r/Wellthatsucks • u/jjazralii • 22h ago
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4 ounces of breastmilk I was
about to give my baby. I’m empty with a hungry baby 😐🫠
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u/worldsfastestsloth 22h ago edited 22h ago
Can’t you just put the baby on the ground and let them be a lil roomba?
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u/jjazralii 22h ago
I soaked it up with paper towels and put it in his mouth 🙏
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u/NonconsensualHug 21h ago
Pro tip - throw those paper towels in a coffee filter next time and squeeze into a bottle via funnel.
Coffee filter will filter fibers from the paper towel and dirt / dust from the floor.
Or just skip the filter if this is your second kid.
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u/RedBeardFace 20h ago
Or just skip the filter if this is your second kid.
It’s wild the difference from the first to the second. Pacifier fell on the floor? Baby 1: it needs to be sterilized. Baby 2: If it’s covered in dirt/dust/hair just give it a good brush off and you’re good to go
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u/jjazralii 19h ago
I like the tip but all of that builds immunity
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u/Fabulous-902 17h ago
Sure.. immunity from glass shards as well
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u/Syzygy_Stardust 9h ago
Yeah. Jesus Christ. Anything with broken glass is instantly inedible. One sliver of glass can kill from infection.
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u/Darkest_Elemental 22h ago
As a mother who nursed and didn't have a heavy supply, I feel for you. It is a terrible feeling not having the surplus to risk any sort of milk spill. Sending warm wishes your way and hope that your supply will pick up for you. Hang in there Momma you are doing your best
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u/jjazralii 21h ago
Girl you understand my pain. Thank you.
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u/ChVckT 21h ago
Buy some formula. My wife could only nurse ours for about 4 weeks before she stopped lactating. Keep some formula in the house just in case.
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u/tropicalturtletwist 20h ago
I second this as the momma who was under producing. I did EVERYTHING. Electrolytes, I made my own lactation cookies, muffins, and biscuits to eat throughout the day. I ate healthy. Everything.
My husband got formula. He fed her when I was crying trying to nurse her at 2am. The baby stopped crying. I stopped crying. The baby slept, I slept, my husband slept. 6 years later, everyone is healthy.
It's okay.
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u/Fun-Wrangler5911 13h ago
Same. My lactation consultant brought me several cans of formula. I always thought NEVER until I had a clogged, red, inflamed duct so I took a bowl into the shower to soak, rub and squeeze until it shot out like a hose. I sat on the shower floor and cried while my son cried, hungry but I was in such blinding pain I couldn’t get up. My husband read the label, made a bottle and put him to sleep. I went to sleep. We all slept for glorious hours.
Hes healthy and thriving at 13- just ran a 10 minute mile in cross country. It’s okay.
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u/tropicalturtletwist 11h ago
I had to keep reminding myself that my brother and I were both full formula babies and we have always been healthy. There is so much guilt a new mom feels when she cant nurse. But its okay. Back in the olden days you would either get a wet nurse or have a hungry baby. I think formula is 100% better than a hungry baby
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u/Im-BackAgain-Babes2 20h ago
I got to week 3 on all three pregnancies... my boobs just dont work lol 😅
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u/Keysandcodes 21h ago
Whoever said you shouldn't cry over spilled milk did not have to make and express said milk. I'm sorry!
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u/chelfea_ 18h ago
Mom of 4 kids- breast fed them all and have shed plenty of tears over spilled milk 😭
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u/pippinlup61611 22h ago
I'm so sorry. I remember crying when I accidentally left the 4 pouches of fresh breast milk out on the counter all night. This is heartbreaking.
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u/jjazralii 21h ago
4 pouches ? I would’ve cried
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u/pippinlup61611 21h ago
Yea it was one of the midnight pump/feeding sessions. I had bags in the fridge I had pumped earlier and I wanted to transfer to freezer but they never got there. No idea what distracted me but yea it sucks.
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u/ramathorn152 22h ago
Lost the glass bottle too, my condolences
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u/jjazralii 21h ago
Thank you! It was a great bottle and served its purpose. It will be deeply missed
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u/ramathorn152 19h ago
I am deep in it myself right now with a 1 month old, we were using the plastic but bought a pair of glass to try. I'm definitely sold and want to get one more set, they warm up nicely and clean easier. I've dropped them a few times but have been lucky so far, I am not going to be happy if one does break though so I definitely feel for you. Stay strong, it has to get easier right?!
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u/sudsomatic 18h ago
Serious question, do most people do glass bottles? Been using plastic madela bottles for my two kids their whole lives. Am I a monster?
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u/Nienista 5h ago
No one answered you, but I am dying to know, as well. I do not have children, so I cannot imagine why something meant for one would be this fragile. I hope someone answers you.
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u/5150_Ewok 21h ago
One time I left the freezer door open and melted 3 months of breast milk…along with everything else 👀
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u/Jennabeb 13h ago
THANK YOU for this comment. I’m so sorry that happened to you, truly, and your story reminded me that we are headed into power outage season in my area and I need to move my supply to a fridge that has backup power. You may have saved me - thank you!
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u/SurveyHot9983 9h ago
Oh I feel your pain on this one. We had a deep freezer packed full of milk supply. I was deep cleaning and swept behind the freezer. I unknowingly un plugged the freezer and all of my milk thawed.
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u/American-pickle 18h ago
When I was boob feeding our youngest, we got a separate freezer for milk after pumping. It was FULL. My husband left the door open over night. Everything was thawed. Each pouch I tossed was 45 min worth of work. I cried.
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u/Samultow 15h ago
I get it, just yesterday I wasn't paying attention and accidentally put a diaper through the wash. It wasn't the end of the world but trust me you dont wanna do it.
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u/ahobbins 22h ago
Spilled breast milk was the one time in my life I did genuinely cry when I spilled it. I’m so sorry that happened to you!
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u/Dull_Astronomer_3778 21h ago
Same thing happened with my wife. I, being a new father, said, “Not a big deal we will make a new bottle with formula,” trying to be comforting.
I don’t think I’ve ever seen heartbreak so painfully and wordlessly conveyed before. It was like I slapped her across the face.
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u/shinakohana 21h ago
Yeah… milk production is a very emotional thing. For me, when I couldn’t produce enough for my eldest, I felt like a lesser mother. My youngest was strictly breastfed and refused a bottle of any kind, so I rarely got a break. But I made more that time around, so… whaddya do?
Other moms can be less than kind about formula, too. “Breast is best! It’s literally what boobs are for and formula is trash! Don’t be a lazy POS mom and breastfeed, dammit! But don’t do it in public. That’s nasty. Go to the public bathroom where our virgin eyes can be saved from your nudity.”
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u/CheesecakeEither8220 21h ago
Fed is best.
I nursed all of my children and am a strong advocate for breastfeeding, but formula was sometimes needed for various reasons. Women get guilted so much for feeding choice/necessity, and it isn't fair. As long as baby is happy and healthy, the parents are doing a good job ❤️ Enough with the shame.
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u/saturday_sun4 21h ago
Yeah, fair enough, I didn't know that. Didn't realise babies refused formula/bottles either!
Omg that's the worst! You'd think other mums would be better about it since they've been through the same experience (or even just other women generally! Seeing breasts? Le gasp).
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u/shinakohana 21h ago
Yeah, with moms, you’d think!! But man… some of those mom forums are horrible! A lotta moms are SO self-righteous, it’s infuriating. Especially to first time moms because “I’ve been around the block longer than you, therefore I’m smarter than you on this subject.” Hell, I’m finding out today some information I had 11 years ago is outdated already! I’ve been downvoted into oblivion on solids because apparently I’m not caught up on newer stuff, so those horrible moms make me even angrier.
I’ve never seen a baby refuse a bottle until my youngest. It was perplexing and a bit frustrating at times. Haha. Especially since he just used me as a pacifier all day and never gave me a break! He was also my last baby, so I just sucked it up most of the time. Knowing those times would end sooner than I want them to. I have no regrets!
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u/saturday_sun4 21h ago
Omg lol, I could never but you have to feed your baby!
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u/shinakohana 20h ago
Exactly! The harassment gets pretty mean, too! “Well, if you’re not producing enough, that’s a YOU problem. Don’t eat or drink this or that. Take this supplement. You wanted to be a mom, so quit whining and fix your supply! Sacrifice everything you can for your baby because that’s your sole job now!”
Welp, not everyone can produce, though. Formula has saved millions of babies lives!
“That’s just not true. Besides, haven’t you seen the news articles that say baby formula has ground glass in it?!? Why would you feed your baby glass!”
Yeah. That shit’s been going on forever. Other moms can be just awful… So, first time moms are already nervous, in pain, terrified and looking for support. Then you have these horrible women making the already insecure moms feeling worse!
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u/saturday_sun4 21h ago
Maybe an ignorant question on my part, but as someone who doesn't have kids my immediate thought was the same - why not formula?
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u/Dull_Astronomer_3778 21h ago
It’s not about the formula. At all. It’s about the breast milk. It’s an emotional and personal aspect of motherhood I can’t explain.
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u/saturday_sun4 21h ago
Fair enough.
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u/shinakohana 18h ago
It’s a unique feeling. Like “I’m the only one that can do this for my baby” and it’s a very special and amazing feeling. I’ve done both, but nothing beats nursing in an emotional and bonding sense. You get cuddles, snuggles and when the baby goes to sleep, it feels like the world stops in the best way.
My heart goes out to those that want to nurse but can’t, for whatever reason(too busy, unable to produce, etc).
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u/saturday_sun4 18h ago
That is very interesting! Makes sense, I suppose. All that oxytocin!
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u/shinakohana 18h ago
Exactly! It’s like the most loving cuddle you can think of, times a million! My youngest is 11 but I have days where I miss it… At least I can just look at past pictures with nostalgia!
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u/saturday_sun4 18h ago
Haha, something to reminisce on, I'm sure, when they're a teenager and telling you they hate you because you didn't let them do... whatever it is kids do these days!
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u/shinakohana 18h ago
Right?? Fortunately, the teen(14 in a month) isn’t TOO bad. The youngest is just full of sass but a ton of love. I’m bracing for the teen years of the youngest… haha. He’s definitely a handful. He might be the trickiest one. 😬
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u/coco_butterkisses 7h ago
I was pumping in bed and spilled most of the container when I was trying to transfer it into a bottle. Full crying meltdown ensured. I was unconsolable for a good 15 minutes. This was also when my milk supply was dwindling in my 2nd month despite all my best efforts. I felt like such a failure. The mom guilt was insane. Breastfeeding is hard :/
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u/DoodleFK 9h ago
Ugh. I'm so sorry! I'm barely producing any milk and I cried over spilling 15ml. I can't imagine this 😭
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u/lasuperhumana 20h ago
Omg been there. I was a just barely/sometimes not enougher and oh man a 4 oz spill like this kills.
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u/Away-Variation-2556 22h ago
My brain going from thinking this was milk to realizing it was breast milk 😔-------😲😤🤬
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u/Budgiesyrup 7h ago
On top of effort it takes to produce them and them being food for the baby, there's something about the breast milk being discarded like trash or spilled on unclean surface that makes me want to cry.
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u/toastedcodeine 12h ago
I feel this photo deep in my soul. My little one had a massive appetite and my body just couldn’t keep up. I cried over spilled milk more times than I’d like to admit.
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u/LeonKennedyIsYummy 6h ago
And then having to mess with glass pieces is just the cherry on top I'm sure. This really does suck.
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u/perksofbeingcrafty 18h ago
Wait why would you get glass baby bottles?? Isn’t that dangerous?
(Sincerely a person who doesn’t have babies lol it’s a real question I’m not judging you)
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u/CaDeCroBo_Luci 13h ago
I use glass bottles and idk what brand this is but I have literally accidentally slammed one in my car door (hard) after which it launched in the air and landed on the street and it didn't break. You can also get special rubber sleeves for extra protection, but so far we haven't broken a single bottle, not even a chip.
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u/Connect_Beginning_13 10h ago
I had glass and plastic and the glass was so thick it wasn’t supposed to break easily. This glass bottle looks so thin.
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u/JarJarBinks237 17h ago
It's much easier to clean and you don't risk putting microplastics in the baby food.
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u/TheAnkl3Bit3r 10h ago
I’ve been told there is actually more plastics in glass then plastic these days. Not sure how true that is because I realize how ridiculous it sounds.
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u/FlyingSquirelOi 5h ago
That just… doesn’t seem possible? I’d love to hear more about it if you can remember
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u/JarJarBinks237 4h ago
That's possible if there's some kind of polymer coating on the glass. Now why would anyone do that on a glass baby bottle, if it exists at all, is beyond my understanding.
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u/HomemadeBananas 3h ago
How could that possibly be true? Plastic is literally just made of plastic…
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u/WestleyThe 16h ago
But you risk dropping it and breaking it or god forbid your baby breaks it by slamming it against something while you aren’t looking…
Seems more risky than microplastics
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u/JarJarBinks237 16h ago
The microplastics risk is exaggerated, but the hygiene one is not. This is why most people use glass bottles when they are small and fragile, and switch to plastic when they get more resistant to germs and more likely to break stuff.
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u/ignoremeplsokthank 11h ago
You don't hold the bottle while feeding your baby?
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u/WestleyThe 5h ago
At first yes obviously, but as they get a little older and are able to hold the bottle themselves they can drink it themselves
It’s awesome
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u/SllortEvac 2h ago
Not their whole infancy.
Letting them hold their own bottle is good for cognitive development.
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u/BogusBuffalo 11h ago
Because breast milk is usually given before the baby can hold their own bottles, so that's not a normal concern.
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u/puffofthezaza 9h ago
I mean you breastfeed until 1 when they most definitely can hold it by then.
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u/BarrelRider621 8h ago
But then how would OP get on the internet to complain about breaking a breakable thing?
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u/allofusaregod 21h ago
why was it glass
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u/SavageFisherman_Joe 21h ago
Because microplastics are bad for babies
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u/polypaulpoly 19h ago
Hahahahaha so are glass shards…
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u/RolandFerret 17h ago
Then don't break it.
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u/polypaulpoly 11h ago
I’ll pass along your words of wisdom to the baby.
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u/RolandFerret 11h ago
lmao I didn't know the baby was the one making all the rules. God help them.
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u/WestleyThe 16h ago
Tell the baby that…
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u/RolandFerret 16h ago
Then don't make them drink from it when it's broken? You should be supervising your child anyway.
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u/allofusaregod 20h ago
microplastics are bad for all people. but there's still better choices than fragile glass
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u/Particular_Leek_9984 22h ago
It looks like Europe lol
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u/NeckBeardedJedi 21h ago
Totally does, but apperently Great Britain got glassed by a CCS-class Battlecruiser.
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u/Lopsided-Middle7924 12h ago
Use plastic bottles, a human baby is more resilient than glass bottles.
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u/Public-biggle193 19h ago
Not sure if its been mentioned yet, smelling the baby scent helps with production. You could try a power pumping session once a day. But whatever you're doing, You're doing a great job Mom.
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u/Positive_Valuable_93 16h ago
Every time I refill the bottles with breast milk I get so paranoid that I’ll accidentally spill
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u/DJMOONPICKLES69 20h ago
I get it. Just had my baby solo over the weekend for the first time. The bag I thawed for her middle of the night meal apparently had a hole in it so she wouldn’t eat it. 5oz down the drain
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u/mrbeefynuts 17h ago
Sorry for the man question, but is it normal for baby bottles to be made from glass?
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u/gamepasscore 21h ago
dumb question from ignorant man incoming- What's the advantage of doing this over traditional breast feeding? is it just so you don't get bit
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u/jjazralii 21h ago
Not a dumb question. I don’t pump often thats why I don’t have a stash. I only breastfeed but today I found out he has thrush so I was told to pump and give it to him in a bottle and this is what happened . Now I have him on me trying to get what he can from me.
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u/its-just_me- 19h ago edited 17h ago
There’s really no reason to stop nursing just because baby has thrush.
Also being “empty” isn’t really a thing. Start nursing & they’ll get milk immediately. Babies remove the milk more efficiently than pumps anyways. Even if the pump can’t seem to get any more, baby generally still will afterwards.Downvoting for what since nobody can counter what I said? None of what I said isn’t true.
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u/Insanity147 17h ago
Hey, here’s a dumb man!
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u/its-just_me- 17h ago
I’m a woman currently on my second breastfeeding journey with a baby who had thrush just a couple months ago lmfao
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u/BroItsJesus 15h ago
Everything they said is correct lol. This is why we need more IBCLCs instead of misinformed doctors and nurses giving breastfeeding information
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u/WunnieBeexx 21h ago
Not a dumb question. Some babies cannot latch onto the nipple for a number of reasons and bottle feeding pumped breast milk allows them to still get the benefits from mums milk.
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u/favorable_vampire 20h ago
In the US, for example, in addition to what others have said, women are only guaranteed 6 weeks of unpaid leave after giving birth. Many women can’t afford to even take that 6 weeks off to physically recover, and lower income working mothers who want to provide breast milk often take on a huge additional burden by pumping because they are forced to return to work before it is reasonable for them to do so.
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u/RobinsonHuso12 14h ago
UNPAID?
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u/schmigglies 10h ago
Yes my entire leave was 12 weeks max, unpaid, for both of my kids.
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u/RobinsonHuso12 9h ago
Holy shit
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u/ermaecrhaelld 45m ago
Yepp. In America they just expect you to lick their taints because they don’t fire you for inconveniencing them so badly.
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u/ToastSpangler 5h ago
totally depends on your job. educated white collar job? nah you're getting paid, my company even gives paternity 8 weeks paid while our health insurance fucking sucks. otherwise, unless you're union (so northeast or big city west coast), you're shit out of luck, there is no legal mandate for it
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u/little-teatime 14h ago
Some companies offer paid leave but it varies some do not offer it at all
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u/ChingChangChui 20h ago
Man, the US sounds so awesome.
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u/uphigh_ontheside 18h ago
It is. That’s why we are spreading our freedom all over the world. Typically to oil producing nations first to unburden them from their oil.
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u/tomahawk66mtb 18h ago
Apparently the price of their "freedum" is to become a corporate wage slave.
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u/OrangeBird077 2h ago
Also, if women over produce they can freeze their excess milk and then their partner can feed the baby so they don’t have to do it every time.
Especially in the newborn trenches my wife and i would switch off so we could get solid sleep time. I can give the baby 2-3 bottles and she could sleep. Really important when you’re trying to get the baby back up to their birth weight so you don’t have yo feed every two hours.
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u/shinakohana 21h ago
Not a dumb question! I’d rather people ask questions than make bad or wrong assumptions.
There’s a couple of benefits. If mom wants a glass of wine that night, you can still safely feed baby from milk pumped prior. If mom gets sick and takes certain meds, she may need to pump and dump until she can safely breastfeed again. Could also give mom a break from being touched all day and give dad a chance to tag in and relieve some of mom’s load.
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u/its-just_me- 19h ago
Moms can have a glass of wine without needing to pump. Moms can still safely nurse their babies after a glass of wine (or more, for that matter).
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u/shinakohana 18h ago
From what I’ve understood from a decade ago, if you feel a buzz, it’s in the milk. When the buzz is gone, you’re safe to nurse again.
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u/Whyaremykneessore 20h ago
As a dad to feed your baby a bottle. Feeding a baby really develops the bond and it also gives your partner a break
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u/MeanNothing3932 20h ago
I did this one night. Felt so defeating BUT it got better. Hang in there mom.
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u/R3dnamrahc 20h ago
I also cried last time I spilled 4 ounces on the floor, but I think we were living very different lives
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u/flyingforfun3 21h ago
You ain’t gonna drink it? /j
Sorry man I get the frustration. That stuff is precious. I froze so much and remember having to toss out so much of it and feeling bad for the kiddos out there that go without.
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u/Sunset-onthe-Horizon 22h ago
This is why plastic was invented. If that had been a plastic bottle you'd be feeding your baby and not posting on reddit.
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u/shinakohana 21h ago
That came off a bit aggressive… Yeesh.
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u/CaDeCroBo_Luci 13h ago
This happened to me last week except it was a bottle of pumped milk I forgot to put in the refrigerator. I cried real tears and then forced my husband to drink it so it wouldn't be wasted (he was thrilled btw, apparently it tastes like almond milk)
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u/OhnnieWalkerJ 22h ago
It's ok to cry over this