r/dysautonomia • u/followmesamurai • 1h ago
Support My girlfriend of 2+ years abandoned me because of my condition. (looking for advice)
For the background I used to be a healthy person, and I exercised regularly for the past 8 years. Then one day I had unexplained fatigue and tachycardia after exercise(it was just different and I could feel something was wrong), rushed to the ER and all tests came back normal. After the same thing happened for the third time from just walking my hr shot from 100 to 150, I got really scared and thought something was happening to my heart. Since that day I can't function. Any slight physical activity like cooking or walking shoots my HR up. It is the worst in the morning, some morning are so bad I can't walk, I need to sit down, and some mornings my HR does not shoot up that high. However I feel very weak and can't tolerate physical activity, and I know if I try to exercise I will feel so sick that I am even afraid to try. I feel like my body has betrayed me. All this diet and exercise that I have been doing for years to stay healthy was useless. It has been going on for almost a month now.
This took mental toll on me. Prior to that I had health anxiety but nothing ever like this happened so I do not think it is anxiety. I know my body and I can feel something is happening. Multiple cardiologists told me there is nothing wrong with my heart and their conclusion was "autonomic dysfunction" or "exaggerated sympathetic system response". (because I did a stress test 7 days before the third tachycardia episode and the symptoms onset, after that I had echo and holter). This entire thing made me super anxious. I saw 5 different cardiologists and 3 different psychologists. I am also tired of going to the hospital multiple times a week.
So now I am depressed, I lost 2-3kg of weight, I can't work on my research and I constantly try to read and find the cause / solution. My girlfriend said my ER visits and anxiety give her a lot of pressure and she is tired of it. She also says she does not know how to support me. She told me she would want to stop communicating for a while. It is the third day of no contact and I really miss her, putting this on top of what I am dealing with is destroying me and I literally see no escape. I am not playing a victim but I feel like she left me in the time when I needed her the most, so I do not know what to think about it.