It sounds quite bleak but it’s something I’ve noticed a lot lately, in other people and also in myself.
Many guys my age will probably struggle to find a job. If they do find one, chances are they won’t make much money. They will barely be able afford a car, let alone a house.
Not to mention, work is becoming a lot less about how hard you work or how capable you are, and more connections / people-skills based. Especially with AI and stuff. Obviously not a good thing for those who aren’t social butterflies, and don’t personally know a CEO.
It also seems that people in general are a lot more antisocial and superficial and living in their own bubble, compared to the past. So stuff like making new friends is harder. Even if you go outside.
I think it’s obvious that dating and being in a relationship is not a possibility for many guys these days. Not only are people unable to meet each other, but it’s also heavily discouraged for guys to approach women or express interest. Women don’t approach men (unless the man looks exceptionally good) so naturally most guys miss out on relationships. This (and apps) just makes a very shallow, skewed situation. Easily well over half of the guys I know (including myself) have never dated before. Can’t speak for myself but the other guys are interesting, respectful and for the most part, not even bad looking guys.
The reason why I’m talking about guys specifically is because the whole social, dating and belonging aspect is much more effortless for women. A lot of the other factors are still there, so it’s won’t be easy for anyone in general, but I guess it would be much less hopeless and empty.
It just seems like there isn’t much “purpose” for guys my age. There’s very little opportunity to earn a living for yourself, or do something meaningful, or have a family, or be part of a group etc. Obviously this is very different compared to the past or even what many were raised to anticipate. A lot of guys will be unfulfilled and just be stuck trying to fill a void. It looks almost dystopian so I wonder if this is real.