Salaam all,

I went on a 4 hour walking journey today which was very peaceful, AlHamdulillah. It was coming up to Dhuhr time, so I planned to stop by in a nearby town that had a 50% Muslim population and find somewhere to pray before continuing or going home.

Considering the city I'm from has a 3% Muslim population and I've never had any problem finding a place, I thought this would go pretty smoothly and be a peaceful rest in my journey. I was proved horribly wrong.

I spent about 20 minutes doing online research trying to find a mosque that allowed women to pray, wanting to be absolutely sure that they would let me in, and ended up with a selection that was tiny compared to the approx. 40 in the broader area.

I went out to find one on my list, absolutely exhausted by the time that I got there, and I saw a sign in the window that said 'women's only'. At the time I was thinking this was great, there was a guy stood at the door but I figured he was only there as a guard of some kind. I asked him if they were open, and he said yes, and then I asked him if I could pray there whilst pointing at the sign and tried to move in, and he looked at me like I had two heads and said no women allowed 💀

He ended up getting the head of the mosque who was an older man, and he came out to tell me the exact same thing. I pointed out the sign clearly positioned in the window, and he said no women. I then asked him if he knew ANYWHERE in the area where women could pray, and he looked at me like I was some kind of pest and said no whilst waving me off.

The other mosques nearby included one that was gigantic and had a capacity of 4000, but still somehow had not even a broom closet to spare for me. And the entire time I was searching I was being absolutely stared down by the old uncles (which, tbf I was wearing jeans and a shorter jacket, but still doesn't justify not lowering the gaze). At one point I got lost and had to walk back past the original mosque whilst the guy stared at me like I was a deranged maniac.

In the end I couldn't even find a changing room to pray in, and I would normally just find a public park and risk being harassed but I felt so vulnerable and exhausted I just couldn't do it this time. I ended up taking the bus back, crying from the humiliating feeling of it all.

I hate that as a Muslim woman my right to pray and exist in public is more respected by non-believers than many of the men in the community. I feel that I would feel more accepted praying in a pub than in many of the Muslim communities in the UK. I would honestly have felt way less upset if I had been called a slur 💀

How do I deal with the feeling of envy towards the men for being able to walk into any mosque they want and always be accepted as a believer? And how do I look past my anger to seek comfort from Allah in this situation? I'm struggling here, girls.

P.S: if there is anyone here who lives in the Yorkshire area and has any masjid recs it would be greatly appreciated x

رَّبِّ ارْحَمْهُمَا كَمَا رَبَّيَانِي صَغِيرًا
“My Lord, have mercy upon them as they brought me up when I was small.” (Qur’an 17:24)
I want to begin with this du’a because I genuinely love my parents. I am grateful for everything they’ve done for me, and I don’t think I could ever fully comprehend the sacrifices they made, the obstacles they overcame, or how difficult it must have been to build a life for their children.
I’m a Muslim woman approaching 30, the eldest daughter in a large South Asian family, and I feel like I’ve spent my entire life trying to repay my parents for raising me.
My father, especially when I was young, was incredibly involved in my education. He spent hours teaching me, helping me academically, providing resources, and pushing me to become the best version of myself. I recognize how fortunate I was to have those opportunities, and I will always appreciate them.
But somewhere along the way, I think I internalized the idea that I owed my parents my entire life in return.
Growing up, everything felt like a performance.
Academic excellence wasn’t optional. Being obedient wasn’t optional. Learning how to cook, clean, and maintain a household started when I was around 11.
My mother loved hosting, and my sisters and I were expected to help prepare, cook, serve, and clean up afterward. There was always an element of pride associated with being able to tell other people how accomplished, obedient, and helpful her daughters were.
And that’s something I’ve noticed throughout my upbringing: so much of our family life seemed to revolve around what other people thought.
How educated are your children? How religious are they? Are your daughters modest? Are they married? Are they successful? Are they helping their parents? What will the community say?
It sometimes feels like being a good daughter isn’t about who you are as a person, but how well you represent your parents to the outside world.
Financial responsibility became part of my identity very early.
Growing up, I frequently heard about financial difficulties, business struggles, and the importance of earning enough money to help the family.
When my father experienced employment difficulties before COVID, that sense of responsibility became even stronger.
I felt like I needed to grow up quickly, become financially successful, and make life easier for my parents.
And eventually, I did become professionally successful. I worked hard, earned a good income, and contributed substantially to my family over the years.
But even when I first started working, I was taught that Islamically, my earnings belonged to my parents. I was expected to hand over money, and at one point, someone close to my father even insisted that my entire paycheck should go to my parents.
I didn’t know how to challenge these expectations because they were presented to me as religious obligations.
For years, I contributed so much financially that I barely built savings for myself.
I thought that if I could make enough money and alleviate my parents’ financial burdens, I would finally feel emotionally liberated.
I thought financial success would earn me independence.
It didn’t.
And now, after being laid off, I feel even worse.
Without my income, I feel like I’ve lost the one thing that made me valuable to my family. I know intellectually that my worth isn’t determined by my salary, but emotionally, I feel useless.
The expectations have never really stopped.
I have four siblings, and although I love them, I often feel like the responsibilities and standards placed on me are different from those placed on them.
I’ve watched some of my siblings receive support, forgiveness, and opportunities without the same expectations of achievement or contribution.
Meanwhile, I feel like I’ve had to work for everything, prove myself constantly, and accept responsibilities that weren’t necessarily mine.
When I disappointed my parents growing up, there were times when affection was withdrawn, I received the silent treatment, or I was made to feel ashamed.
I think this taught me something deeply unhealthy: that love, approval, and even happiness had to be earned through sacrifice.
I genuinely struggle with accepting good things without feeling like I must suffer for them first.
And now marriage has brought all of this to the surface.
My parents have pressured me to marry for years.
But I have always been reluctant to marry into another family deeply embedded in the same South Asian social circles, where I might spend the rest of my life being evaluated according to the same expectations.
I don’t hate my culture. There are beautiful aspects of it that I cherish. But I desperately want to escape the judgment, comparisons, gossip, and constant concern about appearances that characterized so much of my upbringing.
I finally met someone I genuinely want to marry.
He is a revert to Islam.
He developed what I believe is a sincere and beautiful relationship with Allah. He’s naturally an independent learner, and watching him discover Islam at his own pace has been meaningful to me.
But because he wasn’t born Muslim and doesn’t come from our cultural background, people around my family have questioned his sincerity and religious commitment.
My father was initially supportive. He still has moments when he’s supportive, but his opinions seem to change depending on whom he’s spoken to.
A religious teacher who is close to my father has questioned my partner’s sincerity and has become heavily involved in his religious education.
My partner is now being pressured to follow a rigid learning structure under this teacher, whose approach I find overly harsh and discouraging.
I’ve seen similar teaching methods negatively affect other people in my family.
Instead of feeling encouraged in his relationship with Allah, my partner is beginning to feel overwhelmed and discouraged.
And this is exactly what I wanted to avoid.
I wanted him to love Islam for the sake of Allah, not feel like he has to perform religiosity to earn permission to marry me.
I absolutely understand the importance of learning Islam, establishing salah, and growing in religious knowledge. I’m not suggesting that religious commitment is unimportant.
But I don’t believe that pressuring a new Muslim through fear, suspicion, and constant scrutiny is necessarily the best way to nurture sincere faith.
Sometimes I wonder whether I’m being selfish for asking him to endure the same environment I’ve spent my life wanting to escape.
What hurts most is that I still don’t feel entitled to choose my own happiness.
Even after years of helping my family financially, contributing around the house, helping my parents, and trying to meet their expectations, I still feel like I’m disappointing them.
My mother is particularly concerned with how things appear to relatives and the community. I love her, but our relationship has become emotionally difficult. I often feel judged rather than understood.
And my father, whom I love deeply and whose approval means so much to me, sometimes makes disagreement feel like disrespect.
I feel like all the good I’ve done can be erased by one decision they don’t approve of.
What’s especially difficult is that I feel guilty about things that shouldn’t even be controversial.
For example, I can spend most of the week at home, helping around the house, making my parents tea or coffee, doing chores, and being available to my family.
But if I spend an entire Thursday or Saturday outside with friends or my partner, I feel guilty.
I’m nearly 30 years old.
My parents don’t necessarily even say anything when I return home.
Yet I feel like I’ve broken some invisible rule.
I feel like a bad daughter for simply enjoying my own life.
I can’t explain how exhausting that is.
And the religious guilt makes everything more complicated.
I was raised hearing that disappointing or upsetting your parents could bring Allah’s punishment.
I heard warnings that parents could be punished for their children’s actions, including things like not wearing hijab.
I understand that honoring one’s parents is an enormous obligation in Islam. I believe in birr al-walidayn, and I genuinely want to care for my parents as they age.
My father is getting older, and the thought of him struggling financially or emotionally breaks my heart.
But I don’t know where my obligations end and my own life begins.
Am I responsible for every financial difficulty my parents experience?
Am I responsible for their emotional reactions to my decisions?
Am I sinful for wanting independence?
Am I wrong for wanting to marry a sincere Muslim man who happens to be a revert, rather than someone who meets my community’s cultural expectations?
Am I supposed to sacrifice my savings, emotional well-being, and future to ensure my parents never experience hardship or disappointment?
I know Islam places immense importance on kindness and respect toward parents. But surely there must also be a distinction between honoring them and surrendering every aspect of one’s adulthood.
I feel like I’ve spent my entire life being a daughter, a provider, a caretaker, and someone who makes other people proud.
But I don’t know how to simply be myself.
I don’t know how to make a decision without anticipating my parents’ reactions.
I don’t know how to enjoy something without feeling guilty.
I don’t know how to accept happiness without feeling like I haven’t suffered enough to deserve it.
And I don’t know how to separate my parents’ struggles from my own responsibilities.
The irony is that I don’t even want to abandon my parents. I want to continue loving them, helping them, making du’a for them, and being present in their lives.
I just don’t want to spend the rest of my life feeling like a disappointment because I didn’t become exactly who they envisioned.
I’m exhausted. And I feel defeated.
For those who have experienced something similar, especially Muslim eldest daughters:
How did you learn to honor your parents without making yourself responsible for their every emotion, decision, and hardship?
And for those knowledgeable about Islam, I’d sincerely appreciate Qur’anic and authentic hadith references about the actual financial obligations of adult children toward their parents, the limits of parental authority in marriage, and the distinction between disobedience and respectfully making independent decisions.
I don’t want advice telling me to abandon my parents or disrespect them. I love them too much for that.
I just want to understand whether Islam genuinely requires the degree of self-sacrifice I’ve been taught, or whether I’ve spent my life confusing cultural expectations, guilt, and fear with religious duty.
I want to be a good Muslim, a good daughter, and eventually a good wife.
But for once in my life, I also want to feel like I’m allowed to be happy.

Are there any girls here who are based around London who’d like to play a sport together? Could be tennis, badminton whatever. I’d really like a partner to play with (I’m a complete beginner btw!) and it’s hard to find other ladies who’d like to do the same.

I've been daydreaming since my childhood. Earliest date I can remember is 2nd grade elementary school. I cant stop doing it to this day. I do daydreaming whenever I can. I feel the need to do it every 15 to 20 mins. I cant even focus on my salah bc of this. Has any of sisters here have this? It gradually increased each year and now I'm mid 20 and I can't live without it. The scenarios I create with my favorite characters are like my source of happiness and comfort. Sometimes I imagine them comforting me or hugging me. I wonder why I do it so often to the point where I cannot go an hour with doing it. Sometimes I am captured by this and don't hear the sounds around me unless they are loud enough to catch my attention. I need to hear your experiences sisters.

So to set the scene i was on a study abroad trip and met a bunch of girls for the first time. One of the girls i knew of vaguely as she was a daughter of a family friend and seemed nice enough at the beginning

As soon as we got there she switched up. She dropped the sweet persona and for the best part of the next two months her and i were in this hot-n-cold dynamic where one day she would seem like a really good friend and the next day would switch up on me depending on her mood, which was more often that not. Interestingly though she always kept up a fake smiley persona with the other girls and always played things right by always being kind to them. I saw right through it because she would even backbite to me about some of the girls she was nice to. This was a big red flag for me amongst others

As for how she treated me… she made me feel like a burden around her even though i was the one who brought her along.

She would always give me sly insulting digs, under a pretence of ‘its a joke’ and i felt so vulnerable and confused about her switching up on me i would assume it was just that… until it was so regular i had accepted that was just the way it was and i was too far gone to change anything… ofc that just enabled her even more to be rude to me. She constantly belittle me and make me feel bad about myself under subtle guises

The one time i clapped back and tried her own method of ‘insults under jokes’ she called me out infront of the girls, made me look bad, said i was ‘PMS-ing’ and sayin I was rude and mean. I felt so irritated. The same way, and worse she had treated me, the minute i give her a small taste of her own medicine she made herself look like a victim and me the villian.

I stopped speaking to her after that on the trip and she approached me asking ‘whats wrong🥺’ as if shed been the sweetest kindest soul to me all along. When i told her how i felt she denied that she ever did any of it on purpose and that it was never her intention. None of it felt genuine and even more so because a week later she went back to her normal self

One of her justifications was: ‘i feel so close to that i feel comfortable to speak to you like that but with the others i feel i have to put on a face’

Which just exposed everything about her tbh. It was also a bs explanation justifying why she treated me like sht

When i got home i wanted nothing to do with her but she kept messaging me as if everything was normal between us and i gave her dry responses hoping she would get the hint and stop. It also confused me why she would want to maintain a relationship with me considering it felt like she saw me beneath her the whole trip

But why want to continue to be friends with me??

Anyway she asked what was up with my responses intially i didnt want to respond but then I respectfully told her (even though i could have been harsher) that i didnt want to continue any dynamic with her nor hear from her again. Despite everything she did to me i wished her well

I thought that would be final and clear. But no. She ofcourse responds with paragraphs again how she felt real bad about everything and how she didnt intend any of it which i dont believe a word of that liar

Furthermore she hoped to meet up with me and the other girls soon so that ‘we can set the record straight once again’ and get back to our normal selves <333 she said she wants to rebuild the relationship??!!

I didnt reply and didnt intend do… but now one of the girls in the wider group is getting m@rried and the whole gang is excited for it and we’re all meeting up soon!!! I’m dreading it because i dont want to taint such a beautiful get together with ‘drama’ and i dont want to make it awkward

Everyones really looking forward to the w3dding and seeing one another again (we dont live local, heck even in different countries so its a big deal)

Shes also a group favourite so i cant top that. Sigh i feel like if i act awkward im going to feel like the one ruining things

Also i have a feeling shes going to act sickly sweet to try to sway me back (which i have no intention to) but if she acts that way infront of others meanwhile i dont want to give in, im going to look like the petty one

I didnt respond to her message precisely because i dont want to be dragged into a back and forth about who did what because its clear what she did. But i feel she will try to do that. Its easier on message to ghost but what if she confronts me what then??

Also do i tell the other girls beforehand whats up because they will be confused if me and the girl are being weird around one another

Also she backbited about some of these girls too, i just wish they knew her real face. Sigh i know its not my place to tell them, esp if its old, maybe im being petty but if i dont tell them what she did im going to look like the unreasonable one. But also i dont want to pull them into drama either and its going to hurt if they dont quite care or believe me and if i see them being friendly with her, but again its not their issue

I feel super stuck what do i do?? Do i reply to her to set the record straight from my end about expectations at the meet up or is that weird to annouce from before i dont want to interact with her lol

Also its not just the wedding day. The wider group are getting together a few days in advance to meet to as people are coming from out of town. Its giving me anxiety but i also dont wanna miss out bcos of her

Just like any other brand these days, their "crazy, amazing, set-an-alarm for MIDNIGHT" sale is mediocre. One thing in my saved cart was 50% off. The rest were 0%-25% off.

I had a massive cart saved. Ended up buying 3 things. For veiled collection I definitely spent less than I could have but I hated that the marketing made it seem like this financially inaccessible brand was finally opening up to the average income consumer.

Jokes on me lol. I still like veiled, just ranting at the marketing practice here. I guess the new drops sale prices are fine... but not good enough to "wake up at midnight and use a password" to shop.

Hi,
I’m going for Umrah for 20 days in December (InshaAllah), and I would like to delay my period for the entire trip.

The pharmacist told me to take a contraceptive, but said there are chances that there will be spotting. The other option she told me was to take the over-the-counter pills from Saudi, which I believe is Primolut N.

I’m confused because I read online that you should take the Primolut N pill only for a short period of time, like 10–14 days.

Has anyone taken it for longer?
Any advice?

Hello, as the title i think you can tell i live in australia, and if you live here you'd know how hot it gets in summer. Anyways, does anyone know any good brands/stores that sell lightweight (preferably cotton) tops that have long sleeves and are stylish? It can be online or in person. Thank you!

First of all, I am a male from a country where Muslims are a minority, so if I am breaking any rules, feel free to remove this, my apologies, I don't want to offer any offense. I just have a few questions on how to be more respectful towards your culture. Please forgive me if I make any false assumptions or mistakes and feel free to correct them, if need be. And, like I said, apologies if this is the wrong subreddit. I'm not very used to this platform. If it is the wrong place, any help on where it'd be more appropriate would be appreciated. Also, please excuse formatting errors since I'm writing on mobile and am not very familiar with reddit overall.

For context, I work in a hospital, assisting the radiology section in the logistical field (transporting patients and helping relocating them on the exam tables, filling up shelves, cleaning... Basically whatever needs getting done). Today, I had brought a Muslim patient in for a head CT scan. A (female) nurse was present and asked her to remove her headdress (I think it was a hijab, but like I said, I am not versed in the differences, so I could be wrong), since she had to check if the patient had any metal in her hair (broaches etc., any metal messes up the scan, so we have to check for glasses, earrings, piercings and so on, as well). I did turn my back towards her as I heard her ask, since I think the head hair of a Muslim woman is only to be shown to her husband, no other males. I tried not to put her in a bad situation while still doing my work. After the examination, when she was in her bed, I put her hijab (?) next to her pillow, still not looking at her hair. When she didn't put it back on, although she could've, I just brought her back to her room as is. Admittedly, there was a language barrier, so I couldn't really ask her. But on the way, several males probably saw her hair, thinking nothing of it. Did I put that woman in a bad position according to your faith? Did I unknowingly accidentally taint her headdress by moving it next to her pillow (a thought that just occured to me in hindsight while writing this)? What could I have done better? I genuinely try to be respectful, but often I lack the proper knowledge in the moment, but I strive to learn, even if I don't share your belief. We still share this world, and it costs nothing for me to try to be respectful.

I like to shave my legs because i love the way pyjamas feel (lol), and my hair naturally dissipates over my chest and arms and back (just a little peach fuzz which I don’t mind). So when I shave I am pretty much hairless except for my tummy which looks kinda weird?

And on the other hand I’ve never seen anyone shave or wax their tummy. So? What are we all doing lol

This has been on my mind for a while now ever since I started browsing this sub here and there. If you're struggling with your faith, please be careful choosing this platform as a place to ask for religious advice.

To quickly summarize my warning: You don't know who you're talking to. You don't know if they even wear a hijab or hold similar religious values to you. You don't know their level of knowledge, what they follow, or their level of honesty. You don't know if the person commenting is even a Muslim woman behind the screen, or someone swaying others away from this faith (intentionally or unintentionally).

I'm saying this as a Muslimah who has gone through all the common ups and downs of disliking hijab, feeling insecure, feeling discriminated against, wondering if this religion is unfair (astaghfirullah, it's not), struggling with desires, wanting to feel beautiful, dealing with doubts about faith, etc.

And I can tell you that Alhamdulillah looking back I am so glad that I never went on these social media platforms as a teenager to vent or ask for advice. Don't get me wrong, there are many sincere sisters here. And sincere beneficial comments.

But I've noticed at times that some of the highest comments are also the most misleading, or just straight up misinformation. A quick example, the most upvoted comment on a struggling sister's post will be "just take it off". I know Muslims are at varying degrees of their imaan, but sometimes I find it strange that this place is not more encouraging religiously. Even if it's not a platform for learning Islam, at least we should be encouraging each other to stay strong, right? (And many sisters do, may Allah SWT bless them!) I don't know if it's because reddit just attracts certain kinds of thinkers or if this is being done intentionally to push certain narratives online. Honestly with the frequency of it I'm starting to think the latter but that's a personal opinion.

I know this platform is often an easy place for Muslimahs to come and ask quick questions or vent. But when it comes to religious matters specifically, honestly we have to be more careful. There are better ways to seek knowledge, better platforms to find answers. If you really have no one in your locality, we live in a time where there are so many online Islamic classes, videos, and resources right at your fingertips. And when it comes to venting, try to find better outlets. A Muslim friend, a sister at the mosque, a family relative, or even a journal. I'm so glad I wrote down or made dua about some of my biggest religious struggles, because if I had posted at those times, the comments some people give here could have easily fed my doubts or confused me even more.

This is not to make anyone feel bad wallahi. You don't have to feel bad about struggling, you don't have to feel bad about wanting advice. We have all been there. I know how lonely it feels when you just WISH there was someone out there who could understand and listen. How desperately you wish you had another Muslim girl in your life who could advise you. Believe me I know! My point isn't to make anyone feel more isolated and alone. It's not to tell you to leave reddit forever or to never post. It's to tell you to be more mindful about where you choose to seek help from, because not everyone online is the right person to ask.

Be aware that if you put out strong negativity and doubts about religious matters here without a second thought about your wording, you can cause other people to struggle too. Is it worth it? Do the people online have the right tools to help you? Question if this platform is really the right place to vent or discuss doubts. Many topics that come up have been asked countless many times before, just use the search function if you really need Reddit's advice (again, not the best idea).

Be careful of who you seek religious advice from when you're spiritually vulnerable. Go to Allah SWT first, go to people of knowledge. Go to other practising Muslim sisters who you know will help you grow in your faith, not set you back. Learn your religion so that your connection with Allah is stronger than the struggling voices that pull you away, even if that voice is sometimes your own.

Hi all,

Im sorry if this is a weird question. But i’m currently in my 20s and I’ve been struggling a lot recently.

For context everyone in my home is modest but the women dont really wear the headscarf. When i reached 19 i decided i wanted to wear it and everyone at home was so supportive and sweet about it; and they still encourage and support me with it. However, recently I’ve struggled a lot.

After 2 years of wearing it i had taken it off, and then one day i felt a compulsion to put it back on after 4 months. It’s been another 7 months and I just hate wearing it. I’m not treated differently or anything, and I don’t consciously envy anyone that doesn’t wear it. I’m just struggling to commit to wearing it and I hate that the closest people around me made it such a big deal when i took it off last time. I was harshly treated by my dad and some of my closest friends in an attempt to convince me to put it back on, but it had just deterred me further.

My end goal is to one day have it on full-time but I was just wondering if it also took anyone this long to figure things out and commit to it? I feel so behind other women for struggling with something as small as a headscarf, but idk.

Is it normal to struggle this much, or am I just a loser? Is it ok to keep falling and trying again or am I making it awkward for everyone around me?

As salamu alaykum rahmatullahi barakatuh, ladies. The title pretty much says it all. This year has been incredibly challenging for me. I haven’t had a break since January, and I believe it’s finally taking a toll on me. My anxiety has gotten so bad and to the point where I feel unsafe going outside. My depression is even worse. I’ve only experienced a glimpse of happiness this year, and the rest has been a constant battle with sadness and depression.

Financial difficulties have been a significant burden this year. Last month, I hit rock bottom completely. I lost my job, and my car was stolen. I managed to get my car back, but everything inside was stolen. I’ve been living off my credit cards, and they are officially maxed out. I used to have almost $20,000 in my savings account, which allowed me to go anywhere and spend freely. However, I had to rationalize my money. I never imagined I’d have to choose between spending my last bit of money on food or gas for my car. I had only $100 left, and I needed to get an oil change. So, I spent an hour calling different places to find the cheapest option. I found a place that could accommodate my needs and called twice to confirm the price. When I arrived, the mechanic finished my oil change and informed me that the total would be $107. I started crying because that was all I had. I still needed gas and something to eat, but I had nothing.

The next day, my tire went flat, and the day after that, I got a $160 ticket.

It may seem like nothing to someone, but this is a lot for me. I’m all alone, and I’m all I have. I’ve fallen into a deep depression; it’s so overwhelming that I’ve contemplated and thought about taking my own life because I don’t think I can endure this much longer. Everyone says that Allah never gives a soul more than it can bear, but I think otherwise.

I just wanted to vent. Thank you for reading, and please pray for me.

I'm personally sitll a rather new convert to this faith and I was wondering if any of you girls on here might have advice on where to shop for reasonable prices and general tips and bits on how to properly dress. im greatful to have found a lovely local shop for hijabs but I've yet to find one for simple nice dresses that aren't 100$+usd per dress (witch for all I know is reasonable for this kinda thing tbh)

update. In the chigao area witch thankfully means there's enough groups out here to have a small handful of family shops but most of the ones I've been to are rather flashy over just plan soild colors

Assalamualaikum.

Every month, a couple of days before my full period starts, I get regular spotting (especially when urinating). It always leads directly into my main period.

My question is: Do I pause my Namaz as soon as this spotting starts because it's a regular precursor to my period, or do I need to perform wudu for every prayer and keep praying until the heavier bleeding starts?

Salam aleikum, I’ve heard this sentence and I want to know, what do you think about it ?

It reminds me of my case, I’m 27 today, when I was in high school I had a Muslim friend who always used her beauty privilege and boys to have what she wants, she also had a boyfriend, she didn’t study, she was hypocritical and used people (I obviously stopped being friend with her at the time).
(She has almost all of antisocial personality disorder traits BUT this is another topic).

While I was physically normal, I wear hijab, never had and not even interested in relationship, I didn’t talk to boys, I now have a degree.

But for the last years :
She is married with her high school boyfriend, they have a child, she has a lot of friends, she works, things seems to fluid for her, she’s living life.

Meanwhile I never had a relationship, so no marriage in sight at all, I had a degree that got me so much depression and anxiety at the time, I don’t work today and I have no friend I’m isolated.

She lives near my house today, and I can’t help but feel dumb and grumpy.

Also, we have to stop promoting to young girls this « don’t be in a relationship and you’ll have a perfect partner later » or even « don’t do nothing bad and you’ll be a good girl », first that absolutely false, secondly, no one will applaud you for being a good person, you’ll just be used (I don’t allow that so I don’t have friend today) and forgotten.

Sorry for my English.

I’m interested to know what you think about this, and how can I be better with concrete advice because currently I feel so miserable and a failure.

Salaam sisters. Sometimes after I'm done with salah I stay in sujood like I tried to draw here. Not like the normal sujood we do during salah. I just like to stay in sujood for a while because it feels like pouring my heart to Allah without any thoughts or words and it is more comfortable in this position than the normal sujood. I was wondering if doing it like this is wrong? I sometimes fall asleep on prayer mat like this too.

I drew how it looks from above. It is basically hand on hand and I put my forehead on them. It may sound and look weird. I dont know if any other belief has this kind of worshipping position which might make what I do wrong.

Asalamu alaikum beautiful hijabis

I am a college student and I am usually used to removing facial hair by threading (having someone else do it for me). However, I’m in college rn and it’s very hard to find someone to thread my face for me. It’s very difficult for me to do it for myself and I am worried about trying because if I can’t finish my entire face it’d look pretty bad. I’ve tried epilating before but it resulted in my breaking out very badly and my skin gets very red. I’m not keen on shaving or using chemical stuff on my face either. I just wanted to ask if anyone knows what i can do about this 😔 I don’t want to look like some hairy monkey

I’d appreciate any advice y’all have. Jazakum Allah Khairan!

assalamualaykum i am just another person living in a desi family. i have a cousin thats 2 years older than me. we have always been together since childhood and we were great friends, sure we did fight but i had no sisters and stuff so she was my homie. and we fought a lot, like we always used to argue and fight abt some or the other thing mostly. and it was mostly like i say hurtful things to her she remains calm and composed. sometimes she’d lose it and say mean things back. mostly i was the problem i believe. now shes moved out and married and we have a cousins gc. i knew what would bother her so i used to initially post problematic reels so that she’d blabber in the replies , that was my way of taking revenge of the hurtful things she said to me. bcs all what she said to me and believes abt me is a lie, i agree i havent been a great sister but what she was thinking was straight up messed up. now long story short i actually did post first problematic reel and she replied in paragraphs and all my cousins roasted her, and then it began a series all used to send something shed be pissed and then arguments would start. now i have only done it like 2 or 3 times i guess im not sure. but yday also we were fighting in gc and she left the group and then i apologised today so she said i forgive you but Allah knows your niyah, that shook me. like srsly i apologised but i was the one that made her look like : loook shes fighting and arguing again, i even used to make fun of her for fighting with my family like look she fought again . i am sorry i dk why i did that i believe i did that because she mis labeled me and said bad things abt me and i couldn’t find anything to attack her back so i made her seem like a psycho i regret it i truly do . i am going to seek forgiveness from Allah and have already said sorry to her. what shud i do? i feel evil bcs now that she said abt my niyaah i realised that i was indeed looking to mock her. its not that shes been complete angel either she has said stuff to me too, but never humiliated me publicly, which i did. i didnt do it directly , but i knew what would stir her and then everyone followed along and then i used to laugh at her replies w my family members and sometimes even show them her replies in gc. i have basically made an addition in her image that she argues a lot . which is not entirely wrong. but i was the one that spread it. idk what to do now. i am full of shame. idk how will i ever face her. i have been an evil human. idk

tldr : i made a mockery of my cousin that she is v argumentative and spread it across my family . and now everyone sees her through that lens. and i regret it.

is a sister not wearing hijab after reaching the obligatory age considered a public sinner ? regardless of her intention not being to boast, rather if she herself is struggling with hijab ?

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Yk what hurts so much as a women? When we go through something so hurtful, the biggest hardship in life and all we want to do is do tahjudd and pray to Allah but you can't do that BCS of your period and than nothing you do makes you feel better and nothing makes you feel hope or gives you peace like crying in sujood or praying to Allah

Salam girls, wondering if anyone has any muslim friendly suggestions for a babymoon in january? Preferably somewhere not too cold or hot. Not looking specifically for a muslim country just somwhere that is comfortable for practicing muslims.

AsSalamWalaikum!

I’ve been trying to find good quality ninja undercaps that are colored (not just brown, black, and white) and are cotton. I bought a set from Amazon before and they had a few different colors but it was more synthetic and VERY tight around the neck (no chin coverage). I like the ones in this picture cus it has the chin coverage and I think it’s better cus sometimes the hijab can slip back, does anyone know where to find good quality ones?? I’ve been rotating my few black ones consistently but want to invest in a few other ones. Also if anyone knows cheap underabayas (full sleeve please, not the ones that are sleeveless as abayas slip back and show the hand)?

JazakAllahum Khairan!