I'm a 15 year old trans guy. (FtM) And I came out to a lot of people as a trans guy but I keep getting misgendered (accident or not) by strangers, my friends, and my family (specifically my sisters). I can't really cut my hair that short because I might get grounded for a really long time like my sister when she got a bob. (The one with the long hair was a photo from last year. The ones with the semi-short hair are more recent photos and the dress is a dress for Homecoming.)

I get misgendered at work a lot by customers which makes sense because I don’t pass perfectly and I can’t bind because my shifts are too long. My problem is that I also get misgendered by one of my coworkers. I told her that I was a trans man when we first met but maybe she thought that meant mtf? I know she’s super catholic but her best friend is a gay man and she’s always been super nice to me other than the misgendering. I feel awkward about talking to her about it. :/

anyway, is there anything I can do to help me pass more at work and deal with this coworker? These are some pretty terrible pictures of me but I don’t really care

Edit: a lot of people are saying to just thug it out and bind at work. I CANNOT do that. I appreciate everyone’s advice but I already have some issues in my torso from past injuries.

Edit 2: wow wasn’t expecting this sub to be so harsh, but I guess I really needed a rude awakening like that if what y’all are saying is true! 😅 Thanks for the advice everyone!

ik i have feminine voice patterns (pitching up at the end of sentences instead of down) in this video, im still working on that

i dont mind if i sound young cuz i am 16

I am 26 starting a new job in November and I am considering going back to very short hair to pass better ( last picture for ref.) I have been on T for 6 months with little changes.

I passed 50% of the time with shorter hair. Now is a 40% if I wear a beanie / hat and 20% with hair down. I like my long hair but I see how cutting them would help me pass more.

Hello guys, a few questions id like to ask

1) I've been using a little razor to shave the minor amount of facial hair I get from testosterone for about a year now. My facial hair is far from impressive but if I leave it I do get a kind of shadow effect. I'm not sure if facial hair really suits my look, and so far I have been shaving it cause it's just kinda wispy/not very concentrated I personally prefer a kind barefaced/youthful "Kpop idols" look however I understand that's hard to pass with

2) I genuinely don't know what kind of hairstyle would look good on me. I don't hate this hairstyle. In the first picture, it's more recent and i trimmed a tiny bit of the framing locks that curve into the cheeks. I feel like I'm just trying to avoid the classic Asian bowl cut. I don't think I'll look good with my hair any shorter than this, but "long" men's haircuts make me feel too feminine

3) I've been on testosterone for two years now. Last December, it says my free testosterone is 619 pmol/l (google says in men it should be around 173.5 to 846.8 pmol/L)

I may be reading the lab values wrong (I'll ask my doctor) but I think it says my total Testosterone is 20.9 nmol/I which is over ten times higher than the recommended 2 nmol/I 😅

Overall my lab values seem okay so I don't think low testosterone is to be blamed. Should I continue waiting to see more results? I feel like I still look very much like a girl

Basically could I get away with longer hair, should I try to leave my facial hair out and is there anything else I can do

Getting new glasses next year, need help in getting some more masculine glasses

(and how it can help you too)

the title and subtitle are a bit tricky, bc I feel like this only applies to trans guys who are under 22😓

I’m 19, preT and have a surprisingly high amount of cispassing most of the time, even though I have a girl’s voice and a feminine face- here is me explaining my experience with it and how it might help you ask well.

when I first came out, cut my hair and decided to begin my social transition, I was faced with a slap in the face in terms of how people would treat me outside, I can’t deny the comfort and willingness to keep exploring it initially came from the opposing INVISIBILITY of going outside and finally feeling like I no longer had to keep a certain front or behavior of what was expected of me as a woman, however, more than feeling “safer outside” I felt safer inside, at home. I had to figure out a number of things and challenging conversations where I had to keep explaining myself to my family over and over again (just mom and sis) and each time I explained the definition was different and I kept facing a new thing I didn’t like about myself and discovering others that also helped me feel more like myself. it took a lot of sacrifice in terms of pride and safe-zone security, but lest to say, for the past few months, I’ve come to realized that I’ve earned my cispassing directly from my confidence in myself.

I don’t believe this is a universal requirement, but I can entirely tell you that in cisgender people, their gender isn’t once questioned when they’re confident in themselves and their behavior as a man or a woman (in a binary system) of course this is accompanied by gender conforming/role conforming or stereotypes and it helps, depending on the culture, but for me, a transman, a transguy, and also a guy who’s a teenager, the confidence in my voice, my stance(even though I carry double D’s) my opinions, my smile, they all end up “helping” me with cispassing.

Honestly I believe it’s because Im sure of who I am now, at least as a trans person, because who really knows themselves fully… if this sounds confusing, I’ll just try to reduce it to a few points.

• be confident, genuinely, you can’t force this and it’ll help if you define your style well and just let loose in acting how you’ve always wanted to or always felt right like you should’ve or always did when you were little, a boy

• deepen your voice, even if it’s preT, if you’re a teen it won’t even be too bad

• don’t be afraid to correct people, tell them you’re a man/boy/dude/guy

• ignore people when misgendered. this is the funniest one because if you really feel like yourself, then you won’t turn at names that don’t belong to you, if somebody calls out “Luna” and that’s not your name- why would you turn? Same thing applies to cis people’s logic, if somebody yells out “Hey lady in the yellow” and you’re not even a lady or wearing yellow, why turn?

using this logic, transphobes or ignorant people looking to fuck with you will realize you don’t care bc you didn’t hear them bc that’s not you, therefore will probably feel ashamed and think/realize they misgendered someone, even if they assume you’re cis after that.

• good binding and a good haircut (i feel like these are obvious, but JUST these two won’t get you cispassing, and no, it’s not face structure either look at me bro be so fr)

• be you :)) for trans men, specifically myself, being stupid, being loud, being nasty and being energetic and confident is what makes me feel like myself in my masculinity, even though a woman can be all of these things and not be transgender
You can’t beat dysphoria and gender identity tho, so I’m very sure im not a confused teen girl anymore loll

anyways thanks for reading gng, have a great day

ive been thinking alot about my style recently in relation to my transition, mostly my hair. its really how i feel most comfortable and me, and i do really like it and would deff miss it. but i also really feel like it makes people take me alot less serious as a transsexual.

but also my face and body and voice are just naturally very feminine so its not really like i can do much than im already doing. i usually dont get clocked unless i speak, but i feel like im extremely clockable. would a different haircut actually do anything…?

T is only a few years away so it might just be a waiting game

Saw a post from a few days ago of a guy posting his top surgery results, asking if there is anything he could do to improve the look of his chest. He had what lots of trans men would consider “ideal” results. No visible scars, well proportioned. His surgeon did an excellent job.

Comments were filled with people saying he is “ragebaiting” and “fishing for compliments”, asking him what he was even complaining about. He was getting downvoted to hell when trying to explain that he still experiences dysphoria, and that he lacks confidence and still has trouble going out shirtless.

Someone passing well does not invalidate their personal experience of dysphoria. I don’t understand how less passing trans men will actively begin to push out those who do pass well.

This is supposed to be a supportive community. How are people actively going to create a divide with their fellow trans brothers because they have results that they want? Why are people acting like passing well eliminates all dysphoria? Regardless of if he passes or not, he’s still trans. Us trans guys should have the understanding that sometimes we hold ourselves to unrealistic expectations in comparison with cis men, so why is he unable to express that just because he passes well?

Dysphoria can be lifelong for trans people, regardless of their passing ability. Instead of invalidating someone’s feelings of dysphoria and saying they’re “baiting”, maybe try to see where they’re coming from. Transitioning is a constant battle. People may feel like they personally have to continue to make changes, even if others don’t think so. It shouldn’t be his problem that you can’t fathom someone can continue to experience dysphoria when everything seemingly looks “perfect”. What is perfect for you may not be perfect for someone else.

After transitioning in 2016 at age 12 and being gender non conforming for years before, never have I EVER seen this kind of divide amongst trans men. I had top surgery with similar results as the person I’n referring to, and my chest dysphoria persisted for YEARS afterwards. People who pass well are just as valid as those who may not. We should be uplifting each other, not tearing others down. We know how tough it is to be trans. We face constant discrimination. And, as much as it sucks, it continues even when you begin to pass.

Do not begin to put conditions on being trans. It goes both ways.

So three hair cuts among men that are popular right now are taper fades, subtle mullets and a more flowy middle part.

The taper fade, its just as shown in picture pretty much, a classic cut with a typically messy fringe and faded side burns and neck. Both fades and hard lines are viewed as masculine, which is where this one works so well, with the faded nech and side burns and the hard lines around the ears and side of neck, a full fade can look softer and less masculine so combining them with the harder lines arounf the sides, is an easy way for any hair cut to read masculine. Its typically teenagers that get this

A subtle mullet, really is just a classic with shorter sides that can be tapered or left with a side burn. Its a good option of you present more alternative, its easy to maintain and the slightly longer neck helps elongate your head which reads more masculine.

Any type of middle part is a grey area, now I get why its so popular, its flowy and high class looking and looks effortless, but really its a high maintenance cut disguised as low maintenance, it really only suits thicker hair and with some form of wave imo.

It can also read very androgynous especially on younger guys, too long it gives pixie, too short just looks kinda akward, you need to hit that sweet spot and when you get it its important to go relatively often to get it touched up, no joke I have guys come in every 3-4 weeks to maintain this.

I rarely suggest this even to cis guys, only time I really suggest this is if they have a cowlick that gives no other option.

Crew cuts and buzz cuts are a great option, classic, easy, depending on how short you want you can really just get a clipper cut. Bit remember, you need shorter sides even with a buzz cut, the shaping will read a lot more masculine than just one guard all over, especially if youre going to grow it out.

Now a suggestion I see a lot are longer cuts, shags, mullets etc.

Being brutally honest here, if you want to pass, anything that covers the ears fully will look androgynous at best, i get that it shapes the face but the length will still not give masculine, unless you have other qualities that read masculine like beard growth, voice etc.

I get that men with long hair look awesome, (trust i want that cool long shaf myself) but even cis men with long hair get misgendered at times.

For styling at the most basic a paste, a light weight paste will work for most hairs, both gor messy and more neat looks. Start at the back a t the crown and work the product to the front at the fringe, this will distribute the product evenly and be longer lasting.

NB. Dont take anything I say as my way or the highway, if you have a cut that I wouldn't suggest but is happy wirh it, rock that shit!

I’m planning on using the locker room to start hitting the gym + just generally being shirtless more, would my scars be clocky? I am trying to lose weight and gain more chest muscle, but I’m not sure if its good now. For reference I am completely cis passing

I pass 95% of the time now but want to go stealth. Insane photo line up but gives range I guess. What would you do differently?

I like this length but I feel any longer or any shorter would tip me over the passing line and when that does happen I tend to just wear a hat. Feel like it’ll take a trim pretty often to keep it at this length too. Any advice what to do with hair? My hair is also naturally very straight so this is it permed, I like how it looks after the perm has grown out but this is like 2-3 months after I got the perm

Also curious as to if I pass okay as well

I (22M) have been on T for a year now and i’m passing about 50% of the time with strangers but at work some of my coworkers that know my pronouns still slip up sometimes :/. They’re all supportive and i work in a pretty accepting environment i’m just wondering if i can do anything else to pass better. I don’t bind at work so my chest is definitely visible and that could be it, but im not sure. I do have some facial hair but it’s just a neck beard and dirt stache so i shave it. It also may just be that I need to be more patient since I haven’t been on T for that long.

Showing with and without glasses to get an idea of where it should sit (also how the HELL DO YOU TAKE SERIOUS PICTURES GENUINELY??)
What should I ask for?

Hey, I've been on a T gel (23 mg/daily) for 8 months now. I had a high pitched girly voice back then. Even though I'm aware that the T effects take their time, for joining some online communities, I'd like to be seen as stealth. I wonder how feminine/androgynous/masculine does my voice sound. And if it leans more masculine, how old (for a cis man) could I pass as?

Thanks for your time, guys (yeah, kinda random voice record)

Tldr: If I were a cis man, how old would I sound?

Hi everyone, I'm pre-everything and have the absolute worst hip and ass dysphoria ever. Does anyone have any advice on how to dress to try to combat it? At the moment, I mostly wear black cargos to try to make my ass look smaller and square out my legs, and a thick hoodie/sweatshirt with a jacket on top to try to bulk out my shoulders so my hips look smaller in comparison, but I was wondering if anyone else had any advice. Absolutely anything would be appreciated, like what colours and styles work best. Any specific types of jackets to make my shoulders look bigger? Types of sweatshirts that don't dip inwards at the waist? Just anything to try to deal with it. Thank you in advance.

Recently got a haircut and I still don’t pass, anything helps

THIS IS NOT ABOUT MY HAIR COLOR. I AM GOING TO RE-DYE IT LATER TONIGHT, JUST HAD TO WAIT FOR THE PAYCHECK TO HIT BEFORE I COULD MAKE THAT HAPPEN

I'm a broke college student, so I usually cut my own hair. But, it's been messing with my dysphoria lately in terms of length, so I was considering going to a barber and getting a professional cut. Is it getting too long?

I feel that my transition with testosterone was of no use. I think I'm extremely feminine And it hurts me so much, because I see many guys with little time of use of T and they are already super hairy and masculine. Sorry for the english