what "incel" means, but all the above would check the boxes of many people's definition of the word.
The joke is that incels would love this sort of fantasy to be true .. especially with someone as charming as Inde who was already seemingly willing to give an "incel" a chance.
I'm not saying it's a hilarious joke, in good taste, or that I necessarily condone it, but that was my interpretation of it.
The only people that I have ever seen get offended by the world female is redditors. Idk why they're trying to make this word seem bigger than it actually is.
It's more-so when someone uses the word "men" to refer to men, and "females" to refer to women. It dehumanizes women by reducing them to their sexual organs. "Female" is generally a misogynist dog-whistle because of that distinction.
Yeah incel really lost all meaning when it became something you called other people rather than something they called themselves.
Back in the day, there was valid critique around it because it was a movement of men calling themselves that, insisting they were somehow victimized by a lack of sex. It was an extremely toxic part of the manosphere.
But now it’s just an insult people throw around to mean “haha you don’t have sex”. Basically the same as a high school bully calling someone “virgin,” and just as vapid.
There term incel comes from a Canadian woman. She was using it to describe herself.
The Original Meaning: Alana launched an all-text website called "Alana’s Involuntary Celibacy Project" to serve as a safe, gender-neutral, and supportive online community for lonely people, people who had never been in a relationship, or those struggling with social awkwardness and dating.
Crazy how something a woman came up with to describe herself and to be inclusive with others, has turned into an insult used by women to hurt mens feelings.
That’s always funny when folks talk about how you shouldn’t sexualize strangers and then whip that out. Also funny and problematic when you hear people describe an insecure man as automatically having a small penis or small penis energy.
idk if people are being weird about Inde or not, but I swear this comes up everytime men talk about finding a woman attractive. Gen Z are such a bunch of puritans, so fucking annoying.
Well there's always a few unpleasant individuals who are obsessed with a celebrity. But there is nothing wrong about finding people attractive. Gen Z might be on guard about this sort of thing because they have been on the recieving end of a bunch of weird and abusive behavior.
This is just my own working theory, but my thesis is that Gen Z has actually been LESS on the receiving end of any of this stuff, because so many of them never went outside when growing up and they were raised by the early smartphones.
They thus never developed the necessary coping mechanisms to deal with the inevitabilities of this world and the fact that people are people and thus will do weird shit. That's why so many of them are also so weird about sex.
They're fighting this uphill battle of trying to bend the world to their will and change human behavior while us older folks grew up with a more apathetic "it is what it is" mindset and just learned to deal with it. Maybe it's a bit commendable even, I don't know.
As a Gen X woman, I’d like to suggest that earlier generations of people were subject to far more heinous shit than the run of the mill Gen Zer. I’ve recounted some of the things that were normal back then and my Gen Z son was horrified. Especially since we had no cell phones to use when things went sideways.
I was about to say.. I didn’t know we were supposed to hate her? I love her and I don’t know a single person man or woman who’s seen the movie and doesn’t love her?
She rose to fame on a movie where a guy she friend-zoned wishes she would love him in a monkey paw type situation.
So I’d guess the joke is her sudden male fan base would identify with the male main character in her hit movie. Incels (involuntary celibate). Those guys do have a similar vibe to the main character. He’d fit right in.
The movie Obsession you could say had to do with an incel that would rather make a wish to get the girl than to actually face his fears and talk to her like a human being.
So the leap in logic here (and the joke) is that instead of just a movie about incels, Inde is choosing a fandom that is popular with incels.
So the common thread is that her popularity is because of incels. That’s the joke. It’s not a great one, but it’s what the OP meme is saying.
In professional use, that's how parlay is used. It's to take a small role and use it to develop into a big role.
Merriam Webster: "to increase or otherwise transform into something of much greater value"
(She parlayed $5,000 and years of hard work into a multimillion-dollar company.)
She got flooded with horror movie offers after Obsession killed at the box office. She famously turned down the other horror roles to pick the X-Men movie.
One definition of parlay is to take a small asset, skill, or winning into something much larger. I used parlay here to mean she’s leaving her horror movie type-cast role to catapult into mainstream movies.
After the movie Obsession, I guess the posters are assuming all her fans are like Bear. It seems kind of a stretch, given how the events play out, but then again, fandom sometimes misses logic entirely.
As someone less agitated... It does get a bit frustrating when people are so quick to label you as an Andrew Tate stan for having a nuanced opinion about anything related to men. It honestly just shuts down the conversation and is pretty counterproductive.
"Hey, it kinda sucks that men get their feelings invalidated when they try to be vulnerable" and then getting my feelings invalidated is something that has happened to me personally many times.
Same but trying to tell my story about why I’m uncomfortable with hugs due to sexual abuse I received growing up. It’s very telling when all I hear is “a pretty girl grabbed your junk you know you liked it” from every girl I mention it to.
Danielle Fabiola "Inde" Navarrette is an American actress. She began acting in short films as a teenager, before landing roles in the drama series 13 Reasons Why and the superhero series Superman & Lois.
Incel is short for involuntarily celibate. People who want to have sex, but nobody wants to have sex with them.
There are 3 kinds of incel.
The kind that follow dudebro podcasters and pickup artists because they want a cheat code into women’s pants but actually just come off as creeps. See: anyone who follows Andrew Tate. These are easily the most toxic
The kind that have given up on pursuing sex (but still want it) and have formed parasocial relationships with famous women (often on onlyfans). That’s what Oop was implying given the famous woman with a predominantly male audience (as long as you don’t scrutinize the image at all). See the last episode of Nathan for You or any man who has ever paid to see the same woman naked multiple times.
The third kind are just normal dudes who are awkward but keep trying. You may have heard about The lonesome looser, he keeps trying.
Disappointing that you simultaneously brought me back the fun summer of '79 but somehow misspelled loser despite linking to vid where correct spelling is featured prominently, not that anyone should need the help.
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