Hard agree. Deadbedrooms, like a lot of advice reddit used to have more nuance in the posts and responses. Now its all about leaving the situation because the other person fucked up. Its never about personal responsibilities and one's role in the situation.
The people who resolve or improve their situations tend to move on, meaning those who remain in those communities are generally the ones who won’t or cant fix things. Which in turn means that the institutional support and advice to be found slowly gets more and more useless and toxic.
And that’s assuming it doesn’t get well known and turned into a creative writing sub.
For me, its the mod community. When I first joined it several years ago, it was half-way decent. Then, a few bad apples made it all about themselves and you got the Gordon Ramsey treatment regardless of how much or how little at fault you were. Women usually got the oh dear oh dear treatment while men who vented usually got the "you fucking donkey" treatment.
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u/Sp00ky-Nerd 5h ago
7 days isn’t difficult. Try 7 years 😢