I'n sick of people labelling a show or movie as mid, then when I look at what they rated it, they give it a 7/10.

Get it through your heads. "Mid" is short for "middle", and it's somewhat synonymous to "average".

5/10 is average.

6/10 is above average

7/10 is good but not great.

We should collectively agree on this.

Thank you.

Honestly, one thing that bothers me about dating is how the responsibility of making the first move almost always falls on men.

We're expected to approach women, start conversations, ask them out, and know how to flirt without seeming awkward or creepy. If we're too hesitant, we lack confidence. If we're awkward, we have no game. If we're too forward, we're creepy. And if rejection hurts, we're told to get over it.

What makes this frustrating is that these are skills people develop through experience, yet men are generally expected to be the ones who practise them. Imagine being inexperienced with dating, finally working up the courage to approach someone, and having the interaction go badly. Even if the rejection itself is perfectly reasonable, being laughed at or humiliated can make you afraid to try again.

Eventually, some men become more hesitant because they're afraid of getting it wrong. But when they struggle to approach women, they're criticised for lacking confidence or social skills. It's a vicious cycle: the less they try, the less experience they gain, and the harder it becomes to improve.

I also think this dynamic can give some women an unrealistic perception of their own dating skills. Being able to judge whether a man is good at flirting doesn't necessarily mean you'd be good at flirting yourself. Knowing what you find attractive isn't the same as knowing how to attract someone.

Men and women often have different experiences because men are expected to initiate, while women are more often in the position of evaluating those who approach them. If women had to make the first move just as often, they'd probably experience the same nervousness, awkwardness, and rejection that many men face. Some would be good at it naturally, while others would need time to improve. That's normal.

Of course, women have their own challenges. They deal with unwanted attention, question men's intentions, and sometimes worry about how men might react to rejection. Nobody owes anyone romantic interest, and men must respect boundaries. But there's a difference between rejecting someone and deliberately humiliating them. Not every awkward approach comes from bad intentions; sometimes a person is simply inexperienced or nervous.

I'm not saying men shouldn't improve their social skills or learn to handle rejection. We absolutely should. But there's a difference between taking responsibility for our behaviour and being expected to carry most of the responsibility for initiating romantic relationships.

Why should men have to do most of the approaching, take most of the initial risks, and face most of the pressure to get things started? And why is it considered normal for men to pursue women, but somehow unusual for women to pursue men?

If a woman likes a man, there's nothing wrong with approaching him, starting a conversation, or asking him out. It doesn't make her desperate, and it doesn't make him any less of a man.

I'd like to see both men and women make more of an effort instead of treating initiation as a man's job. Dating would feel less one-sided, both sides would have more opportunities to develop their social skills, and perhaps people would become more understanding of the vulnerability involved in putting yourself out there.

Ultimately, dating should be about two people finding each other, not one person being expected to do all the work. Men shouldn't always have to be the pursuers, especially when they're also expected to handle the pressure, rejection, and criticism that come with it. If both people are interested, why shouldn't both have the opportunity to make the first move?

There’s a billion different privileges they could have access to.

-Pretty privilege
-Height privelage
-Weight privilege
-Age privilege
-Wealth privilege
-etc

This is all to say that reducing the value of people’s opinions because of their skin colour or sex is pretty stupid (some would call it racist/sexist).

Because ultimately you can be white, or a male and still be less privileged than someone else.

This applies to people who think victims are supposed to just get over it. I was recently sa’ed for weeks, and I was told I have a “victim mentality” and that I should “leave it in the past” Seeing the victim mentality discussion is tiring. Because yeah while I understand that there’s people that live in their past, a lot of them have good reasons to. And I feel like the more we push “stop having a victim mentality!!” It takes away from victims getting justice because they don’t feel like victims, they feel like wallowers. I’ve seen this happen in live time. Victims brushing off people’s behavior, mistreatment or abuse of them with thinking they’re being over dramatic and I firmly believe this is a direct cause of people’s obsession with telling others they have a victim mentality. Most if not ALL people I’ve met with the “victim mentality” have had horrible lives and a reason to think the way they do. FYI this does not apply to bad people who seek out calling themselves a victim to avoid accountability.

My family and I are also neurodivergent, and I do acknowledge that the world can be a tough place for us, but often times parents of neurodiverse children say that when it’s something a typical child would get told off for doing. I was raised that being on the spectrum is never an excuse for putting yourself and or others in danger, it may be an explanation, but it’s never a free pass. Yes there are children who act mentally like a toddler, but even toddlers get time out. I knew people who would let their spectrum teens/kids walk onto strangers properties and their justification was that they’re special. And I’m sorry, being special doesn’t mean you can free range your child, because what if they met someone who wasn’t kind. I hate when these parents excuse people’s reactions to their kids dangerous behaviours as “oh how cruel the world is to autistic people”

The point of the movie is that women can do anything a man can do (and still be comfortable as a woman). if you make her trans, ​​​then that completely defeats the purpose of the movie. (No hate to trans people ♡)​

Everyone is attracted based on physical attraction. There are other aspects that can add to it but the core mechanism of attraction is physical attraction.

Sapiosexuals are liars. No sapiosexual would sleep with a really ugly person just because they happen to be intelligent. But even if they would, it would be because they have a thing for ugly people.

Physical attraction is attraction. It's innate, it's the basis of sexuality and romantic love. People who say they don't care about looks, or worse, say anyone who is attracted to others based on physical features is a problematic fetishist - people who say these type of things are manipulative liars playing language games to subjugate naive and well-meaning people.

The only public places where your kink or sexuality should be expressed are places that are expressly designated for that, such as BDSM/kink conventions, sex clubs, etc.

But your pet play bullshit doesn’t belong in the grocery store or the park. There are dozens if not hundreds of non-consenting people who are going to see you preforming a sexual activity when you bring your kink to those places. And yes, by preforming your kink you are preforming a sexual activity. Even if it’s just being on a leash.

Petplay is by far the worst offender bc petplay ppl seem to have 1,000 reasons as to why their kink specifically deserves to be allowed in public spaces where non-consenting individuals are made to be a part of their sex act. But this goes for any form of kink or activity that brings you sexual pleasure. It does not belong in public and you should be considered a sex offender for bringing in people who don’t consent to your bullshit.

There are non-private places where practicing kink is acceptable, online and in person. It’s totally fine to participate in fetish or kink culture there. But in random, non-designated spaces, there will be tons of people who do not want to participate in being a part of that activity, even as a bystander/onlooker. Just because you aren’t actively assaulting them, or forcing them to do sexual things to you, doesn’t mean they aren’t uncomfortable with the situation.

And it seems to be the same people who are all woke when it comes to consent (which isn’t a bad thing—consent needs to be discussed and taught to prevent purposeful or accidental breaches of consent) who suddenly feel the need to become incredibly defensive and call you things like “prude” or “homophobic” because you said that them wearing a buttplug furry tail while their partner walks them on a leash at the mall is most likely violating someone’s consent and inadvertently causing sexual harassment.

i wouldn't consider myself a humanities person but it's quite disturbing to see people treat history and geography like it's of less importance. it's still a study of the world we're living in. every subject is – that's the whole point of a subject. the fact that most well paying jobs / prestigious unis require a knowledge in maths has triggered a push among parents and relatives to the point where humanities students are dismissed as not being smart enough, which is, in my opinion, paving way for a dangerous mindset. so what if a society is able to build rockets? what use would that have if the people don't have an understanding of why fascism is bad? im not saying studying humanities automatically makes you nicer im saying it gives you a nuanced understanding of the events that have happened throughout history, why they have happened and what impacts they've had on people. knowing this stuff has an impact on your entire mindset which impacts whom you vote for which basically impacts everyone's lives. it doesn't matter whether a different subject is harder or more respectable or something we need all subjects.

In our cursed dating age people like to weigh their options, and this is their way to keep you on the bench. Every serious relationship I’ve had got physical within a month or less. Don’t jump through hoops for randos.

Every time oppression of certain groups are brought up, people inevitably lament that "oppression olympics" have started again. Though I agree reading multiple posts of the same topic can be rather tiresome, I think the fact that people fight over who is oppressed more is a shining light of how far humanity has come - we now recognize that people who are oppressed should be helped and lifted up, and deserve a voice. This is why everyone wants to get into the oppressed class.

Throughout most of human history, claiming to be oppressed would get one nowhere, or perhaps even more oppressed. Imagine the Roman galley slaves running a campaign on being oppressed and wanting more rights - they would just get whipped and tossed back into the galleys, with the leaders being crucified.

If you think about it carefully, it is a great sign of progress and humanity.

it feels wrong because no one talks about calling in fake sick, because no one wants to expose themselves in that way so we dont realise that everyone does it and lets face it most of us especially in service hospitality health etc. jobs are probably underpaid and could do with a day off :) if this doesnt convince you to call in sick next week i dont know what will

This isn’t gendered because it can go either way, but everyone treats everyone with less care or intent unless that person is exactly who they are looking for. Everyone is fickle until that perfect person comes along.

"mid foid wants a 10/10 man🤣🤣🤣🤣" "how did HE (conventionally unattractive but otherwise seemingly harmless guy) bag HER, up your standards 💀" ohhhh my godddd so whattttt that person hasn't done anything... yea i agree that some standards can be rooted in bigotry so unless it's immoral like p3dophilia or wanting to abuse your partner, or you're being disrespectful about it like i see the way men in their 50s say that if you're married to a woman your age you haven't won in life, i don't see the issue. so what if a mid person wants someone that looks like a model so what if their desires aren't realistic as long as they're not badmouthing anyone who doesn't fit into their standards on appearance it's just a personal preference?? it's a ruiner of fun too, i don't want to see chuds infiltrating teenage girls discussions about how they want nick jonas or something like you're just upsetting others for no reason i hope you're real happy now

This is universal, in my opinion, or it should be. It is a very dangerous, self-absorbed, and egocentric mindset, regardless of your political alignment, ideals, beliefs, lifestyle, or sexuality. If anyone who is your lover, life partner, spouse, or significant other believes "I'd rather ask for forgiveness than permission," you need to take that as a huge red flag. It inherently prioritizes one partner's desires over the other's consent and boundaries.

When applied to a romantic relationship, having that mindset shows they are okay with disregarding and disrespecting their significant other, as long as they believe they can get off scot-free. It also arrogantly assumes that forgiveness will even be on the table when all is said and done. It very well may not be. And even if it is, the trust is absolutely going to be broken, which only pours more gasoline on the bridge which is going to be easier to burn when and if the other party decides they're ready to light a match.

Anyone I'm dating who believes, "Meh, it'll all work out, they'll forgive me or get over it",that's not someone I want to be with. If I say "no" to something and you do it anyway, you are not someone I want or need in my life.

as opposed to being in a relationship because you genuinely love someone and don't have to gaslight yourself into believing so because you think that when you finally find the big love, it's the be all and end all and your life is complete as a human

the fact that being married or partnered in any way is considered the norm is harmful

neither partnership nor singlehood should be considered 'the norm'

being in a relationship is not a tax you seek to pay for being present on this earth as a human. it should be a gift that comes and goes, without expectation for the bureaucratic formality and sense of 'completeness' that marriage brings, rather experienced as something fleeting and ephemeral

I've never fully understood why assisted suicide is considered acceptable in some circumstances, such as terminal illness, but almost completely off-limits when someone simply doesn't want to continue living.

Why does someone have to be terminally ill for their wish to die to be taken seriously? What if someone has been suffering for years, doesn't want to be here anymore, and genuinely doesn't see a future they want to experience? Why is physical illness considered a more legitimate reason to want to die than psychological suffering or simply not wanting to participate in life anymore?

I also think there's something strange about how we approach this as a society. We insist that people must stay alive, sometimes regardless of how much they're suffering or how strongly they don't want to be here, yet we know that some people will eventually take their own lives anyway. They might end up being found in a closet, in a pool of blood, or in some other traumatic circumstance. Why is that considered preferable to having a dignified, medically supervised death?

this tends to be a big thing when people talk about others "sexualizing themselves" due to specific clothing or actions.

Not everything is seen as sexual by the same societies/individual people. in some cultures boobs are a 100% normal thing to have visible and aren't treated as "sexy".

Just because you can see a part of a persons body that YOU find sexy, that doesn't mean theyre dressing sexually.

Collarbones, stomachs, thighs, etc are not inheritly sexual in the slightest.

It was a decent movie, but nothing crazy. I saw people overly analyzing it, like it had so much detail, but all it was was a dude who wished for love and ended up taking advantage of the situation. Basically, he was the villain, but there’s really not much to it besides a few cool jump scares. The way people were talking about it made it seem like it was the best horror movie ever. I actually think Weapons had a much better story. Hell, if you compare it to old horror movies, it’s not even up there with The Shining or The Thing.

I AM SO scared for the future. I am apart of the future generation, and I am seeing these people fall in love with chat bots. That's freaking horrifying. In my opinion not trying to judge anyone but gods please dont fall in love with a chatbot. Why would people even do that in the first place?? I try to empathize and i do understand being lonely but there are so many better ways to go about this. Am i the only one that is concerned about this?? I am very concerned that large companies profit off of the money of humans who need a companion that is digusting. Having to pay to talk to a loved one who isn't ever going to love you back or ever physically be there for you in any way. Its not a creeper thing because it's just people being in bad mental places and doing this but seriously I think we need to realize that people and human interaction is a very vital thing to everyone's health. I am not saying anyone here is doing this I am saying it's becoming more normalized than I feel like it should be which is concerning to me. I just think there needs to be people that stand up and say no to it. Maybe me speaking about it will help. I want to get it off my mind for a minute.

I’m not cussing left and right in my daily conversations mind you, but I’m also not stressing when I do. Recently I’ve seen people be vocal about not using cuss words, and that’s great for them if that’s how they choose to live. But they always talk down on the people that do. Instead of using cuss words they will use darn, crap, flark, etc. I just find a humor of still using filler words that sound like the cuss words they hate. Why even use them if you’re so against cussing. It’s like saying the N word but replacing the n with a w. It doesn’t make it better.

I keep seeing this sentiment in so much discourse: flock cams, your LG tv uploading your voice recordings, intrusive apps being forced on your phone for school or work or whatever. There's an endless list.

They're okay with it. The way they see it, since a lot of companies have data on us already, what's a little more? I know that, so why wouldn't you want to protect the small amount of privacy you have left? The level of conditioned resignation it takes to form that opinion is genuinely mind boggling.

Humans are physically built for endurance, hence why our species is primarily an endurance predator. Migration is one of the most basic behaviors we've witnessed in the vast majority of animal species, and yet in humans, we've made it normal for people to live in one place their whole life, and we've made it much harder to live outside of the place you were born in. (Not without jumping through a million hoops and checkpoints to get approval, anyway).

One of the biggest things people say they would do if they had money is to travel more, which I think says something about the innate human desire to wander. We also know that exercise, including just walking a certain distance every day, is essential to maintain the human body. Early humans were extremely migratory, very often moving from place to place whenever the need or desire arose, until we started building walls and laws to restrict people's movements.

People want to think we're in some way greater than other animals on earth, but we're really not. People need enrichment as much as an animal would, and the "zoochosis" theory that some people have about modern people is just a symptom of living in captivity. I also think social media addiction is a symptom of this suppression of natural instinct. People want to feel like there's a wider world, and they can't do that in real life, so they experience it through the internet.

I know a lot of modern systems would collapse under the idea of too much migration, but I actually think this is evidence that the systems themselves need to be rebuilt to better suit the innate human desire to wander, rather than used as a justification for limiting people from doing what they're biologically hardwired to do.

Most of us say "If i had a lot of money i would donate to charity" and it sounds good of papper but sometimes the reality isnt like we imagined. By some miracle if a person was to get a large sum of money chances are that they would not donate but instead use that money to only help themself. This isnt only about money, it can also be about socail influence, importance etc

At one point we had Smallville and supernatural in the same lineup. wtf