r/AskVet • u/Smooth_Fold_6164 • 37m ago
Are we horrible people?
I guess I will just get right into it. My husband and I have 2 dogs. My husband has had our rescue pit bull mix for about 8 years (we’ve been together for 4 years) When he adopted him, he was estimated to be 6-7 years old. He is estimated to be 14 years old now and in the last few months he has been deteriorating quite a bit. He has his moments of energy but we especially see it at night. You can hear his extremely labored breathing from 2 rooms away. He almost seems to have sleep apnea and there’s been a few nights we’ve stayed up worrying about him passing. He has frequent coughing/hacking fits (not while eating, just at random times) that last several minutes. These occur at least twice a day, some days more. He spends most of the day and night sleeping. He has developed visible cataracts. He has been nipping at peoples hands thinking they have food, runs into doors, seems to almost be “lost” and unaware when he is up and moving around. Some nights he needs help getting around. We’ve owned him and loved him more than long enough to see the blatant changes in behavior and family had as well. We made the hard decision to make an appointment to euthanize him. Since we moved to a new area, we called a nearby vet to set up the appointment. They asked if we wanted to do a quality of life exam or if we were decided. I said that we were decided as we didn’t want his last day to be his worst day. Scheduled the appointment and spent the past week coming to terms with our decision, crying and mentally preparing.
He spent the day sleeping prior to the appointment and we took him to Dunkin’ to get hashbrowns. We get to the appointment and being that we’re in a new place with lots of smells he is spry and sniffing around. He was doing the best that he’s done in a while. We mention that to the tech and she said yeah, it’s normal, it’s probably adrenaline. The tech was super sweet and takes us into the room. She tells us that since he hasn’t been seen there before they will do an exam. The vet comes in and immediately becomes what we felt was passive aggressive. We relay all of this information of what’s been going on. She spent the 5 minutes she was in there side eyeing us. She listened to his heart and lungs and said it all sounds “perfect” and says “Im not trying to judge you guys but I don’t see a reason to put him down” and then said she wanted to do xrays and blood work and we can talk about options to extend his life. We were caught off guard because extend it by what? A few months? From all that we’ve researched, the lifespan is 10-15 years. This wasn’t a decision we took lightly. She also waved her hand in front of his head and of course his head moved because he could sense it being there. She said in a tone “looks like he can see perfectly fine to me.” and “I mean I can put him down if you guys really want me to but I don’t see any reason to.”
We requested a moment alone to discuss and they left the room.
We had already felt horrible because obviously no one wants to put their dog down. We felt like they were playing on our emotions to try and sell us services. We decide that we didn’t feel comfortable with this clinic. They charged us $88 for the 5 minutes the vet “looked” at him.
Also when checking in, they asked us if we wanted his paw print stamped on paper which we thought was sweet and said yes, figuring it was maybe like $10. Obviously we didn’t get that far, as we ended up not going through with it. Later we looked at reviews to see someone say that they charged $150 for the stamp without disclosing the price prior to putting his dog down.
Are we crazy or is this normal? The vet made us feel like we couldn’t possibly know our dog. We feel kind of gaslit and confused.