I have this funny feeling that that doctor's idea of a 'high paying job' was as biased as their ideas about ADHD, and would never include any form of sex work no matter how much money you made from it.
Yea, actually. I often get bored and masturbate anyways 🤣 it's remembering to often hit record that the problem. ADHDers tend to be more promiscuous due to our sensation seeking needs lmfao. I definitely don't argue with that at all 😂
Well it's not worded that way, but it's basically what that psychiatrist would do. When I saw his assistant I explained that I knew I wasn't suicidal but felt more like things would be better for everyone if I didn't exist at all in the first place.
I saw myself how Gregory was in Metamorphosis, he felt like he was a burden because of a condition he couldn't control affecting his ability to work and provide for his family. Much like him, I wasn't able to mask things anymore and was becoming a liability who needed more support, because I kept getting fired from places over obvious symptoms of mental illness. Sympathy for filing lawsuits over this blatant discrimination had also faded nearly instantly after the first time it happened, however my doctor want me to get an adult diagnosis before trying any ADHD medication, even though Human Rights considered my childhood diagnosis as a valid incurable life-long condition.
When I finally saw the psychiatrist he just sat there looking at me, who was quite disheveled because I had pretty much a mental breakdown before I could even get to see him, try to figure out if anything was wrong with me. He completely dismissed anything his assistant said about what he observed and that I needed help. He just took out the DSM5 booklet he had looked at it briefly, before trying to explain that I couldn't have ADHD because I graduated high-school with Honours, and had been attending college at the time (I was between years) and was getting top grades for what was essentially high-level university classes because of the program I chose. He was convinced a person with ADHD, especially a woman, couldn't have graduated high-school if they had that condition.
I was quite mad, because on all of the forms I signed I put down I was Non-binary, which is valid in Canada as an option (still have to identify your biological sex in hospitals so they know what physical & hormonal care you needed). So, he misgendered me intentionally and was misogynistic to boot. Secondly he completely was dismissing the person who actually was observing my symptoms and listened to what I had to say about my mental well-being. Just because I'm classified as an extremely intelligent person (my IQ was also measured as being 136, which basically just meant I was 36% faster at understanding concepts than an average person), doesn't mean I couldn't suffer from mental illness, especially one that's highly hereditary and frequently a problem in my family... the only people who didn't complete high-school in my mother's side also has level 3 Autism.
So, yeah he basically was being fired for not doing his job properly and his poor assistant apologized on his behalf, when I left that day.
I have ADHD and I did great in school. It was a very structured environment with clear, short-term deadlines, and I got a rush of dopamine whenever I got a good grade.
Sitting through a work meeting on the other hand...🫠
Bonus points to the literal professional who diagnosed me with autism + adhd then said that she didn't think I needed medication 'because for you they cancel eachother out'.
The right medication has been literally life changing for me, shout out to the psychiatrist I went to who had adhd himself and was willing to prescribe me meds, despite the previous person saying she thought I didn't need them.
Do you mind me asking what medication worked for you? I’m AuDHD also, but neither medikinet or Vyvanse did anything for me and I’m still hoping there’s something out there that will help 😮💨
Atomoxetine! It's not a stimulant and works way better for me than any of the stimulants I tried. You can take it regularly without building up tolerance (it actually works better over time), plus it stays in the system longer so you don't get the crash that stimulants can give. The downside is it takes 4-6 weeks for you to adjust to taking it, and the side effects typically start early (then ease off) while the benefits come later.
Good luck! There's a lot of misinformation out there because it can take so long to work, and (like any medication) you can get bad side effects from it, so be wary of anyone claiming that it's utterly evil and doesn't work.
I've given up on receiving medication for my AuDHD.
People I know who have it, have told me in no uncertain terms that I could definitely use it, but every doctor I've seen about it has said that I "don't need it because I function just fine without it"...
I can't afford to keep seeing doctors that will refuse to help me, especially when everything is so expensive nowadays
Ugh same. I trained myself to make eye contact to avoid punishment and I've had people say I don't seem autistic because of it.
My mom used to say, "Look me in the eyes and tell me the truth." So I'd look her in the eyes and lie right to her face. Like, why did she think eye contact would change the content of what I was going to say?
If I'm making eye contact, I'm lying. it's one of my tells now.
Telling the truth in my house was a trap. Lying was safer, telling the truth was a guaranteed punishment. "We won't punish you if you tell the truth." is complete bullshit and a lie-trap. That was really hard for me to figure out.
Not as bad, but it was basically the same for me. "Why don't you look me in the eyes, are you lying?" No, I just hate it and they never got it. So now I look people straight into the eyes and tell them whatever bullshit they want to hear because clearly they don't give a fuck about the truth anyway.
My dad got mad at me when I asked why people lie all the time. To be fair I now understand that there's gotta be a balance (i.e. saying 'I'm fine' to a cashier or whoever even if you're having a bad day), but neurotypicals (in my experience) lie constantly and it is exhausting.
People get mad (sometimes) when you lie and get mad (sometimes) when you tell the truth, and apparently you're supposed to just know when to switch.
I'm still annoyed how 'I don't know' apparently doesn't count as an answer, even if that's the only true answer you have.
"How does this work", not because I fon't get it, but because I really want to know how it works and how it connects to the bigger picture, because only then can figure out how to make the whole process more efficient from start to end.
Occupational health doctor contacted by my work did that. I was able to make brief eye contact and shake his hand, therefore I didn't appear to have ASD. Very happy to put all my health issues down to being obese though 🙄
How long ago was that diagnosis? I got diagnosed ADD as a kid, forgot about it (lol), and found out it got merged with ADHD and is now called Inattentive ADHD.
When I was getting my diagnosis they were like "well I know you're not because.. we're talking right now" and I'm like that sounds like really bad stereotyping but it was already a really bad hard time so I didn't say shit
I have trained myself to make eye contact. It is, apparently, unnerving. Make up your mind people. Do you want me to look at you when you're talking to me or not‽
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u/dumn_and_dunmer Aug 01 '26
A medical professional told me I couldn't be autistic because I was very coherent.