r/relationships • u/Serbianking46 • 1d ago
She said she lost feelings for me
TLDR
We were fighting for 2 weeks she said she lost her feelings for me
So we are 17 we were fighting everyday for 2 weeks than suddenly she said to me she lost feelings and she doesnt feel the same no more, i tried to talk with her but it didnt work, so i told her aight we are gonna break up in saturday, than friday night came and my friend talked to her and proposed we should take a 2 week break, she told him she is stressed out, doesnt have the same feelings for me and wants to be alone, i told her okay i accept the break we kissed and continued the night, then came saturday monday and tuesday, i had zero contact with her i just ignored her whenever i could, then in wednesday i texted her, she was just cold, then she told my friend she loves me but doesnt feel the same, dont have any feelings and just wants to be alone
In school she still looks at me alot, but when i talk i feel like im irritating her, maybe its her defence mechanism because i ignored her for 2 days
I dont know what i should do and of her feelings will come back, should we just break up or try, idk im feeling like i am the only one putting in the work in this break, i changed myself and i acknowledged my mistakes, should i just give her more time?
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u/Nice_Pay8894 1d ago
You already know the answer man she's checked out. The looking at you in school thing is just habit not hidden feelings
Take the L and move on. You're 17 this won't even matter in 6 months
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u/damiana8 1d ago
You’re 17. It’s ok for relationships to end quickly and abruptly and for either of you guys to be fairly immature in your reaction and response to things. It’s ok, just let it go and break up.
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u/tinyzeppelin68 1d ago
end the limbo. stop waiting for her to make up her mind. if she wanted to fix it, she wouldn't be hiding behind needing space while giving mixed signals. walk away with your head held high, accept that it's over and let her go
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u/MermaidTailBlanket 1d ago
This is over; you need to move on. You can't force a relationship on someone who doesn't want it and people's feelings are completely outside of your control. Whether you accept your mistakes and change or not, when feelings are gone, they're gone, so you should acknowledge your mistakes so that you can become a better person, unrelated to her.
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u/Serbianking46 1d ago
Im just sad because yes i made a lot of mistakes and didnt appreciate her, but i also fought her ex boyfriend and now the whole school doesnt like me, maybe what others are thinking about me changed her mind, idk really there could be a lot of factors, its just sad because we loved eachother so much and i have bad relations with everyone now, and she just said she lost feelings
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u/UntakenAccountName 1d ago
Save your self-respect and just walk away. Take what lessons you can from it—I feel like you may have had a good amount of the blame in this situation. Also, she can look at you for a million reasons; I wouldn’t read into that.
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u/Serbianking46 1d ago
Yes i am to blame i really took her for granted while she was obsessed with me, i just hope she will give me a chance to prove im different but at the end its her choice
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u/Miliean 1d ago
You disserve to be enthusiastically chosen.
I know that's sometimes hard to come to grips with as a man because we are generally the ones doing the perusing of woman. But it's none the less true, you deserve to be with someone who wants to be with you.
How that applies in situations like this is deceptively simple. If she wanted to be with you, there would be no uncertainty. If she wanted it, she would want it. While it's possible that this situation could turn around and she might choose to stay, the simple fact is that her doubts tell you all that you actually need to know.
She's not head over heels excited to be with you. She's just not. And things would be better if she were but the truth is that she's not. She's sitting on a fence that could tip in either direction. But that's not good for you, you are a catch just as she is, you deserve someone who's as excited to be with you as you are to be with them. And that's not her.
A lot of times women in this situation send mixed signals because they are accustomed to guys doing everything we can to be with them. They come to a conclusion that they are the catch of the century and that everyone wants to be with them so they don't really need to show excitement or to woo their partner. But that's false, it can take time to show up but it can really destroy a guy if he's always chasing and she's always just out of reach.
She's not nessassarly doing it to be mean or anything like that. She's just uncertain and thinks that she should get to decide and that you will wait.
Don't wait, don't be that guy. You're 17 so I totally get the hormones and how much they are pushing PUSHING you. But, you need to have a level of self confidence and self respect not to chase someone who's just not that into you.
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u/Serbianking46 1d ago
The problem is i made them mistakes, she did everything for me, she was obsessed and i took it for granted, i just want her to give me another chance because i didnt appriciate her enough, i want to show her i changed
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u/titanfan694 1d ago
You are 17. There are so many years and relationships in your future. Dont stress out and let it play out.